DS1 is 3.5 and DS2 is 5 months old. DS1 has always been quite a handful - we've struggled with sleep, separation anxiety, potty training, food etc etc. In fact every new thing has been a real struggle but we've got there eventually. Now that he has a brother he is insanely jealous and downright furious and I've run out of ideas for dealing with him. On an average day at the moment he is rude, angry and aggressive. Today he tipped his brother out of his chair, hit me several times, spat at me and hit a younger boy visitor who dared to play with his toys. We've tried the naughty corner but DS1 just laughs at us. We've tried time outs but he just asks for more time outs. We've tried the money pot thing where pennies are taken off him for bad behaviour but we just ran out of pennies after 2 days!
I feel that a lot of it is jealousy of his new brother. Some of it is frustration because his speech is quite poor (he is getting some therapy for this) but I'm beginning to wonder whether the problem is deeper rooted or even whether the problem lies with me and the way I handle him.
I feel utterly fed up and depressed and a failed mother. I don't know what to do with him. When he's not angry he's such a lovely, sociable little boy. But he's a very strong character and if this is a power struggle that we're having, I'm definitely losing!
Can anyone offer some advice? Better still, is there any organisation or "SuperNanny"-type help that can tell me what to do?
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Furious 3.5 yr old ds - no idea how to handle him anymore
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meemee · 01/06/2005 20:25
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