Just want sone tales to cheer me up really. I am feeling quite upset at the level of discomfort I still have 6 weeks down the line.
It hurts to sit, stand, walk, pee, and poo. That is pretty much everything I am doing then. It isn't the same pain. It varies. Some of the pain is a low level ache, some a throbbing pain, some a continuous soreness, some is sharp and stabby.
I had my baby almost 6 weeks ago, forcep birth, fairly easy forcep delivery as they go, but a HUUUUUGE episiotomy was performed. It extends right down to my arse cheek. You can see the end of it if I lie on my back and you look at my bum, without lifting my leg up. My GP has looked at it and confirms, yes it's huge. He couldn't find the top of it on an internal examination (to try and remove any non dissolved stitches to rule this out as a cause of the discomfort). It is lumpy both inside and out. Clothing (and bumcheek!) rub against the outside scarring, and it hurts. It doesn't feel stitched correctly truth be told.
When I wee, as I finish it hurts, a throbbing pain, in the urethral area. I have no urine infection, and having been a sufferer of them for years previously it isn't the kind of pain you would get with a UTI. When I open my bowels this also hurts the episiotomy area. It is like a pressure pain with stinging. I also bleed from the episiotomy almost every time I go. It is fresh red blood, then followed by an orange/pink discharge. I have checked time and time again for piles. No piles. It is 100% blood vaginally. The lochia tailed off around 3 weeks ago. I haven't been wearing pads since then. It only happens on opening bowels.
Now, this sounds strange, but one of the only things not to hurt, and in fact, do the opposite - give me some relief (!!) was when the GP examined me with a speculum. The stretching sensation gave a sense of relief. And so did sex, very gentle sex, the stretching sensation again made things feel better for about an hour after. There is no pain to touch the episiotomy inside or out. It seems that the pain is deeper almost?
I have no control of my pelvic floor. I can't stop mid flow. The sensation to urinate just isn't the same. I don't know if I need to go, or I really really need to go. It is just a dull feeling of needing to go, sometimes it's a smaller amount, sometimes it's a huge amount. I am struggling to do pelvic floors due to lack of sensation.
I'm fucked aren't I? I'm going to have to live with this the rest of my life, or if not this bad, I'm never going to go back to normal, am I?
Is anyone else in the same boat, or been through similar who can shed some light on this for me?
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It hurts to go the toilet (or do anything really) 6 weeks after having my baby! Help!
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TheDetective · 02/01/2013 23:55
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