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Mumsnet Discussions: Bereavement : ten years ago today I lost my son. (17 messages)

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By sadnamechanger on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:23:11

No idea why I am posting but can't find a way to 'mark' it IYSWIM.

Only thing I do is every year on this day I do not eat a single thing. It is some kind of strange hommage to my lost boy.

By escape on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:26:00

snc - 10 years really is a landmark - you should mark it somehow - so don't feel strange about doing it here.
I am so sorry for your loss. Do you want to talk about your son tonight?
we'll listen.

By custardo on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:26:20

sorry for your loss, i can't even imagine it

i would sugest you start marking this day with something more than self flagulation
maybe something charitable, a fundraising.

By sadnamechanger on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:33:08

thank you for being kind. I didn't realise how much of a landmark 10yrs was until I started thinking about what he would be like now.

The not eating is - well a suppose a way of punishing my body for producing a boy that could not survive. I have never told anyone about it apart from on here now - for ten years has been a silent hommage.

By Hassled on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:35:45

I'm very very sorry - and yes, 10 years is significant somehow. I hope at 11 years you'll feel some peace and can mark the day some special way.

By watsthestory on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:36:18

So sorry you are going through this. Your son would not want you to punish yourself though. Try to be gentle on yourself and take care.

By Threadworrm on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:37:11

I'm so very sorry about your little boy. Don't punish yourself, though.

By Majeika on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:37:15

what can we do to help you? smile

Would you like to talk about him? What was his name and how old was he?

Talking can be very therapeutic.

<<hugs>>

By ClaireDeLoon on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:38:56

So very sorry for your loss. Please don't punish yourself, you haven't done anything wrong.

By Mhamai on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:39:25

I think by starting this thread, you have done something very powerful and strong today. I am so so orry for the loss of your son. x

By misselizabethbennet on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:41:35

So sorry you lost your son. I can't imagine the pain. Do you have a partner to share this with, or other family members? It is certainly a day worth marking in some way.

By Pinkchampagne on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:42:19

So sorry for the loss of your son.

By mamalovesmojitos on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:44:08

oh so sorry for the loss of your son. again, i echo other posters, please don't punish yourself.

By ScottishMummy on Sun 02-Nov-08 18:49:40

so sorry about your beautiful boy.harrowing to lose a child.try not dwell on self blame.you have suffered enough

By lingle on Mon 03-Nov-08 18:31:35

I love the idea of homage. Is there some small positive thing you could do for someone in his honour? So that he could continue to have an impact on the world?

By milge on Mon 03-Nov-08 18:32:59

I am so sorry for your loss. How old was he? What is his name?

By mumonthenet on Mon 03-Nov-08 22:13:54

sadnamechanger,

come and talk to us about your son.

so sorry for your loss sad

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