Not sure this is right section to post this, it is long and complicated, so TIA if you manage to get to the end.
My DD(13) has T1 diabetes, and cataracts both diagnosed around two years ago - at the same time both her grandads died. She started at all girl grammar school the following September and struggled to make friends partly because she felt different and partly because she IS different (ie more mature, has to be responsible for diabetes, poor eyesight means SEN)
She has been seeing the councillor at her Diabetes clinic every 3 months and she was pleased with her. DD even went to weekend residential trip with school last May - loved it; 'my friend this, my other friend did that etc'
Then our 19yr old cat died - it may be overstating to say he was like a sibling to her, but she was devastated and really misses him - she has 'talked' to him several times since he died, and he gives her advice.
Seemed to be coming to terms with it, tho had some bad days, mostly due to problems with her eyes. Saw friends several times in summer holidays. Then one day went out with friends and ended up going to local park she didn't know - I thought it was a shopping trip. She had a 'hypo' (low blood sugar) which normally she could deal with but all her friends carried on playing their ball game and (she felt) did not support her or appreciate that she was having a problem. Ever since this she has fallen to pieces. Would resist going to school as didn't feel safe there, didn't want to spend time with friends out of school -'haven't got any friends' - became that she didn't feel safe anywhere without me, even at home. Started minor self harm. At end Sept I asked for referal to CAHMS but Doc wanted her to try school councillor first. School suggested this - therefore had to be in school to get coucilling. Still struggled to Oct half term - during which we went to London and trip was difficult for her as her eye problem means she can't see steps well.
O dear this is going on too long - EWO involved because lack of attendance, finally got referal to CAMHS (by Diabetes clinic councellor) - we have first appointment next week.
I feel DD needs time off school without worrying about them sending me to prison(!) - she is off at the moment as she has chicken pox - not sure school believe it, but is true.
Can/will CAMHS give her a 'sick note'? Or should I ask Doctor? I don't think Dr very likely to do so- very much a 'go to school at all costs' person - and school very sceptical about her depression - they think she is refusing school - as does Doc - but she sometimes can't leave house at all without me - just school is where she has to go when she leaves.
This whole situation comlicated by struggling with her eyesight and getting right help at school - we are all exhausted by this as a family and need a break from constantly having to fight with her school
Sorry for length of post, and rambling. If anyone has any suggestions I would be very grateful .
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Child mental health
Can I get my DD 'signed off' school for depression/anxiety, and who by?
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MeanMom · 01/03/2012 14:15
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