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I love Glosswitch. Just thought I'd get that in before anyone else did Will read the post now <serious head on>

The antidote to that awful Wyatt piece.

Agree with every word Glosswitch.

Seconds AA.

Spot on as usual Glosswitch. I found the article by Wyatt such sad reading. It was very difficult just to get past the Olivier anecdote (what a creep).

The whole Eve tempted Adam bit to justify men's behaviour is like basing your morals on a Disney story. So many excuses for the loser's men's behaviour.

I find all these "I was groped and I survived it unharmed" stories very bizarre. They have the opposite effect to what they intend because it just reads like a list of opportunistic abuse of power by dirty old dinosaur perves.

It's kind of gross. The thought of those old leches salivating at the thought of a "ripe" young girl. I feel sorry for her for thinking it's normal. Her dad seems to blame, not protecting her.

GW is right. Girls growing up are caught between disapproving puritans and pervy vultures. And made to feel that any sexual desire or agency justifies them being presented as Eve-like temptresses. Just let them grow up at their own pace FFS.

I think it's time to post this again http://weekwoman.wordpress.com/2012/12/18/a-predatory-teenage-girl-speaks-out/

It's from the last round of teenage girls bewitch the poor adult menz articles after Savile. It would do Petronella well to realise she was much more protected than many teenage girls ever will be.

That article is heartbreaking. What is it in our culture that sets young girls up to be so in awe of older men that they need their approval for validation? I remember as a teenager not knowing if I was saying yes because I wanted to or because I didn't want to disappoint / be accused of being a tease. It's so complicated.

I wonder what Woodrow would have thought if it was Savile who was molesting his daughter?

I bet he wouldn't have been as enthusiastic, what with him being so lower class.

PW is roughly the same age as me. I think those were very different times and men did behave like that towards young girls. I am not sure that I knew many of these teenage nymphets/femmes fatales who were predatory. Maybe she was but then she has form with BoJo amongst others!

Brilliant post from Glosswitch. I haven't read PW's original article because I have a policy of never clicking on Daily Wail links, but I can fill in the blanks easily enough. Depressing.

I was going to namechange for this, but actually why should I? When I was 13 I had a crush on a man three times my age. I flirted, tested my powers of seduction, pushed to see if I could get his attention and make something happen. Something did happen. Thankfully it was only kissing and minor groping, but it still should not have happened. The interesting thing, though, is that it's only recently that I've realised how much it wasn't right and normal, that it was in fact his responsibility to behave appropriately because I was still a child. I thought that because I'd wanted it, it was ok. I thought of it as empowering fgs. What does that say about prevalent attitudes about teenage girl sexuality and older men?

I felt a bit sorry for Petronella when I read that article. She clearly wasn't properly looked after by her father. I can't imagine a normal man being amused by his friends making passes at his teenage daughter. Most men would be fucking livid and horrified.

And she's obviously internalised those values as a means of self-defence. Poor woman. She clearly believes that once girl-children have breasts, they have the responsibility for managing male adult sexuality in a way that those adult males don't themselves have.

It's so sad.

This bit from Glosswitch was spot on: "She doesn't seem to believe that girls can be given the time and space to grow up with positive attitudes towards themselves as active sexual beings, nor that men can have enough respect for themselves and others not to prey on those who won't be sure how to respond to them. What a grim view of humanity! And I thought sex was meant to be fun."

That article gave me the creeps yesterday, Glosswitch has it absolutely nailed, a brilliant piece from her.

Glosswitch

Very good piece of writing.

On the one hand it's tempting to say who cares what a dickhead like Wyatt thinks; but then I think of some of the appalling cases we have seen recently of exploitation of teenagers, very often justified by perpetrators and those who failed to act on grounds similar to those advanced in Wyatt's article, and I want to slap her silly face.

That PW article is . She has a scarily warped view, as did her pa, by the sounds of things. Does anyone else think she makes it sound like her dad was grooming her?

Glosswitch's blog is great

The really sad thing about the whole article is that PW was groomed by her father to accept sexual advances from his rich and famous friends......and she doesn't even realise it.
As a survivor of sexual abuse as a teen....(and yes Petronella, I have NO problems with realising it was abuse) the article made me feel sick quite frankly.
I was not a "teenage temptress", I was a teenager over whom the man in question had some power....pretty much like your father and his rich pals did over you.

Great article. Weird that teenage girls are ascribed any power at all, because of course they really don't have any in the normal course of their lives, let alone when meeting powerful older men. I flirted with my father's friends and business colleagues as a teen (hell I flirted with my dad) but I would have been scared stiff if any of them had seriously responded. Surely one of the reasons why girls do that is because they perceive themselves to be safe? Teenage girls should be totally and utterly off limit to anyone other than teenage boys IMO, regardless of how pretty/ sexual/ available they are.

I also have to admit I like the reference to Morten Harket - always nice to know you are of the same generation as someone you like/agree with.

What a revolting article by PW. It certainly gives some perspective on why she would consider BoJo <boak>

Of course it feels to PW that she had power but I think it's more likely she was benefiting from her father's "protection" in dealing with this odious crew. She was able to set limits on the encounters she had. I wonder how she would have fared if she did not have an influential father behind her.

Poor Petronella, effectively being encouraged to drink and then 'pimped out' by her father for his rich friends to grope, and she now thinks it's all perfectly normal.

That's not to say I agree with PW at all by the way - Glosswitch's piece is excellent.

The author of the DM article might have felt differently about her childhood had it not been famous people getting her drunk and sitting her on their laps. Imagine if she had to substitute 'Laurence Olivier' for 'Brian from the local garage' leching over her, cheered on by her father.
I suspect she is only letting the men off because they are rich and famous. Then it can be written off as glamorous rather than seedy.

Agree with flisspaps and Glosswitch blog post. sad that daily mail writer seems to think her treatment by these men as ok and felt sorry for them!

This is all sadly a part of the same culture that led police and social services in Rochdale to think that teenage girls' disgusting sexual abuse by older men was a 'lifestyle choice'. Because they're little femme fatales, all up for it. Bleurgh, revolting.