NC as I don't want to out DD because of any over sharing I may have some over past weeks.
I don't know where to begin with all of this. DD is 15 and is now looking very thin. She doesn't want to talk to me about her problems (she would go to the school counsellor last term but I don't know if she said very much) but has said that she has an eating disorder. As far as I can tell it is about 'control' and she does it to make herself feel better.
Over the last couple of months she's been exercising a lot which we thought was a good thing, and a distraction, and an improvement from cutting herself which seemed to be happening less. However, she is becoming noticeably thin and I think she is being sick (from the food I find stuck in plug holes). In the last few days I've noticed she has been cutting down on evening meals and breakfast to the point of eating very little. She comes up with lots of excuses and wants to control every aspect of any food, has to eat from a certain bowl, will only eat half a small portion and often no carbohydrate. This morning she said she wanted to walk home after school (over a mile) and then walk into town and back (over 2 miles round trip) and turned down my offers of a lift. I have been trying so hard to give her as many of her own choices, I don't want to make her feel I am trying to control her if that's an issue but now it is looking like this illness is controlling her and by extension me and the rest of the family as well. She is looking so thin now, eating so little, and with evidence she might not be keeping down what we see her eating, I am getting really concerned for her welfare and don't know what to do. How bad does it have to get? What can I do?
In reply to her wanting to walk so far after school, I said I'd pick her up and she could walk into town later, and eventually she agreed. every new thing that comes along I feel so unequipped to deal with. I am starting to feel as though I have to help her protect herself from her own instincts, and make decisions for her as though she is a much younger child again. Sometimes this seems to be what she wants, sometimes that turns out to be just the wrong thing and she storms off and won't talk about it. I just want to help and I don't know how to.
I don't know how to help her out of this. She says she thinks she has put the cutting behind her, but that she will have an eating disorder for life. I am so scared that she will do herself some permanent damage or get to the point of fainting from malnutrition and needing serious medical intervention before anyone tells me what to do. What can I do to help her want to stop losing weight?
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Child mental health
DD and eating disorder, please help
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FloresCircumdati · 25/09/2013 14:13
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