QuestionTime
Tue 31-Jan-12 17:35:16
Hi all.
Sat by my mums bedside watching her die. She has been in a coma for 6 days now and is nil by mouth. 6 short months ago she collapsed whilst cooking for a dinner party and was found to have 8 brain tumours.
Feel like my heart is breaking in two. She was my best friend and well as my mum, we would talk 3 or 4 times every day just to catch up. My dad is blind and absolutely lost without her so trying to be strong for him but I'm only 26 - feel too young to lose her.
Just can't bear sitting here looking at her like this. She was so alive and vibrant - even the doctors on their internal letters to each other said what an extraordinary person she is. Just can't believe she is dying - want to wake up from the nightmare.
everlong
Tue 31-Jan-12 17:39:32
I'm so sorry to read this. Your dear mum sounds like a lovely lady.
Have you got siblings and good friends to support you.
Wish I could say something of meaning to you but please know that I'm thinking of you xx
I am sorry to read this ,how heartbreaking for you.I can imagine your pain as i have recently lost my mum too.Im hoping that your mum is being kept pain free.Wishing you the strength to get through this awful time.
madasa
Wed 01-Feb-12 10:45:46
Sending you love and strength too x
DazR
Wed 01-Feb-12 19:03:32
You are in my thoughts - sending you hugs to support you in your anguish. I have now lost both parents - Dad really quickly and very unexpectedly and then Mum (with dementia) very slowly in a care home 18 months later. I was so distraught at the time and all my memories were of the last distressing times I spent with them. I was given some really good advice which was to picture each of them doing what they did best - Dad pottering in his greenhouse with his tomato plants and Mum cooking up a feast for the family in her kitchen. Now when I think of them these good memories come to the fore and I can concentrate on the wonderful times we shared together, the holidays, the companionship and all the times we spent together. It is a long road ahead but time does slowly heal. All the best to you and I hope you get the support you need to help you and your Dad in this time of sorrow. xxx
I am so sorry to hear about your wonderful mum.
I lost my mum 18 months ago - she died whilst I was holding her hand telling her how much I loved her and what a wonderful mum she was.
Wishing you lots of strength, I hope your mum has a peaceful passing and I hope you have some lovely people around you to help you and your dad cope. xxx
