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My beautiful sister is at the final stage of this horrid disease. She was diagnosed with ovarian cancer 3 years ago. It spread to her liver and bowel. She had a full hysterectomy and chemo but now the doctor says there's nothing more they can do.

She hasn't eaten for days. She has tubes coming out of her all over the place. She's so thin but her stomach is like a ball.

My parents think we'll still have her at Christmas, but I think we're looking at weeks here, at the most.

Today she was given a sedative and seemed very calm, happy even, and chatty. She talked about when she gets out we'll all go to this particular restaurant etc etc. The doctor said she won't be going home.

I don't really know why I'm posting this.

It's not looking good is it.

I am so sorry, Sweetandtender.

How incredibly painful to see your sister so sick, know that this is almost the end, try to sound convincing as she plans this dinner at the restaurant and even have a mad glimmer of hope that may be things will take a turn for the better...

I am wishing you and your parents a lot of strength. Hope your sister's suffering is blunted somewhat by the sedative and she can be almost her normal self during these weeks that she has left. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Very sorry to hear it, sweetandtender. It's not looking good no, but all you can do is nod and smile along with whatever your family choose to tell themselves, frustrating though it may be. They probably all know the "truth" (although it's a variable, she might still be around for Christmas although it sounds extremely doubtful)

Very sad for you all. It's a horrible thing to go through, from both sides of it.

I am very sorry, this must be a devastating time for you all.

You're right that it's not looking good for your sister. I think hope is important, though, it's very human to need to hope/ feel that there is a chance and perhaps it spurs people to keep going for as long as they can. Perhaps at a certain point in the progression of her illness, your sister will come to terms (as much as one can) with what is happening, and feel that she no longer wishes to suffer. In the meantime I would support her hope.

I'm sorry everyone in your family is going through such a painful time. I really hate cancer and cannot wait until there are better forms of detection and treatment for this disease. It is terrible to see loved ones suffer from it.

Oh my darling girl, how utterly dreadful for all of you

Sending you a lot of love and strength right now and for the coming months.

My gorgeous sister passed away over Christmas.

Thank you all for your kind messages.

So sorry for your loss. x

I'm so sorry. Thoughts with you.

So sorry to hear about your family's pain and loss over your sister's passing.

I'm so sorry - thinking of you xx

So very, very sorry.

Take care of yourself.

I am so sorry. So sorry I dont know how one copes with this.

I am in a similar situation as you were when you started this thread.

Different disease but similar symptons: thin with distended stomach (Liver failure caused by Hep C). She now has renal failure and her lung has collapsed. We think she only has a few days and I just dont know what to do. She lives about 3 hours from me,

So very sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you and your family x

Similar situation 6 yrs ago for me - sister had a duodenal ulcer and other complications - ICY for 6 months, then walked around looking 7 months pregnant for 2 years - succumbed Jan 30th...all so sad...