Quite a bit of history to this but basically the jist of it is I have an older and a younger sister. Older sister is constantly having 'issues' with me, younger sis or our parents arranging to do stuff together and not including her, when the truth of the matter is that she is so flakey that she either forgets she's been invited, then declines, declines outright or simply ums and ahhs until the last possible minute then pulls out anyway. She never seems to commit to anything unless there's nothing else better for her to do.
Most recent example being me, Dh and DD booked tickets for us and my mum to go watching a show (a show which DD takes an active interest in and mum absolutely loves, older sis never shown an interest). When the tickets were booked (6 months before the event) I couldn't get hold or younger or older sis to ask if they wanted to come and didn't want to lose the excellent seats already reserved, so went ahead and booked the tickets and said we'd pay for mum to go as a surprise for her birthday. Show day rolls around and older sis said she would look after DS while we went, but not before pouting and whinging that she hadn't been included, put a bit of a downer on the event. Younger sis couldn't give a stuff and understood why. I just knew if I booked tickets for older sis without getting hold of her to ask she would have pulled out and said she couldn't afford it and we just didn't have that extra £45 to cover it.
Sorry, this is getting long. I'll get to the point. Over the weekend older sis overheard me and younger sis discussing going to pics this week and retorts 'well, were you going to invite me?'. I replied that of course we were and proceeded to make arrangements for all 3 of us to go on weds. I text both last night saying after checking DH's shifts I was still def on for weds and asking younger sis to check film times so older sis and I could arrange a time to set off (older sis and I are local to each other, younger sis about 45mins away and plan was going up her end for cinema).
Anyway, older sis lets me know she's not been so well last couple of days and won't be going, I wasn't surprised but felt a bit sorry for her as she is early stages of pregnancy and v tired. So I asked her if she wanted me to bring her anything, she replies no, she is going out for tea tonight. So I said 'oh you better now then?, let me know if you change your mind about weds' then let younger sis know she wasn't coming, younger sis said she had spoken to older sis who was out in town shopping today as well. My thoughts now being, if older sis is ok to spend the day shopping and out for tea, she can at least make the effort to sit in a bloody cinema with her sisters for a couple of hours!!!
I am so pissed off about this attitude of hers, that she makes a fuss over any hint of anyone doing anything without her and then when you bend over backwards to include her it gets thrown back in your face!!
Like I said, I probably am BU and irrationally angry about this but I just can't go on biting my tongue about stuff like this for years to come, but if you have a go at her for anything she's excellent at turning things round and playing the wounded card. It's easier to bite my tongue about it for the sake of getting along with everyone but her paranoia about being left out of everything is just wearing really thin.
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louloulouise · 08/06/2010 13:36
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