Hi,
Would be so grateful for ANY advice on this. My dad is an Old 61 - more like an 81 year old - failing health, chronic depression, very lonely since my mum divorced him. He lives in a little town at the other end of the country to me. He's not coping at all - drinking far too much, very isolated, and we're struggling too. I have a sibling in Oz and another sibling a bit closer to him, who keeps an eye on my mum. She has young children like I do, but I feel that it's only fair that I take on the bulk of care for my dad, as she will be there for my mum.
Dad lives in a housing association property, and is on benefits. No savings, no other income. My husband and I are agreed that we can't have him living WITH us, but we could cope if he were to move to a flat near where we are now ie move him 400 miles south. But housing people I've spoken to say if he goes on the housing list here (he would be eligible as we are the 'local connection') he has to be around to 'bid' on flats which come up. He's not fit enough to travel down, and we have no room for him to stay here. Apparently we can bid by proxy - which would really be the ideal solution. So we're stuck with him there and us here, and no idea what to do next.
Any ideas? I'm struggling. Thanks for any advice.
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KateMiddletonsEyebrows · 07/08/2011 23:02
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