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How do you stop dwelling on someone's death and having morbid thoughts?

I haven't slept in weeks. I feel ok most of the time during the day but at night my head starts racing. As a result I am knackered. So far I've managed to stop myself from completely freaking out and having a panic attack but the more tired I get the harder it is.

Cut yourself some slack. Everyone greives differently. Is there someone you can talk to about it? Sounds like you are blocking out dealing with it in the day and inevitably it comes back to haunt you at night. I would try to get to grips with what you are going through, some find comfort in the church, or through counselling.

dp has been great and i can.talk to him.

death freaks me out anyway but normally i can not think about it too much. but i keep coming back to the fact that my nan is not only dead but is now just a pile of ash which is what i'm really struggling with and i don't know why because its not like shes the only person i know who has died.

everyone has been great and supportive.

maybe it is just time it has only been a week since her funeral.

Time really does help. A cliche but true. She's not a pile of ash. She is everywhere around you, in your heart and in everything you do.

I would say it's normal to have what you call morbid thoughts so soon after the funeral - funerals certainly make me think about dead bodies and what happens to them. I'm guessing these thoughts will fade as time goes by. It's good that you have support from your DP and others ... and remember you can continue to post on here and there will always be someone around.

thank you.

i went to her house after the funeral and that made it worse seeing unused food/toilettries/etc. proably sonds weird.

i wouldnt say we were close so im confused as to why its hit me so hard. ive also been thinking about the gps i was closeto that died when i was a child and what ive missed by them not being here.

thank you again. its nice to know im not unusual. unfortunately im a thinker so over think things anyway.