Help 3 new babies in the family

[heartmoonshadow]

Hi,

There is something in the water with our family at the moment there are 3 new babies due in the family in three consecutive months, my baby will be second. The problem I have is that hubby and I have 1 girls name and 1 boys name and I am paranoid that the first baby that comes along will choose the name I have chosen which as you can imagine will cause problems.

We are going to find out at our 20week scan what the baby is but have been told by the first mum to be that she does not want to know and she will not tell us what she is having. I am so nervous that she will have the same sex as me and end up using the same name.

To be honest we were going to tell everyone the sex but keep the name secret - do you think it would be better to announce both at the same time so that she can't use the name we have chosen or would you leave it to chance.

BTW it took us ages to agree on each name as I preferred lots of different ones to hubby.

[ilovemydogandMrObama]

My mom and her cousin have the same name, and it never was a problem. Actually, my mom and her mom have the same first name too...

Name your baby what you want and don't worry about others...

[CeceliaAhern]

Ordinarily, I would never tell anyone either the sex or the name.

You do sound very anxious about this though, so if you think it would make you feel better then maybe you should.

My SIL had a child very close and the name they chose was nowhere near our radar but they did unintentionally slag off a name we had chosen.

Maybe she'll be late and you'll be early and it will all be fine.

It is unlikely they will have chosen your name of all the names.Is the name their style?In the bigger scheme of things, you will look back and laugh at this, but I hope you can find some resolution for your own peace of mind just now.

[MmeLindt]

If you are really worried, speak to them about it. Perhaps they already have a name or names picked.

Or just tell them that you have chosen xx name but would like it kept within the family until the birth.

[ilovegreenbeans]

3 of my friends were having babies close together. The 3 mums got together and on the count of 3 said the names they'd picked. Just so the others knew them to keep off, but not so everyone else knew.

[mum2b09]

i kinda have this problem and i dont know if im being unreasonable but i have had a girls name since day 1 and just chosen a boys name now there are 2 other girls due in my family in 3 months one has just had her baby 2 days ago and the girl due after me has said that if i dont have a girl shes using the name i picked for a girl but i wantted 2 use it if i had a girl next time this is my first baby and i just wish she wud pick her own baby names haha xxx

[lolianja]

Hi there.

I feel your pain. My boyfriend and I were absolutely set on either Matthew or Nicholas for a boy, from almost the moment I got a positive piss stick result. Matthew or Nicholas. No negotiation required. When I was coming up halfway through my pregnancy, my half-second-cousin Becca to whom I'm very close gave birth prematurely after a nightmare pregnancy, to a son. He was named Matthew Nicholas. I was wavering between being miffed and gutted, as was my partner but of course we didn't say anything - we hadn't mentioned our preference to her and her boyfriend at the time and after the rotten luck she'd had throughout her pregnancy we reckon she deserved the dibs.

Still, part of me wishes we'd said something. Thankfully our little one (due the Monday after next) is a girl anyway but if you've really got your heart set on this name then I'd think about mentioning it, simply to put your mind at ease. All the best!

[MrsMattie]

I find it slightly unnerving when women who are 20 weeks pregnant say 'We're having a girl and she shall be called Daisy!' or similar.

You can't really stop people giving their babies the names they love, even if you 'get there first' in theory. Sorry!

[Lulubee]

Can't you just share your names with her alone and ask her not to use it? Swear`her to secrecy if necessary...