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to want DH to come home early from a stag do?

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By Fri 03-Jul-09 22:29:39 Add message | Report | Contact poster

Stag do is tomorrow, all day and evening, he will be home early hours of Sunday morning. DH is currently still at work and will be for several hours yet, has worked from 7am until past midnight every night for the past month, and he also worked Father's Day weekend so I was left on my own with the children, then, too. I am so fed up with it, and sick of having the children all day on my own then sitting in all night with no-one to talk to.

Is it unreasonable to ask that he drive to the stag do (starting in the morning) and come home early evening? It is his sister's fiance's do.

I suspect I am being unreasonable but I am so hacked off with doing it all on my own.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 01:46:54

What arcane and secret rituals do your DC need that you can't entrust them to a paid babysitter now and again? Or, if it's that you don't have much spare cash, are there other parents nearby that you could trade babysitting with?
(I have just re-read the thread and you do not mention DCs ages - are you breastfeeding one of them?)

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 23:56:04

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Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 23:52:57

I want a life with my husband, not a night out with my mates. And babysitters don't help with that if he's still in the office at midnight!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 23:49:59

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Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 23:40:43

OK so too late for this now but...

depending on what the stag do was and the activities were during the day and evening, you could have asked him to stay at home during the day and join the stag do later, that way he would have had some time with you and the kids and he would have had some evening piss up time at the stag do.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 23:29:11

Yes, we have discussed it. He's always worked late - that's the job - but I did have one evening a week when he'd come home and work at home so I could go out. That helped keep things on a more even keel. And he'd usually get home reasonably early - 7/7.30ish - on a Friday.

But that has gone out of the window over the last few months. But it will be reinstated soon, I've pretty much got to the end of my tether. He does see where I'm coming from. Thankfully.

Thanks for all the comments, at least I got a bit of it off my chest!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 21:55:44

You did the right thing sending him off with a smile and a kiss but I can TOTALLY see where you are coming from not wanting him to go.
Yes, he is working really hard and needs a break etc etc BUT he can spare some time for a stag do when he cant spare ANY time at all in the last month to give you a tiny break.

Glad you are getting away together next weekend. Maybe while you are away you could have a chat about how you desperately need just one evening to yourself soon and see if that helps things feel a little more even?

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 21:53:13

why can you not leave your children with babysitters?

i know at first you wont know them, but advertise and meet a few, and find one you like

there are often nannys advertising on netmums who want to babysit - maybe look in your area and see if any about

obv checks ref and make sure they are crb checked and have first aid

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 19:54:59

Nahh, monkeyface, I sent him off with a big kiss this morning.

He knows he's needed alright, and he does feel bad about the hours he's having to work. We're OK, as I said, we're away next weekend so will be able to put our feet up together.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sat 04-Jul-09 19:51:01

Just a thought, maybe he would like it if you asked him to come home? My other half is a soppy git, and if he goes to anything like this he sits by his phone hoping I will call and ask him to come back! Says it makes him feel 'needed'. So you never know, he might like it.....

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