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What do you call your daughter's private parts? pom pom, fanny, frou frou?

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e11ie5 Thu 29-Nov-12 13:27:59

serious question ... I've been pondering it for a while only to find that the Telegraph has a piece on the very matter as well ... so far people have suggested pom pom, frou frou, bits, Mary ... and fronthind ... any thoughts!! I've written about the matter here
http://crazypregnantperson.wordpress.com/2012/11/29/by-any-other-name/

cartblanche Fri 30-Nov-12 14:02:35

Labia and sometimes "bits" if I'm feeling a bit coy (stupid I know). I've explained that she also has a vagina where a baby can come out (and then have to explain that neither she nor her brother came out that way!) Haven't yet explained its role in getting a baby in there in the first place (she's 5).

Spero Fri 30-Nov-12 14:51:45

It wasn't until about this time last year that I, a highly educated professional in her forties, realised the distinction between 'vagina' and 'vulva', thanks to Jezebel.com. I think I am part of this horrific legacy of tweetastic fluffy avoidance nomenclature.

Ps we 'did' only frogs and flowers in school biology.

BeatTheClock Fri 30-Nov-12 15:04:57

Blimey quietly are you a doctor? I'd be scared to go and see you, you sound like you might hand out lines.

Ok it's not 100% right but it gets the convo round to the right area and at least it is a real medically understood word.

It's like saying my arm hurts, instead of more specifically my elbow or wrist.

3b1g Fri 30-Nov-12 15:09:10

Not comparable, as your elbow and wrist are part of your arm. It's more like saying that your rectum hurts when you mean your anus.

3b1g Fri 30-Nov-12 15:20:50

Although I do get the point that 'vagina' is better than 'tuppence', especially if your DD then has a girl called Tuppence in her class.

ByTheWay1 Fri 30-Nov-12 15:22:21

We just call them girl bits and boy bits - I don't expect a full anatomical breakdown on whether they feel sore on their labia/vulva/perineum or vagina - girl bits will do just fine...

And it also is fine for school too - If Joe - say (I don't know a Joe....)- was kicking about in the playground - Joe hurt my flower sounds daft- Joe hurt my girl bits sounds accurate - Joe hurt my vagina sounds pervy...

ByTheWay1 Fri 30-Nov-12 15:24:47

p.s. I'm a dinner lady and some of the names the kids come out with are cutesy or incomprehensible or downright shocking - the C word coming from a 4 year old - anybody.....

quietlysuggests Sun 02-Dec-12 14:54:53

Yes I am a doctor and the inside of my cheek is raw with biting it with all this fluffy nonsense and inaccurate vaginas!
It is a bugbear of mine. It is a sign of getting old I know, that I even care. But it is rare to find a woman in her 20s who actually knows what vulva and vagina mean. And this is the "girl power" shag around, we want sex as much as the next man oh so liberated porn generation.
And they cannot refer to it in an adult way.
They are no further along than the feminists in the 60s looking at themselves with hand mirrors. They just have more sex, less guilt, more disease, less respect.

addictedismoving Sun 02-Dec-12 15:02:40

OK, I need to ask a question. As a grown up 25yo woman with 2young girls, I need to ask, its not a vagina? Really? I mean really? Whats a vulva? I think I know what a clitoris is, but really thought it was a vagina.

I was the daughter of a mum with 7 brothers, my grandma wouldn't even say the word bra as it was too rude! My mum was better but got embarrissed and thought I was wrong when I said the word crotch (girls don't have a crotch apparently!). I always said I would be better and use correct names and now I find out my vagina isn't actually a vagina?! Wtf is it?

ByTheWay1 Sun 02-Dec-12 15:09:44

A simple - and non embarrassing diagram with explanation

www.cincinnatichildrens.org/health/f/female-pelvis/

addictedismoving Sun 02-Dec-12 15:27:02

Thank-you bytheway

quietlysuggests Sun 02-Dec-12 15:35:14

Addicted, Vagina is the internal or inside bit. It is the part that connects the uterus (womb) to the outside. It is not a wide open ready and waiting tube like thing, but more a soft structured passage way.

The vulva is the parts that are on the outside. It includes the labia (the lips) the clitorus and the part that is the very start of the vagina and urethra. So if you stand in front of a mirror what you see is your vulva. If you were to hold your labia apart then everything you would be looking at would still be called your vulva. If a doctor took a speculum and looked inside she would be looking into your vagina.

Its very similar to Mouth meaning lips, gums, teeth, tongue.
But oesophagus meaning the tube that connects the mouth to the stomach.
Its as though everyone goes round calling their mouth their oesophagus! Its bonkers.
But well done for asking.

digerd Sun 02-Dec-12 16:30:46

My sil's auntie, who had 5 daughters, called it their fairy - on similar lines to the venus butterfly. The wings are the lips and clitoris the body . Vagina is the conception/ birth canal and can't be seen when looking down or from the front as is underneath, below the urethra.
I didn't know anything about a vigina till I was 10 years old and learned where babies come from.

digerd Sun 02-Dec-12 16:34:52

ps.
That's a strange diagram, with a very short drooping vulva ??

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BikeRunSki Sun 02-Dec-12 16:53:51

Wilma
It's female Willy.

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