Having another bad day

(15 Posts)
3plus2 Tue 13-Nov-12 08:08:37

Getting there trying to keep as normal as possible sad I'm go from bouncing and happy one minute then right at the bottom the next it's so hard. sad

BeerTricksPott3r Wed 07-Nov-12 09:25:29

Hello, 3plus2, how are you feeling today? smile

3plus2 Tue 06-Nov-12 11:24:01

Thanks bear I know I will be ok it's just taking soooo long ......

3plus2 Tue 06-Nov-12 11:22:08

They gave me seroxat it's nasty and highly addictive and makes you gain weight and made me feel awful like I had taken a bad drug which made me have a panic attack and forget where I was ! I explained this to gp she fobbed me off saying they don't cause those side effects ? My baby also slept all day after taking them ? I am really not up to swapping gp's I struggle just to put my shoes on it really takes all my effort let alone dragging myself back to gp sad

BeerTricksPott3r Tue 06-Nov-12 11:21:41

I do see what you mean, yes.But try not to get too hung up on the idea that their early years are passing you by.

The snappiness is part of your PND and I hope your DH is cutting you some slack with that.

Forget the Baby Group idea for now, if it's adding more stress and just do things yourself with your DC. If and when you do give them a try keep in mind that out of all the other mothers there, there will be quite a few who either feel the same as you or have done in the past.

Some HVs can be patronising. I couldn't abide one of mine! grin. I just avoided her as much as possible and spoke to one I felt understood how i was feeling.

I have to go and do Stuff now, but I just wanted you to know that you're not alone in feeling how you do and it is possible to get through this if you access the right help for you.

Hope more posters come up with some strategies for you.

I would go back to the GP and simply tell him that the ADs he has given you are not suitable and can he come up with any alternatives.

I'm on ADs atm, Sertraline 50mg. I was tired and drowsy for the first few days but then it passed. I refused to take them the first time I had PND but this time I decided I needed the help. And I'm so glad I did.

I still struggle some days but I'm able to engage more with the children and don't have the extreme highs and lows I had before, I'm more even iyswim.

I agree with Beer, see a different GP. And try to plan something fun each day, even if it's just a walk or drawing. Then in the evening you can look back and feel that you have done something positive in the day. smile

3plus2 Tue 06-Nov-12 11:10:26

I am going to try my best to get out today I'm gearing myself up to go out it just takes a while but I will do it toady .

3plus2 Tue 06-Nov-12 11:07:14

My gp was hopeless jus shoved these ad's in my hand and said come back in two weeks I took one I was nrly falling asleep all day I can't look after a baby like that sad I don't like talking to hv's etc I find them a bit patronising , but maybe that's just me ? I always tell myself we will do a baby group I get as far as the door and then walk back I just can't face it at the moment I'm just not as confident as I was sad my DP just thinks I'm over stressing myself and tells me not too as I come across snappy a lot of the time but Im just so touchy . I just feel my kids are having rubbish childhood and I'm scared because they are growing too quick and I'm wasting time I should be enjoying with them ifyswim?

BeerTricksPott3r Tue 06-Nov-12 11:03:06

x-post. Is there another GP you can see at your practice? Any particular reason you don't want to take the ADs? they can be a big help, but a completely understand if you feel you don't want to take them.

My AND/PND/PTSD is several years ago now, but I do remember the feelings so well. You are not horrible, you are ill, with 3 DC, so please don't be so hard on yourself.

Any plans to go out today, for a quick walk? Shut the front door on how you feel for half an hour, feed ducks, scuffle leaves, splash in some puddles. It won't magically make you feel better but it will be a part of your day you can look at and think "Hell, yeah! I've achieved something today and the DC loved it!"

BeerTricksPott3r Tue 06-Nov-12 10:58:10

It will pass, but you may need to ask for some help from your HV or GP.
Write down how you feel and take it to the appointment with you - this is very common and they won't find it odd at all.

Don't try and be a 'good Mummy' for a whole day, take it in little steps. Say to yourself that for one hour (or half an hour even) that you are going to do a set thing such as play a game, have cuddle time etc (depending on their age). Then that's one bit of the day you can tick off as having accomplished engaging with your DC, which will make you feel a bit less hopeless.

Investigate baby/toddler groups in your area. they do vary, so if you visit one and you're not keen then don't blame yourself or the way you're feeling - it's just that that particular one wasn't for you.
Storytimes/Baby Bounce And Rhyme at libraries are shorter than a whole morning at a playgroup, with less pressure to chat if you don't feel like it.

Have you spoken to your DH about how you're feeling? Obviously, if he's working then he can't take the load off you during the day, in a practical sense, but just telling someone how you feel can make a big difference if they understand.

Your Mum probably does understand and her take on it is 'hormones'. Well, she can call it what she likes, but emphasise how you feel to her. Maybe she can look after your DC while you visit the GP.

One tiny step at a time is my advice. It's a horrible thing to go through but help is out there.

3plus2 Tue 06-Nov-12 10:56:35

They are 4 8 and 3 months smile I have pnd an unsupportive gp a some crappy ad's which I won't take so I'm battling it alone and I'm so horrible sometimes then I feel so guilty I have a bad day like today where I just sit and hide at home ...

Tell me about yourself and your children. smile I have two, a 3.3yo DD and a 10mo DS and am on my second bout of PND. I also had AND during my second pregnancy.

3plus2 Tue 06-Nov-12 10:48:01

No support really my mum doesn't think it's depression she thinks it hormonal my DP works I jus sit at home alone all day .... Pretty crap really

It will pass, I promise. I know there are days when it feels hopeless, but it really will go. Do you have any medical or family support?

3plus2 Tue 06-Nov-12 10:42:16

Feeling so crap, will this ever pass ? I feel so bad for my kids sad tell myself when I pick them up I will b a good mummy today and hug them and love them , but it doesn't happen cause I'm so miserable sad

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now