breasfeeding in public

(45 Posts)
lillian13 Sat 07-Apr-12 22:58:29

I am currently breastfeeding my 3 month old daughter which i love doing but i hate feeding her in public places. I am trying to find corners to hide in or i struggle to hide my breast under my babys blanket which is ridiculus for me and baby.
Please does anyone have any helpful tips for me to feed discreetly in public.
I know breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world and i shouldnt be ashamed, but i just cant help feeling like this.

ShowMethePony Mon 09-Apr-12 22:27:52

Breastfeeding support groups especially like La Leche are not just about getting that baby onto your breast, its about all aspects of breastfeeding like feeding in public, how to parent older children while feeding, sleep issues, how it can affect your relationships with your partner or mother, anything really.

They are also for making friends with other people who are in the same situation as you, same way you might start going to an evening class to meet people to go have coffee with.

Glad you've got it sussed grin

One more bit of reassurance, when DS was smaller I went out for lunch with friends. I was feeding him at table so not eating. Friend finished her food, reached out for DS and said "here, I'll take over with him, you eat your food"

While I was busy spluttering food all over the table & giving the hmm face, DP was laughing his head off. She hasn't realised I was BFing, I thought she was offering to feed him!

Springforward Mon 09-Apr-12 23:03:53

I had some brilliant bf vests that were like a normal spaghetti strap top, but they stopped at your bra strap/ band - I found them perfect for the vest/ loose top combo, think company might have been called rooti tooti?

H&M did good crossover tops with easy access to boob but I would suggest were better for D cup ish or below.

PatronSaintOfDucks Tue 10-Apr-12 12:15:51

As advised - loose-ish top plus a tight-ish vest underneath. Plus I found that cardigans (fleeces, etc, - anything that opens in the front and then flaps on the sides) was the easiest and the most effective way to cover up. Baby's head together with boob can be very effectively hidden under one flap, but there is still air access for baby to breath, and also no faffing around with putting special things on/taking them off.

I've never encountered any negative attitudes during my extensive public boobfeeding career. While there was an odd invariably middle-aged guy trying to leer at a distance, anybody who actually noticed that I was feeding either did not bat an eyelid or gave me smiles. So go forth without fear!

Springforward Tue 10-Apr-12 21:00:34

Patronsaint that reminds me, the only time I got that kind of attention, his wife noticed and tore him to shreds grin which made me feel MUCH better!

mrsred Wed 11-Apr-12 06:01:44

Just thought i would add, i bought a few nursing tops from H&M, they have a clever system which means the top of your boob stays covered and you can get bra undone unerneath top without sitting there exposed.

I felt exactly the same as you to begin with but grew in confidence, and as others have said, when people glance in your direction its probably because its lovely to see a baby, especially a very happy feeding one, and of course many people sitting in that cafe with you will also have fed a baby or had a wife who has, so can fully empathise!

lillian13 Wed 11-Apr-12 20:17:45

thank you, that is true, no more sressing, im starting to feel alot more condident with the whole thing now. A man did actually tell me today how amazing breast feeding is, he was a friend of the family but made me feel proud to be doing it.

hmo2b Wed 11-Apr-12 20:32:24

I have recently bought these vests called breast vests, which are essentially camisole tops but without the bit that goes over your bra. The idea being that you wear your nursing bra and this vest together (the vest sits just under your bra) and it allows you to wear any top over it so that you don't expose your belly and other bits when you lift your top. Here is a link as I don't think I have explained very well www.breastvest.co.uk/
I can't recommend these enough. I also wear scarves as they help a bit too.
I can totally understand where you are coming from as my son is 9 weeks and I am only just gaining confidence...and he is my third child!

thegingerone Wed 02-May-12 21:32:25

i've got a very large collection of New Look spagetti strap tops £2.50 i think! means all my tops are breast feeding friendly by pulling the vest down under bra line.bought a size bigger than i am. i have found that most people seem to want to make a point of encouraging me when i boobpop. those who actually notice that is.
when i started bfing my mates and i used to sit at the back of the cafe and feed on mass. i realised this week that i must be gaining in confidence when i plonked myself down at the table next to till and just fed dd as everyone who wanted coffee and cake that lunchtime queued next to me!!

missdeelite Wed 02-May-12 21:53:19

Great advice here, took me til my 3rd DS to cotton on to the vest trick, works a treat!!! I like light jumpers and wrap around dresses, also have one or two specialist bf tops if I know that have to do a lot of alfresco feeds - mainly as it can be darn cold!

As I have 2 older children I am inevitably running around, squeezing in bf for my 5 month old here there and everywhere - parks, museums,restaurants I'm wapping them out, and flying the flag!!! In a fairly low key Anglican Church recently I was in the creche and a Mum said would I like communion? I said ok, and the (male) vicar came and gave it to me mid feed!!! (like they go to the old or infirm who can't walk up to the altar!) That has to be my strangest bf moment - but exactly how it should be! Was so nice that me and babe were not just welcome but included.

Oooh, what a good thread.

I'm feeding ds2 (8 weeks) at the moment and do struggle to feed discreetly in public. I'm not overly bothered by the idea of it but I have enormo-boobs (K cup) so it's practically impossible to do it without exposing vast amounts of boob flesh.

I love the idea of those breastvests. I struggle with normal bf tops as they're too tight around my boob when they're 'open' so press in and cause blocked ducts. Also the vest trick doesn't work because I can't get a vest with enough stretch to pull under my boobages (again it results in material pressing in and blocked ducts). At least the breastvests would cover my wibbly wobbly belly.

The bit I can't work out how to cover is the side of my boob (which is so expansive it practically has its own postcode blush). I'm trying to remember to wear a cardi when I go out or I try to sit at the end of a sofa or something so the furniture hides me a bit.

It ain't easy though - I have a number of practical issues around feeding out and about to do with supporting the boob too.

Sorry - I'm rambling now, and hijacking the OPs thread. Just wanted to say what a good thread and I'm reading with interest for more ideas grin

missdeelite Wed 02-May-12 22:23:02

Biscuits try a muslin draped over any exposed flesh at the side. My boobs are titchy so can't relate from same problem but these are nice and light to drape around different areas! My babe hated having things over his head (fair enough) so would just cover around the sides.

Yes - I don't like to cover over ds2's head either. Otherwise one of those poncho type covers would work. Also because he's still wee he can't latch on himself yet so I need more access.

I tend to have a muslin on my knee to catch any drips / leaks and then I tuck the edge of it up under my jumper to cover up the side angle. So it kind it works so far. Do like the breast best idea though for my .

I've actually fed a couple of times in front of my Dad when we've been out and I never did that last time. And I just check with my Mum that I'm being discreet if she's there grin

RachelWalsh Wed 02-May-12 22:41:53

Bump bands like people wear in pregnancy can be a good alternative to vests if that's not working for you Biscuits- I kept using mine after my ds1 was born to cover up my postnatal tummy (just pulled up to under bra rather than how you would wear them while pregnant)when bfing. I don't have any this time but I'll probably just do the vest thing.

fapl Thu 03-May-12 00:00:40

If you have the right clothes that don't expose much people don't know you are feeding. The funniest one was I had to stop in an English Heritage property as my ds was screaming the house down. An old man came over and was asking me his name and loads about him and was really peering in to have a look when my DS popped his head up for a look around and the old man realised what was going on, he made a quick dash away grin I was more embarrassed for him than me.

I 2nd a breastvest. It is more expensive than a cheap stretchy vest but less excess fabric to grapple with.

Lovepjs Sun 06-May-12 13:59:06

Mother care have feeding rooms as do debenhams. I always managed trips out around these stores. Serephine have lovely clothes I bought a breast feeding shawl expensive but worth it as I could wear it over anything.

Lovepjs Sun 06-May-12 13:59:14

Mother care have feeding rooms as do debenhams. I always managed trips out around these stores. Serephine have lovely clothes I bought a breast feeding shawl expensive but worth it as I could wear it over anything.

Poppystar1 Sun 06-May-12 23:01:19

I can remember feeling so nervous about feeding in public in the beginning. My DD hated anything over her head so the floaty top thing wasn't an option. I just wore dresses or low v tops that I could just pull down enough to hoist a boob out of the top of (though maybe this only worked for me because my boobs are small, even when BF). Before starting I would loop one corner of a muslin in my bra strap, undo the nursing clip with boob all covered by the muslin, then get her in place and do the hoisting out bit! Sounds a faff but it is honestly so quick and easy once you've done it two or three times, and it meant that I never flashed anyone (as far as I know)! Also, I would agree with the advice to find BF friendly cafes - it really helps, especially in the first few weeks when you still feel a bit conspicuous.

Pozzled Sun 06-May-12 23:16:16

Some good advice on here. The vest & floaty top combo really works for me.

I also agree with going to some bfing groups, or just mother and baby groups- you'll often see people bfing there and I found that seeing other people do it made it seem much more normal. It gave me a lot more confidence. Before having DD1 I hadn't been around babies much and had rarely seen bfing- or so I thought. I now realize I'd probably seen it loads of times without realizing!

TheSoggyBunny Sun 06-May-12 23:27:17

IKEA is a good place to build up confidence once you have the right clothes. Very bf friendly. Start with A nice private feeding room, then a sectiond off bit of the main cafe. then just feed in the main cafe. (and apologies to the poor lad who was clearing tables. He approached just as dd decided to unlatch and pull away, the chap got a right eyeful of boob, and a nice spray of warm milk)

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