I remember this thread.
I actually reported some of her racist remarks.

Weirdo

She wants to find a playmate where the babies can visit each other unannounced and without going through the mothers diaries.

I'm not surprised she is getting the cold shoulder, who wants a friend like that?

I've just read it and I accept that they have different opinions to me. I am at her and feel sorry for Isabella.

I HAVE to look at the link although I don't want to.

If you look at her posting on the other site, she eventually seems to have a few issues with her own child-rearing philosophy and and hires an au-pair to help her, in spite of her extremely rude comments on this thread about childcare professionals. So hopefully she's a little less offensive now as far as that goes. One would hope so, anyway.

What I find interesting is that even most of those on that site thought she was OTT in her MN posting...

Who remembers this thread? Looks like the OP was not a troll. I've just been hunting for something else and stumbled across this

A fascinating insight into how some people parent. I don't think I'll be posting on there I'd be laughed off the board

I hope for her DCs sake that a play mate was found.

I suppose the OP never found a suitable playmate.

'I think a lot of mums here are angry and depressed, you are happy to channel your frustration onto someone other than your baby. Good for you!'
Erm does this mean we should channel our 'frustration' on to our babies? Is that what you do? Good for you!

Whoever suggested the Steiner school was spot on - go and mix with the rest of the smug loons - you'll soon be desperate for the 'aggressive, stressed out' environs of the playgroups once you get a taste of someone else's superiority complex.

ROFL at Miemie's only other post on MN where she was "worried people have stereotype about attachment parenting". Of course she hasn't stereotyped anyone on this thread and has come across as a nice, inclusive kind of person!

oh dear
Is this a record for the most people offended with the least amount of posts?
Go on OP, there are still some groups of people you haven't managed to alienate yet.

was wondering why this thread had so many replies, now i understand!!

our poor unloved babies, so stressed out and cold, us poor white mummies on ADs.

the reason Isabella has no playmates is because her mother is racist, rude and aggressive.

it is great to be confident in your own way of life but not to be so rude about every one else.

PMSL!

I suspect dear little Isabella is destined to be
a) a spoilt little brat
b) in for a huge shock at school (any school)

Lolol.

You are mental.

Your poor child.

How should one apply for the post of Isabella's playmate?

Will you be accepting CV's? Should we expect to go through a lengthy interview process?

I did once purchase a jar of baby food for little Tarquin, does that automatically exclude us from the selection process?

If that is how she views the UK, why did she have a child in this country?

She obviously detests life here as we are so "miserable, angry, depressed, hideously white, don't show our children any love etc."

wow , i too sadly think this is an appalingly racist op and not a troll.

good luck to your dc op, they are going to need it with you as a mother.

perhaps it would help you to go check out the many threads on here about poor and toxic mothers who have ruined their dc lives from childhood and into adulthood.

I wouldn't let my DC's anywhere near you and your racist toxic parenting.

Now fuck off.

I just wonder if she just came on here to voice her very offensive views under the guise of looking for a playmate for her baby?

She very quickly became offensive and her posts appeared to mainly be an attack on how she viewed parenting in the UK.

Not that I'm a betting person, but something tells me she won't be back posting under that name again!!

we live in a hideously white area, tis called the countryside.

Oh my god. What an offensive, racist woman. She may prectise gentle parenting, but certainly doesn't seem like a gentle person herself.
No wonder you have no friends.

"hideously white"!! Have reported you to Mumsnet for racism.

Poor kid!

Miemie you are very, very naive. We also do 'attachment/gentle/lentil-weavery parenting' and - - our toddlers have gone through aggressive phases. It's NORMAL and you are being naive to think that gentle parenting will mean you avoid any unpleasant phases in parenting.

Sorry if I sound patronising, but you sound rude and offensive and I'm not surprised you have few friends .

Either keep your opinions to yourself, or
learn a way to express them in a more gentle manner - it's a bit shocking to say the least that you don't treat everyone with the respect you feel is due to your DD.

What would have been the reaction to someone posting anything other than "hideously white"?

If you are genuine, I feel sorry for your dd, as she will no doubt grow up to be as narrow minded and nasty as you are.

I don't think you are going to get many offers of "friendship" somehow!

are you planning to keep her apart from other children her whole life? what about school etc? you sound very weird. What message does that give her about love and caring if you shut her away from everyone that doesn't agree with your parenting philosophy..

I know of the perfect playmate for your daughter and have included a picture of her new best friend

PMSL littlelamb, that is brilliant!

Miemie, piss off back to Hunsnet or wherever you came from - your attitudes stink.

trip trap troll or a very racist woman who should be thrown form the bridge.

LOVE it

Wow. I was giving you a chance to speak. I'm sorry I bothered. Glad you've had a chance to monitor every baby in the country - I didn't see those stats on the BBC . And I may be the only one to take offence at the term 'hideously white' but there it is. I'm offended. Your poor poor child because I'm telling you, with that attitude you are storing up far more problems for her in the future. I don't think I've ever met anyone on here so rude, offensive and deeply unpleasant.

Do us a favour and don't come back. And I wish your child the very best of luck because she is going to need it with you for a mother.

"hideously white" I find this utterly offensive, although that was probably the intention wasn't it?

Is it any wonder you are searching on the internet for playmates for your child? Yuck - you sound disgusting and totally off putting.

In fact I take it back
I have just gone to check on him and found him like this

god someone go
please
and report back

I must have missed the survey ds should have filled in to outline his depression. Shall I expect it in the post?

Lol Mieme if its so bad here....?

Jeez Miemie you are an utter loon.

No wonder you have to advertise for friends for your poor DD if thats how you speak to people.

I actually do think they are for real too, sadly.

I wish my children were more 'absorbent'. Maybe they wouldn't make so much mess then[wink[

I'm the same as J Fly

Hmm, yes, there is quite a big bridge halfway across Tooting Common, now you mention it...

Oh can I please please please please please?

Trip trap

lol at thread. The op has actually no idea what attachment parenting is. For one thing it's usually practised by tolerant people...

I know, staryeyed I was thinking it might be a wind up. But there's just a little hint of something that makes me think it's not. But I've been taken before.

oh come on guys! I have never called it before but come on......

To quote a famous tennis player, "you cannot be serious!" But I'm worried that you are totally serious.

I'm a little confused as to how you intend to benefit from your multiracial surroundings when you have dismissed all English mothers (or do you mean white mothers?) as angry and depressed, and their children as stressed and aggressive. But wait, I'm American, maybe I'm exempt from that judgement. No, I'm sure you'd have some interesting theories about American parenting.

Your DD is going to struggle finding playmates and friends if you carry on like this, and so will you. If you want what's best for her, then I'm afraid you need to stop judging everyone. Or, move to your own little compound somewhere and raise yourself a sociopath.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Message deleted by Mumsnet.

If you haven't made a friend with a suitable playdate for your dd at the appropriate mothers and toddlers group you already attend it might be worth thinking about the way you relate to others, if your manner here is anything to go by.

A lot of parents on MN ascribe to attachment parenting without seeing the need to be so rude.

I agree Bronze. Fuck off, Miemie.

oh fuck off

"The way you care for your children does not have any love, the children grow up being really cold, self-absorbent and stressed out.
"

Not many things on mn wind me up but you've just done it.

wow very strong opinions, just wondering what yu will do when she starts school and spends all day with these stressed out, uncared children. Is gentle parenting a word for spoilt brat?

Wow Miemie, way to make some friends!

'The way you care for your children does not have any love' is a huge generalisation. There are loving and unloving parents in every country, even yours I am sure.

I also don't think that breast and bottle feeding have got anything to do with how much you love your child.

I think you also got people's backs up with your comments about nannies and au pairs. There are lots of childcare professionals who subscribe to the same principles as you. DD's childminder is very supporting of breastfeeding, would never let her cry to sleep etc.

Good luck with your search for some perfect parents and children!

I have a baby and live in Tooting also. We go to lots of playgroups and my DS does not appear to be emotionally scarred or feral just yet.

I read this as the kid needing paypal

Where are you originally from Miemie?

Yes yes yes! I am strongly opinionated against the mainstream parenting in this country, leaving the baby in the pushchair, cry to sleep, bottle feeding, no wonder the english babies are the unhappiest in Europe, haven't you seen the news on the tele. And I am not suprised to see so many mums are on Anti-D and have PND! The way you care for your children does not have any love, the children grow up being really cold, self-absorbent and stressed out.

I go to mothers group where all the mothers practice attachment parenting. I do not want to socialise with anyone who cares for the children in the sterilised and clinical way because it upsets me and upsets Isabella even more to see the babies suffering like that!

If you see this statement is an attack towards the modern industrial way of parenting in west europe, then it is!

Not that I'd be any good. I'm coming off anti Ds and have PMT. No gentle parenting in this house at the moment. We'd scar poor Isabella for life

gotcha! I assumed she means attachment continuum type parenting, but good to check

Coppola even

No of course not Copploa x posted. I just meant I'd quite like to hear what the op means.

16mth would like to meet...
Lolaments.
Is this a joke? Vg if so. If serious, I fear living in Tooting is prob hampering poor Isabella's development, you need to move to somewhere posher immediately.
HTH

Chilren don't actually play together until they are about 3. Up until then they parallel play, which is tolerating someone who is doing his own thing within view.

Tolerance is a good thing to teach.

I'm not sure what "gentle parenting" is, but most of the play groups and other classes that I've been to in Wandsworth are full of very nice people with nice babies. Some play groups are quite busy, so if that's not your style, try a few more. IME all toddlers go through stages of "aggression" (hitting/biting, etc) but I wouldn't say that's necessarily down to the parent or carer. I certainly hope not, anyway, given my son's (15.5 months) tendency to bite me!

Maybe give yourself and other parents a break and get to know some local people. Then you will naturally find suitable playmates for your daughter.

I'm assuming that post wasn't in response to mine, eyeballs?

I have a friend perfect for you, but we live in manchester. Sorry

Ok let's lay off the attack. Is gentle parenting an actual approach? If so please explain it or explain what your approach is. <genuinely interested>

that's quite a blanket statement isn't it? - playgroups are full of stressed out aggressive children. Given that english is your second language, perhaps you don't realise how alienating your posts are.

anyway I'm sure there is a playgroup somewhere in sw london that meets your needs. Perhaps this one might be a place for you to meet like-minded parents

last.

I have a lovely 18 month old niece in Tooting Bec...but somehow OP, given your lat post, I suspect you wouldn't get on with my (lovely) SIL.

Haven't you got any friends with children?

Or are they all too common stressed out and aggressive for her to mix with as well?

oh dear lord.

LOL

I don't really like the playgroups as I prefer isabella to hang out with babies who are gently cared for. Playgroups are full of stressed out babies with agressive behaviours. they are usually cared for by nannies and au pairs who just leave them to cry or threathen them all the time.

Have you tired local playgroups, my friend used to live in tooting and she was always going to playgroups in the mornings around tooting. Your DD could meet playmates there? My DS loves going to the playgroups round us. Hope that helps

Hi Mums,

I am looking for a playmate for our 16 months old Isabella. We practice gentle parenting, so ideally would like to meet with families with similar parenting style.

We live in Tooting bec in a house with a huge garden and very close to the common.

Isabella is at the stage where she is interested in interacting with other babies and likes to immitate other babies action. I think a playmate that can meet up twice a week will be quite beneficial for both babies

please reply to the message if you are interested to meet up.