Agreed to baby names and regrettting it. What to do?

[Mama2Monkeys]

I am 33wks with DC3, a boy, and have a boy (4yr) and girl (22m).

With both other children me and DH had no hesitation in their names, first or middle's. DS middle name after DH. DD middle name after me. But with this babe we cant decide or agree on any names.

ALSO I agreed to two middle names for babe, Stephen David (my dad and FIL). I have NEVER wanted two middle names. But being last babe I wanted my dad's name but DH decided he wanted his dads too. Even considered just 1 name "George" (my mum is Georgina) and NO middle names.

DH says "no" to just my dad as middle name or 1st name and then his dad as middle name. It was causing agruements. So I just said "ok" to make DH happy.

But weeks on and after REALLY trying I am regretting agreeing and DONT want it.

We cant decide on a 1st name (family or not) and I dont want the 2 middle names either.

What do I do? Tempted just to say no middle names.

Whose surname to the DCs have?

If it is your DH's, then it is only fair that you get the middle name slot for passing down a name from your family. Especially considering DC3 is a son and will never marry out of the surname.

What's so dreadful about two middle names?

ninedragons DH/FIL surname. I have tried that approach and does not wash with DH.
5dollar nothing DREADFUL just a personal preference thing.

You are allowed to change your mind!! I'd go with the two middle names tbh, it's not as if the child will use them much.

Well, if it's just personal preference, you might have to suck it up, as there doesn't seem to be another solution.

Your Dad's name doesn't trump his Dad's (well it should if you're passing on your DH's surname, but apparentlŷ that's not an option) and vice versa...

What about using your maiden name as a middle name?

light - i like the idea of using my maiden as the middle - Barrie. Just pondering now how to put it to DH whom will probably NOT like the idea especially as I have done a turn around. As honoring both families and then only one middle name .

I think 2 middle names is ok and like the idea of them being after both dads - I'd concentrate my energy on finding a first name you both actively like, if i were you! Middle names can pretty much be forgotten about, can't they?!

why are you so opposed to having 2 middle names?

i think that naming the baby is just as much your dh's decision as it is yours... your post comes over very much as if you think YOU should get to decide and he should put up with it

you both need to talk about it and decide what to do.

Suggest Steve-Dave as a compromise?

I say sod honouring families, don't bother with a middle name at all. Concentrate on finding a first name.

Our DS has the 2 middle names as well. I thought it was daft myself, a bit OTT IMO, but hey we now have a Jonathan James Campbell . . . . (should I put his last name on here, too??)
Anyway. The James and the Campbell were both for DH. His Grandfather (long since dead) and his own middle name which he could not possibly not give to his son
I didn't even think about it.
Well, I did, I said, '3 names DH, are you Mad?!'
But he was not for budging and I didn't like James as a first name, so I was stuck.
Whenever I told folk his name, at first, I just rolled my eys good naturedly, at DHs indulgence.
But, do you know. I really like his big old name now

I have 2 middle names, as does my elder brother. Other brother has 1.

I rather like it!

It may be a bit sneaky but I have heard of people waiting til the labour ward to tell of their dislike of chosen names to their dh's/dp's

Have heard once you are lying their having given them their new heir, don't think no is in their vocabulary!

The DH here has seen it all before, and it probably won't knock his socks off when the time comes.

David Stephen Barrie Surname might work? (Love David)

Oh, I'm all for lots of names. DS has first name, trad family name (my side) my maiden name then DH's name. When he's prime minister you'll all say how distinguished his name is.