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Advice for dd and behaviour of 'friend'

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unicorn · 22/08/2008 19:51

Please bear with me....dd is 9 - going into yr 5.
There is a girl in dd's class who is Miss popularity itself, and, if you aren't 'in' with her then you are nothing (in dd's eyes anyway).
DD has had an on-off relationship all year.

This summer she hasn't seen her, but just returned to read emails from her saying 'soz can't be your friend anymore'.. when she asked why she just replied 'just coz'.

Personally I think this girl is a bully, and gets a kick from power trips, and making other girls shun the ones who aren't 'in' (as she descides)

Dd is upset. I told her not to reply to any more emails if she receives them.. but it's not a good start to a new school year is it?

Should I leave it, or mention to the new teacher at the beginning of term?

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unicorn · 22/08/2008 20:50

anyone any words of wisdom?

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christywhisty · 22/08/2008 23:34

My DD had a problem with a girl like this although they were only Year 3 or 4. This girl dictated who could play etc and dd often got left out and it is definintely a form of bullying. I did tell the teacher at parent evening and things did improve.
They are now going onto Year 6 in September, this little girl has completely changed and they are now best friends in a really nice way, not little girl bitchiness at all.
I would have a word with the teacher so at least she knows what's going on.

Also DS's "friends" got into serious trouble in YR7 for online bullying, some schools take it very seriously even if it's done out of school.

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gagarin · 22/08/2008 23:39

print off the emails and pop them through her door in an envelope addressed to her mum!

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streakybacon · 24/08/2008 07:38

I think you should encourage your daughter not to reply to the girl's emails and accept the end of the 'friendship'. The girl is being manipulative and aiming for your daughter to beg for her to like her. It's a power trip but your daughter holds all the cards.

You could also get her a copy of Bullies Bigmouths and So Called Friends (there's a pink version for girls , which she might find useful to help deal with fluctuating relationships. It's an ace book, really helps.

Good luck.