Hope someone can help me - this is really stressing me out!
DS1 (2yo) has got a new habit of being awkward when it comes to going into the car. He insists on climbing up to the car seat himself - any attempt to lift him in results in back arching tantrums and he flails around and slides out.
However, his claim that he is climbing up himself doesn't work well either - he climbs into the car and crouches in the footwell, stands on his car seat, gets onto the parcel shelf (if given half a chance) jumps onto the passenger seat etc etc. I.e. he mucks around and doesn't get in.
This seems to be general bad behaviour in a defiant way: he laughs when told off firmly etc.
This is a touch embarrassing because picking him up from nursery (every day this week except today) has taken 10 minutes or so.
Today, we were in a hurry to get somewhere, and he started this - I shouted at him (something I don't want to do really - so chavvy) but he did get in the seat. But I don't want to be that angry shouty woman, and anyway I doubt it will work again - it was just the shock this morning. (He also said 'sorry mum' afterwards.)
This is something he seems to do with me, not with others - when he's at my parents, they come with him to the car and he climbs in obediently. DH hasn't reported any problems (but he works away so isn't at the coalface of parenting 
).
Any suggestions? I've tried speaking firmly but to no avail. The whole setup means it's quite hard to pick him up when his legs are under the front passenger seat/he is back against the rear window on the parcelshelf etc, and it's always in a difficult situation - car park, near a road etc.