Dd seems to spend a lot of time at nursery crying :(

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Bit of background: dd is 2.9, she started nursery in January when ds was six weeks old. She has something similar to muscular dystrophy and has only been walking for ten months she has poor balance.

When she first started nursery two mornings a week she loved it and usually cried when I picked her up because she didn't want to come home, so I increased one of the days from 9-1 to 9-3.

One of the mornings she does ballet which she loves and joins in the whole session.

The past few weeks, although she goes off quite happily, she is usually crying when I pick her up and the nursery workers often say she's been quite teary. They usually say she seems quite tired, or it's when other children come up to her, or she didn't want to be outside as it was cold (they let them go in though).

If I ask her why she was crying I usually get an answer of 'because I was' or 'because 'George' pushed me over'. If I ask her if anyone gives her a cuddle she says no, but I'm not sure I can believe all she says!

I'm not sure what I'm asking really, do you think she will get better? Should I reduce her hours again? It's parents evening next week is there anything specific I should ask?

She seems to have learnt so much since going there but it makes me so sad to think of her crying sad

Oh also she cut our her day time naps about six months ago but has been sleeping some afternoons recently, even at nursery. In fact she's just fallen asleep now hmm

brettgirl2 Fri 15-Mar-13 18:33:01

Could she have a virus of some kind that is taking its time to shift?

You know I've just taken her temperature and it's 38.6. She slept for an hour and a half this morning. She had an was infection in November too.

She just seems really sad sometimes.

MammaCici Sat 16-Mar-13 16:40:12

Hopefully it's just a passing virus but it's always good to consider other possibilities too. If she is still unhappy at nursery after she is better I'd consider keeping her home a bit longer.

Does she say she wants to go to nursery in the mornings? Could she be getting bullied / picked on?

If I ask her if she wants to go she says yes and she always goes off quite happily doesn't even give me a kiss! It's a pretty small nursery so I'm quite sure they would notice if there was anyone picking on her, but that's another thing I can ask at parents evening

Maybe she is just poorly. 9-3 is quite a long day though for an under 3 (if she doesn't have to be at nursery, I know some children have to do longer hours unavoidably) personally I'd think that 3 mornings would be a better way to use the same hours, then she might get less run down and teary and enjoy it like she used to? But of course that might not be feasible for you or for the nursery.

Well the morning session is 9-1 and we're stretching it with the extra two hours as it is... I have thought about taking it back to just two mornings. I only increased it as she was enjoying it so much!

Its all trial and error isn't it, but I know when my middle one was just turned 3 he briefly did 7.30-2-30 at Kindergarten just one day a week (and 8.30-12.30 the other 4) it really took it out of him and he was alternately wild and tearful all afternoon and the following day too - when I was able to change back to all 5 4 hour mornings only he was fine again. Now he is 5 he goes 7.30-1.30 and is happy with it, but for him 3 was too young to do the long day... I'd cut your hours back to what they used to be then, if she was happy previously, and give it a few weeks and see if things improve. You can always increase again when she's a bit older.

Thanks I think you might be right. I will give it until Easter and change after. Hopefully I won't get charged anything hmm

Badvoc Sat 16-Mar-13 19:16:47

Don't beat yourself up about it but she may be happier going back o 9-1.
Hope feels better soon x

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