hi, I remember wanting DC1 to self settle, and did a vague EASY/GF-ey routine so that he was never feeding to sleep
am feeding DC2 to sleep and I'm stuggling to remember the downside - it seems easy and convenient at the moment but it's still early days
if I'm making a rod for my back (which is what I thought with DC1 but can't remember why) - what exactly is it?
I've tried flicking though tracy hogg and am none the wiser, I have "time for you" when the baby is in the sling or asleep or in the bouncy chair - what difference does it make what order the feeding comes into it - ya still have to feed??
I'm sure i read somewhere that a child under 6 months lacks the neurological capacity to learn stuff like this. They learn by instinct, to get their needs met, and as they get older those needs become more complex. At 2 weeks, my ds needed to eat, sleep, be warm and be loved. At 10 weeks he's added in a bit of mental stimulation - grabbing hair and toys, gurgling, smiling. Eventually, he'll add talking, walking, reading etc to his repertoire and I'll be gently phased out until he moves into his own place and i gain a daughter in law and some grandkids (or a son in law and adopted grandkids. Or not. Whatever)
My job is to raise a productive, functional member of society. How i get there over the next 18 years is largely irrelevant.