'Stealing' a friend's baby's name
(32 Posts)Please click the 'Recommend' button below to confirm that you would like to post this thread to your facebook wall:
If you do not wish to post this thread to facebook, close this window.
If you have previously recommended this thread, you should see a tick / check mark on the recommend button. Click the tick to undo the recommendation (the tick may appear to change to a cross as you do this.) If you added a comment with your recommendation, you will need to delete that from your facebook wall separately.
A v good friend of mine has just 'pinched' our top boy's name. Completely unintentional, and she didn't know we liked it, so of course I'm happy for her (grrr). We actually don't see them very much and don't even live in the same country any more. But of course we have mutual friends. Do you think it would be wrong of us to use it as well?
Another favourite name is the name of the baby of a former (close) work colleauge of mine - NOT an unusual name at all. Do you think that is any more acceptable?
Just wonder whether there is an ettiquette here I should be following or should I just say 'sod it' and use the names we like?
I'll look out for that episode. It's all Big Bang Theory in our house nowadays.
^best 
Charlotte satc baby name was v funny,
Charlotte: Stop it! You're not gonna clean up at your own shower.
Laney's friend: Yeah relax, cause once little Todd or Shayla comes around, you'll never stop cleaning up.
Charlotte: Shayla? Did you say Shayla?
Laney's friend: It's so unique, isn't it?
Charlotte: It's so my name!
Laney's friend: I thought your name was Charlotte.
Charlotte: No, it's not my name, it's my name! My secret baby name that I made up when I was eleven years old for my daughter when I had her. I told you. Don't tell me you don't remember.
Laney: No I'm sorry. I really don't.
Carrie: (voiceover) A complete lie. She remembered. We all remembered. Charlotte had made us all swear never to use it.
Laney: Anyway I think my husband heard it somewhere else.
Charlotte: Really, where, because I didn't tell him.
Laney: I can't believe you're freaking out over a name.
Laney's friend: I mean, you're not even pregnant.
Charlotte: That's not the point!
Samantha: (joining) What's going on?
Charlotte: She stole my baby name.
Samantha: You bitch! Let's go.
We've had the perfect boys name picked for years but recently it's been mentioned loads on here. Very annoying. It's OUR name people, stop stealing! Haha!
I think it depends how close you are to these people. If you regularly have contact then personally I would give it a miss but if you never see them/barely speak then you're probably ok. :-)
Honestly - this will pale into insignificance when your DC starts school and you realise that there are 2 other children with the same name in their class, another 2 in the year group and 10 more across the school. And you'll be regularly socialising with these children and their families at parties and school events.
Just go for a name you love and let other people enjoy it too if they like.
SATC. Obviously.
I get it now. I can't remember that episode of SATCHEL.
I agree with scottishmummy.
aftermay, Charlotte York is a character from TV series Sex And The City.
Am desperate to know what Panda's girl's name is!
I am the same though, we have a perfect girl's name ready, and we (DH and I) never tell anyone.
Use it, she wasn't to know it was yours, and you decided on it before you knew her choice. I have many friends who are happy to have the same name as each other!
Who is Charlotte York? What's SaTc?
most names are out there in domain somewhere unless you've genuinely made it up
im thinking charlotte york having a hissy on satc about her baby name getting stolen
im surprised so many on mn are so agahst anyone could use same name
I am aware how bonkers I sounds btw... 
I have a name that I adore and is sooooo unusual and specific that I haven't so much as breathed it in anyones presence that I think may be considering baby names in the next decade, in case anyone else uses it - then I would look like the stealer iykwim!
If I get to menopause without a BFP then I shall start yelling it from the rooftops as a free for all - but until then it is my special secret super duper girls name...
Use the name if you like it. I'd be flattered if my DCs' names inspired others. I think their names are beautiful.
again so what?she can use a name that she likes, you dont have dibs on any name
if it was a special or family name you too can use it
if someone mentioned a name in passing and i liked it, yes i use it.no qualms
When I told her what we would be calling DD her reply was oh that's nice I had never thought of that name. That's what pissed me off about her using it.
i can honestly say if i liked a name id use it.irrespective of whether anyone thought they had 1st dibs or their name
some of you need to seriously grow up,if you think anyone can steal a name
i mean christ alive if you like it use it,and if someone gets there before you tough titty
And I no longer have contact with the so called friend
No I chose another name for my DD and used my nans middle name as a middle name for my DD in the end
I would be annoyed if I was your friend. There are so many names to choose from why not try and see can you find something else?
houseofbears, that is what i was told by a mum at school whose child is 8yrs older than mine. we used it anyway - shamelessly copied as it was a name i'd never even considered & i do still cringe a bit in her presence. however dcs will never be in same school and i am sure we or they will move area at some stage. we don t even know each others names so its not like we are pals.
and so what?did you use the name
if it was an name you cherish you use it
why fret about some pal and the same name
I was going to name my DD after my nan who had passed away and I stupidly told as so called friend what the name was, she had her DD 3 weeks before me and named her DD with the name.
no one steals names,as no one has dibs ona name its as simple as that
theres no name etiquette only the unnecessary fretting that some seem to do
if you like the name use it.dont make all this so fraught,it doesnt need to be
Add your message here
To post you need a valid nickname and password. Log in if you are a returning member, or join for free.
If you have forgotten your nickname or your password, you can get a reminder.
Talk: Customise | Unanswered messages | Getting started | Acronyms | FAQs
Threads: Active | I'm on | I'm watching | I started | Last 15 minutes | Last hour | Last Day







