20 wk scan, v. confused, worried 1st timer

[thislittlesisterlola]

I was wondering if I could just vent my thoughts here as I am quite confused.

Had 20 wk scan last week and all was well. Only thing was in the babe's brain something looked a bit small it wasnt the bit that looks like a dumb bell. Two sonographers said they werent terribly worried and im due to see a cons. next week just to rule anything out, they said it could be nothing and gave me the impression they were covering their backs and just want a cons. to draw a line under it.
I asked what was worst case senario but they said it could be anything or nothing and they would only be guessing.

Dp has done some googling and suspects its something that goes by 3 months anyway and if is still there or large in adulthood could be linked to mental health problems.

II'm soo confused I just dont know what to think. I dont even know what is small or anything. It wasnt very well explained at all. Dp said from looking online they base a lot of the info from rest of baby and ours is fine. He is moving around everyday and I feel fine.

Any ideas/ hand holding please? Sorry for such a scrambled rant. I feel quite lost and alone to be honest. They worried me and kept me waiting with my nuchal fold and got me in a right panic with that. I'm now petrified of scans and of going back. Not good as I'm due to give birth there and had two other op's there, one of which the top surgeon mucked up and left me having 2 general's in 24 hours. As you can imagine I'm pretty scared.

[ThePFJ]

I wish I could tell you I have experience in these exact matters but I don't. I would be just as scared as you are right now, and you have ALL my sympathy. I do however know what its like to have doctors testing my newborn baby over and over to find out whats wrong, always saying the worst case scenario, and expecting things to be awful... and yet here I am with a healthy little boy almost 2 years later who needs the minimum of special care.
The only thing I can advise is to try and relax. (Yeah, impossible I know) Have a big cup of cocoa, stress is NOT GOOD for baby. I am sure you will love baby no matter what, so hug your bump and let the doctors do their thing.

Good Luck, XXXX

[thislittlesisterlola]

thank you very much for replying. I just remind myself wednesday is not too far away and i would of been in sooner if there was a bigger concern. I try very hard not to think about it. I know I just need them to get on with it. Its very scary but i think im coping. im glad your little one is ok. Im off to munch more peanut butter on ryvita- my current fav snack

[QuestionsAnswered]

I had a similar experience at my 20 week scan, they were very worried about something on the scan, told me the worst case scenario and we went on to have many more scans and tests. Everything was fine in the end and there was no problem, just a quirk of the scan system.

Things can show up on a scan that will often not be there the next time they scan. If they said they are not worried i would take it as that. In my case they did seem worried and were very clear about the possible scenarios. IME, the NHS are much more bullish in their approach and more upfront and are not as keen to give false reassurance, which I think is the better way to approach it.

I know how worrying it is for you at this time and the waiting is the hardest thing, but try and remain positive, there is a very high chance everything is fine.

Good luck