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My DD age 8 has started saying things like to my DH last night " Do you and mummy do sex?" and then when he asked what she was talking about she said she heard it on iCarly!!
She also said to me yesterday, "my boyfriend will want to do sex with me when he sees what i look like" Her 'boyfriend' is a boy she met on holiday 2 summers ago, when she was 5, he was 7 and they occasionally email each other sweet little notes and pictures. He is now 10, and hopefully doesnt neet a penpal girlfriend anymore, anyway thats a different matter.

I need to have a good chat with her, but wondered if there is a good book which she could also read and use for reference?
thanks

Yes, this is a great little book that I saw recommended on here a while back, I bought it for my own DD who was also 8 at the time - its far more age appropriate than any of the others I'd seen

I might get that for my eldest dd. She is also 8 and although not inquisitive/informed just yet I know some of her friends are a bit more wordly wise. I'd rather she had the right info rather than playground stuff.

She came home upset last week as after saying she loved playing with x, another girl followed her round calling her gay. Although dd has an awareness of same sex couples she didn't realise this was the term for them. When I explained this she was further confused as to why the other girl was using it as an insult. As was I. There are some real darlings out there aren't there?! It made me realise that from now on I'm going to be the one to educate her and make sure she gets the facts she needs.

Thanks for the thread and link, sorry about the rant!

Thanks I have ordered a couple from amazon today and will check them out before going through them with her.

I bought my son the boys version of this book, its great & it explained all about girls & periods etc which I thought was good too. Good luck angel

pantaloons I thought that too - but on giving DD the book & explaining a bit about why I was giving it to her - turned out it was already all talk at School & our friends slightly older DD had been giving DD her version of events too - so turned out to be just in the nick of time & as for the gay comments - we had DD very upset & confused that was the name calling phrase of the week - at 6 - thankfully as DDs Godparents are Gay, it was something shes grown up with knowing as quite normal & "just another way of being" & couldn't understand why it was being used as an insult - I was none to chuffed to be having to explain bigotry & ignorance to a 6 yr old - thankfully I seemed to manage it okay & she now puts comments like that down to ignorance

Good luck from me too angel I'm sure you & your DD will love the book

& pantaloons - I should have added, we live in the Gay capital, round here, us Hetros are outnumbered - so its the last place I would of expected that sort of thing so young

rockinhippy, when you hear children so young using words like this as insults it's clear where it comes from isn't it? It makes you realise how easily discrimination and ignorance are carried on through generations. And although we live in a small village and I sort of expect some folk to be insular and possibly not as pc as they could be, I really was surprised at how young they are.

At least dd will not be one of them, that's one less!