I'm not sure I should start this thread, but am having a massive panic and have no one to talk to

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AngryBeaver Sun 14-Oct-12 09:14:57

Some of you may remember my other thread. Missed mc in Sept last year. Pregnant few months later. After lots of stressful weeks, we had the amnio and found that our little girl had Downs. We said goodbye to her on July 12th when I was 18 weeks. Worst time of my life.
I am now 6 weeks pregnant and was feeling quite happy about things.
I was feeling that it couldn't happen agin,we wouldn't be that unlucky.
But now I am having a huge flap. I have started to believe that it is going to happen again. I really think it will, I can almost hear the voice on the end of the phone saying it all again.
I can't talk to dh about this as he wasn't sure about trying again anyway and I don't want to stress him out.
I have no one to talk to about it here (abroad) and my rl friends aren't answering...help?

AngryBeaver Fri 02-Nov-12 03:20:22

Thanks monsterchild the best of luck to you x

monsterchild Fri 02-Nov-12 01:43:50

Angry, sorry to hear what you're going through. I can empathize, I had similar over the last two years. It's heartbreaking. If it's any consolation I don't think you're too old at all. I'm 6 years older, and we're finally expecting our first!

It did take us about 9 months just to conceive this little fellow, so time is not the enemy you may think it is!

AngryBeaver Fri 02-Nov-12 01:34:12

Thanks cheese..you too x

lotsofcheese Thu 01-Nov-12 20:52:48

So sorry you're still in limbo angry The waiting is just agonising. Take care of yourself x

AngryBeaver Thu 01-Nov-12 18:40:11

No the scan machine is broken, and won't be fixed til Monday. So I'm stuck. Although I know it's over,I will still be crushed when I hear that the baby has gone sad

lotsofcheese Thu 01-Nov-12 17:57:46

Angry how are you today? Hoping you managed to get a scan & are holding together ok. Thinking of you.

AngryBeaver Wed 31-Oct-12 23:07:12

They couldn't fit me in for a scan today. Maybe tomorrow. Then I will have to wait til next thurs to go to the hospital and sign a consent form, then have an erpc next friday. If of course, things haven't completed naturally.
Is EAPU early preg assess? If so, I haven't seen anyone like that. Only spoken to the midwife on the phone.
When I feel a bit stronger, I'll make an apt with my gp

lotsofcheese Wed 31-Oct-12 20:58:25

I'm really sorry, beaver There is good support on the miscarriage & pregnancy loss board. I've used it a lot for my miscarriages & have found it helpful to share with people who understand.

When is your scan? Am wondering if EPAU have suggested investigations eg genetics, consultant, to see if there's a reason for your miscarriages?

I hope you are taking care of yourself xx

AngryBeaver Wed 31-Oct-12 20:46:47

Levels have dropped to 2900 from 3400, so going for a scan. But doesn't look good.

AngryBeaver Mon 29-Oct-12 20:02:48

my friend who has had several mc's early on, told me her consultant recommended complete bedrest for 48 hours and this seemed to stop the last mc. Does anyone think this might help?

lotsofcheese Mon 29-Oct-12 18:32:43

I'm so sorry angry It's just so bloody unfair! You have been through so much already. I wish I had some wise to help you feel better.

All I can do is send you big hugs & say that you're in my thoughts x

AngryBeaver Mon 29-Oct-12 18:27:19

not good, heavier bleeding,clotting, and pain.
I just want to know why this is happening again

lotsofcheese Mon 29-Oct-12 17:07:28

How are things today, angry?

AngryBeaver Mon 29-Oct-12 09:15:28

So pleased for you x

lotsofcheese Mon 29-Oct-12 09:03:03

It was ok, thanks. I have another booked for next Thursday too.

Take care of yourself x

AngryBeaver Mon 29-Oct-12 08:14:34

Thanks cheese how did your scan go?

lotsofcheese Mon 29-Oct-12 08:08:41

Oh angry I'm so sorry you're going through this, the waiting is just agony. I always felt the not knowing was worst.

Sending you big hugs & some chocolate too xxxx

AngryBeaver Mon 29-Oct-12 07:40:09

I'm sorry to hear that pez I hope you have a happy outcome the next time you start trying.
Thank you for your support x

Pizdets Mon 29-Oct-12 07:35:16

Hi angrybeaver I've been following your story as I tfmr in the summer. Not sure I have anything useful to say as the baby we lost in the summer was my first and only pregnancy, but I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you, I hope things work out ok and that your husband comes home soon and gives you the big hug you need.

As crikey says, try to take it as easy as you can.

Piz

AngryBeaver Mon 29-Oct-12 06:13:58

Thanks crikey. No they're 2,4 and 6, so too little. But are in bed now. Hopefully they will stay there. No neighbours and only surface friends I couldn't burden. One or two better firends, but they have their own young families.
The midwife has just rung, she said my hcg levels don't look good. She said the ones I took two weeks ago were good, they doubled in 2 days. And although my levels are ok for the stage I am, they havn't jumped as far as she would like.
I don't think this is going to end well (again)..I am having a vodka and a cry

CrikeyOHare Mon 29-Oct-12 05:17:50

How old are your DC? Can they get themselves to bed or are they too little? Any neighbour or friend who can pop in to help for a few hours? You really do need to put your feet up.

Wish I could tell you that it's definitely not an m/c, but I can't. Bleeding is never a good sign. But 1 in 10 pregnancies do have "implantation" bleeding and it's always around the stage that you're at now. So, there's some hope. Also, my sickness started at 8 weeks & didn't last long, so the absence of it so far is not necessarily a bad sign either.

I'd had an ectopic pregnancy a year before I got pregnant again - so when I had a little bleed at 5.5 weeks, I really panicked. But all was well, and 17 years later my "baby" is snoring in his bedroom!

Keeping everything crossed for you, I truly am xx

AngryBeaver Mon 29-Oct-12 05:04:44

Thanks crikey, I could do with a cuddle,but will take the flowers!
I have no one in this country that I can talk to about all of this. My dh won't be in until gone 11pm, and I have the children to put to bed yet.
I am hoping it will be ok, but this is my 6th pregnancy and I have never had any bleeding before. I have also not been sick yet, which is unheard of for me, but maybe it is too early on, as I say, I thought I was 3 weeks ahead.
It was only a tiny bit of blood (the dc's had all followed me into the toilet so I couldn't examine i properly!)
But I have rung the mdwf, she admitted it didn't sound good. I had bloods done earlier today so she will check the results and ring me, I am having more in 48 hours. I suppose that's all they can do.
sad

CrikeyOHare Mon 29-Oct-12 04:37:59

Beaver try not to panic just yet, my love. It's incredibly common to have a little bleed around the 5/6 weeks mark. I did, and my pregnancy proceeded normally afterwards. I also recall having mild period pains at the time too.

Put your feet up & call your GP when they open in a few hours - or NHS Direct if you start feeling worse.

Hoping it's all OK for you thanks

AngryBeaver Mon 29-Oct-12 04:18:02

How did the scan go cheese? All good I hope.
Mine showed no heartbeat, but she put me at 5.5 rather than 8.4 that I thought I was, so she wants me back in 10 days.
HOWEVER, I have just gone to the toilet and there was a small amount of blood on the paper, and I have mild tummy ache. I am so scared, I can't believe this is happening. Why is is going wrong again?sad sad

AngryBeaver Thu 18-Oct-12 08:12:08

sorry maninz meant to say, a bach is a beach house/holiday home

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