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What do you call your daughter's private parts? pom pom, fanny, frou frou?

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e11ie5 Thu 29-Nov-12 13:27:59

serious question ... I've been pondering it for a while only to find that the Telegraph has a piece on the very matter as well ... so far people have suggested pom pom, frou frou, bits, Mary ... and fronthind ... any thoughts!! I've written about the matter here
http://crazypregnantperson.wordpress.com/2012/11/29/by-any-other-name/

BikeRunSki Brazil Sun 02-Dec-12 16:53:51

Wilma
It's female Willy.

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digerd Sun 02-Dec-12 16:34:52

ps.
That's a strange diagram, with a very short drooping vulva ??

digerd Sun 02-Dec-12 16:30:46

My sil's auntie, who had 5 daughters, called it their fairy - on similar lines to the venus butterfly. The wings are the lips and clitoris the body . Vagina is the conception/ birth canal and can't be seen when looking down or from the front as is underneath, below the urethra.
I didn't know anything about a vigina till I was 10 years old and learned where babies come from.

quietlysuggests Sun 02-Dec-12 15:35:14

Addicted, Vagina is the internal or inside bit. It is the part that connects the uterus (womb) to the outside. It is not a wide open ready and waiting tube like thing, but more a soft structured passage way.

The vulva is the parts that are on the outside. It includes the labia (the lips) the clitorus and the part that is the very start of the vagina and urethra. So if you stand in front of a mirror what you see is your vulva. If you were to hold your labia apart then everything you would be looking at would still be called your vulva. If a doctor took a speculum and looked inside she would be looking into your vagina.

Its very similar to Mouth meaning lips, gums, teeth, tongue.
But oesophagus meaning the tube that connects the mouth to the stomach.
Its as though everyone goes round calling their mouth their oesophagus! Its bonkers.
But well done for asking.

addictedismoving Sun 02-Dec-12 15:27:02

Thank-you bytheway

ByTheWay1 Sun 02-Dec-12 15:09:44

A simple - and non embarrassing diagram with explanation

www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/f/female-pelvis/

addictedismoving Sun 02-Dec-12 15:02:40

OK, I need to ask a question. As a grown up 25yo woman with 2young girls, I need to ask, its not a vagina? Really? I mean really? Whats a vulva? I think I know what a clitoris is, but really thought it was a vagina.

I was the daughter of a mum with 7 brothers, my grandma wouldn't even say the word bra as it was too rude! My mum was better but got embarrissed and thought I was wrong when I said the word crotch (girls don't have a crotch apparently!). I always said I would be better and use correct names and now I find out my vagina isn't actually a vagina?! Wtf is it?

quietlysuggests Sun 02-Dec-12 14:54:53

Yes I am a doctor and the inside of my cheek is raw with biting it with all this fluffy nonsense and inaccurate vaginas!
It is a bugbear of mine. It is a sign of getting old I know, that I even care. But it is rare to find a woman in her 20s who actually knows what vulva and vagina mean. And this is the "girl power" shag around, we want sex as much as the next man oh so liberated porn generation.
And they cannot refer to it in an adult way.
They are no further along than the feminists in the 60s looking at themselves with hand mirrors. They just have more sex, less guilt, more disease, less respect.

ByTheWay1 Fri 30-Nov-12 15:24:47

p.s. I'm a dinner lady and some of the names the kids come out with are cutesy or incomprehensible or downright shocking - the C word coming from a 4 year old - anybody.....

ByTheWay1 Fri 30-Nov-12 15:22:21

We just call them girl bits and boy bits - I don't expect a full anatomical breakdown on whether they feel sore on their labia/vulva/perineum or vagina - girl bits will do just fine...

And it also is fine for school too - If Joe - say (I don't know a Joe....)- was kicking about in the playground - Joe hurt my flower sounds daft- Joe hurt my girl bits sounds accurate - Joe hurt my vagina sounds pervy...

3b1g Fri 30-Nov-12 15:20:50

Although I do get the point that 'vagina' is better than 'tuppence', especially if your DD then has a girl called Tuppence in her class.

3b1g Fri 30-Nov-12 15:09:10

Not comparable, as your elbow and wrist are part of your arm. It's more like saying that your rectum hurts when you mean your anus.

BeatTheClock Fri 30-Nov-12 15:04:57

Blimey quietly are you a doctor? I'd be scared to go and see you, you sound like you might hand out lines.

Ok it's not 100% right but it gets the convo round to the right area and at least it is a real medically understood word.

It's like saying my arm hurts, instead of more specifically my elbow or wrist.

Spero Fri 30-Nov-12 14:51:45

It wasn't until about this time last year that I, a highly educated professional in her forties, realised the distinction between 'vagina' and 'vulva', thanks to Jezebel.com. I think I am part of this horrific legacy of tweetastic fluffy avoidance nomenclature.

Ps we 'did' only frogs and flowers in school biology.

cartblanche Fri 30-Nov-12 14:02:35

Labia and sometimes "bits" if I'm feeling a bit coy (stupid I know). I've explained that she also has a vagina where a baby can come out (and then have to explain that neither she nor her brother came out that way!) Haven't yet explained its role in getting a baby in there in the first place (she's 5).

vulva and vagina although it comes out more as foofa and Jina when DD says it which suits me fine. She knows the names just can't say them properly yet.

AndiMac Fri 30-Nov-12 13:50:39

Yes, because it would be much better if she walked in and said she has an itchy frou frou. hmm

quietlysuggests Fri 30-Nov-12 13:46:05

"Vagina. It's not quite correct, but it's a word that would be acceptable and understood by anyone who needed to know, including a doctor. "

No no no and no
Its not correct.
It is in fact incorrect!
And it drives doctors mad to look at a woman, quite capable of having sex and having babies and talking about anything in the world, sit before you and announce that she has an itchy vagina.
It drives us mad.

Its a vulva people, say it with me, as Dora would say, Its a vulva!

WithTheDude Fri 30-Nov-12 13:31:50

Vulva, clitoris and vagina. I don't do twee.

3b1g Fri 30-Nov-12 12:54:58

Poor DS1 had some mild balanitis a few weeks ago. I gave him some fucidin cream and some instructions on what to do with it. After a couple of days, I needed to know whether it was clearing up, but didn't want to embarrass him in front of his siblings, so when I went into his room to say goodnight, I asked him how things were going 'downstairs'. He had no idea what I was talking about, and this led to one of those conversations at cross-purposes until it dawned on him that I was trying to subtly ask about his penis.

tethersend Fri 30-Nov-12 11:44:17

We're a house of fannies.

Spero Fri 30-Nov-12 11:39:32

Mrsmushroom - because sometimes she said 'front bottom', sometimes she said 'bum', sometimes 'bottom' and at one stage she said the man involved had 'three bottoms' and showed her. It did not help that the interviewer was all at sea and made it worse by inappropriate questions... but I can't help thinking if the little girl and known how to distinguish 'bottom' and 'vagina/vulva' things would have been a lot clearer a lot earlier on...

I suspect 'bottom' was just a catch all phrase for the entire pubic region, but you can see the confusion that can cause.

CheerfulYank Fri 30-Nov-12 10:38:52

I'm going to begin calling mine an Aunt Betsy now, Hully. "No thank you DH, Auntie Betsy is not receiving visitors this evening." grin

I don't know what I'll call it if I ever have a girl. Vulva probably? No idea. I call DS's penis a penis. He was quite amused to tell me "Papa (my dad) calls a penis a 'pee-winker'!" They'd been taking a sauna together when DS was staying at my parents and apparently my dad told him to "wash your pee-winker."

Of course, that's the man who told me not to say 'uterus' when I was about 16, so he's a bit uncomfortable with real words for anything vaguely below the belt.

DumSpiroSpero Fri 30-Nov-12 10:26:45

So she insisted on Noo Noo which apparently is the name of a vacuum cleaner in the teletubbies, which caused my daughter some distress and confusion in her formative years.

There's also a book about dummies called 'The Last Noo Noo'...confused!

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