"beebles"

DS calls it "uhguh", mercifully unrecognisable in public. I'm sooooo glad he doesn't call it/them "boobies" or something.

(Yeah, yeah, I know it shouldn't matter anyway.....)

My DD B/F until over 3. Personally I was thoroughly fed up with it..it was only at night, but in the end I said to her..I'm getting really fed up with having to give you beebles (her name for them!!) all the time, and she said..why do you give them to me then..so I said, ok we'll stop!..and we did..and it was great.
Now DS 2.8 is feeding at night still and doesn't have the same language capabilities so no comprehensive conversation can take place. I would love to stop and hopefully will find a fairly untraumatic time over the next few months to do so..then you will see me skipping off into the hills singing merrily like some 11 stone, brunette Julie Andrews.

I know (I was always being told off at school and by a friends mum who was particularly hot on grammar even out of school) just my inner pedant talking.
Maybe you should becamoe a BF counsellour and start your own group?
I'm afraid I have no other suggestions.

Yes I know that thank you WotMania, but actually colloquially that's how we say it round here.

Actually it's not a LLL but a local AP/bf group.

I am a bit discouraged with them because I have been to several meetings where mothers are at their wits end with their children and are just told to soldier on regardless and not to be selfish (implied obv.)

Jamais (you are missing a 'ne') - if it is LLL the leader will be able to tell you about weaning and help you even if that isn't what she has done personally.
Also there will usually be someone who can help

I am part of a local bf group but the leader recently said that she fed her last child til 7.

don't think she's going to help me with weaning.

Everyone was a bit shocked I had night-weaned (well tried) DS2 at about 18mths.

Do you have a LLL meeting near you you could get to?
Even if no one else has been through this they shold have 'how weaning happens' or something similar in their library.
Or 'Mothering your Nursing Toddler' which might help you decide what you want to do?

Oh mawbroon, you have it exactly. In the middle of the night when he's been at it for what seems like hours (probably 20 mins really!)I want it to stop once and for all, but I don't mind the bedtime feed and the odd one in the day.

And sometimes it's lovely to be so close.

I just don't know.

I suppose I'm beginning to wonder whether if I leave it entirely to him I'm going to have one of those hulking great bf 7-year-olds, like in that documentary!

boyraiser - it sounds like your son was probably pretty ready to wean and just needed a helping hand.

I think lots of them are like that, but I know for sure that my ds wouldn't have bought it!!!

How are you getting on Cadelaide? Are you looking to stop completely? Maybe you don't know even! I completely understand when you say it's complicated. I want my ds to wean, but I don't - all at the same time!!

Hmm.

DS2 is coming up for 3 (Jan) and showing no signs of self-weaning, despite:

-me having gone back to work when he was 3.5mths

-me having gone away 3 times for a week in the last 3 years

We have tried the "big boy" tactic but he just ignores.

I am not unhappy about the situation because it's only max. 2 feeds a day (one in bed in the morning 1st thing, 1 when I get in from work).

But I don't know how I'll feel once he's three (want to ditch the dummy then too).