So, Snufflix is 10 days old.
My pregnancy sucked - no major issues bar an admission at 31wks with a UTI and contractions, but I didn't get more than a fleeting moments enjoyment out of it.
She's great. A really good baby. She's not got the hang of breastfeeding, and for my own sanity we're moving on to formula, this is day 2 of switching...which of course mentally I'm equating with poison at points. But, she's fine, progressing well etc.
Anyway, basically, is it too 'early' for me to have PND?
I had a fast back to back (exceedingly painful after about the 3rd contraction where we think she turned from LOA to OP and then tried to rotate throughout the whole labour) that ended up with 3h of trying to do the last 3 pushes and failing, so forceps. I was begging for an epidural when we got to hsopital but they kept telling me it was too late...despite it taking another 2h to get to the stage where it failed to progress.
After the delivery I was given a spinal for a retained placenta, and whilst I think I'm ok with this bit, I had a reaction to what we think was the spinal. My legs wouldn't stop wobbling and my reflexes took ages to return...but they did, but I think I'm ok with this.
Anyway, was kept in hospital for 5 days due to lack of BF, but came home expressing...which is an utter nightmare and one which FF will get me away from.
I feel unbelievably distant from Snufflix.
I will cry at anything (just rang MW for some cord bleeding reassurance and burst into tears before I could say anything). At the moment we're co-sleeping, which I'm not really enjoying, but am liking I think.
I've had depression before, and this feels very similar. I'm low, being very 'practical' (washing, cleaning etc, trying to distract myself), I'm fairly sleepy. Everyone round me keeps telling me how filled with love they are for her and it's just not the same for me I don't think.
I just can't shake the feeling that getting pregnant and having my lovely baby was the worst mistake ever, and I'll never not feel like this. I look at the future and I just see a nightmare. I'm not enjoying any of it and am resenting not being able to do 'silly' things like snuggle my cats, or just play computer games etc.
When she cries I just feel remote. I deal with her and want to when she cries because no baby should be left to cry. I shower her with kisses and snuggles but something's missing. I look at her and I do love her I think.
I keep having horrid flashes of me drowning Snufflix, which is frightening the shit out of me deeply - when last depressed I got a similar thing of images of me trying to kill myself. Then the counsellor I saw said it was more typical of PND or PTSD, but as long as it was frightening me, that was a good thing. But as I've said, it's bloody frightening, I can hear the screaming and just see her perfect little face all panicked...and it's hideous.
I've filled an online version of the Edinburgh PND scale in a couple of times and come up with 26 both times...which is partly reassuring as it indicates a problem, but also not for fairly obvious reasons.
I've made a doctors appointment for tomorrow morning. I'm just petrified that they're going to tell me it's too early and this is all "normal", and I'll come away feeling like this, but with no support. I'm also petrified that Snufflix won't take to formula (still trying to migrate, day 2 of trying) and I really have no idea how the hell I'll cope then.
My DH is being great, absolutely great, as are my PND friends, but I just can't be feeling like this all the time, especially when DH goes back to work at the end of next week. He's also struggling to know what to do for me, and is finding it frustrating as basically, he's dong everything he can.
Is there anyone out there that can reassure me that all of this isn't just "normal" and that my instinct that there's something very wrong with me is right?
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Oeisha · 03/02/2012 18:58
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