well bear with me as this is a little long...
my dad has emailed he wants to come and visit us (me, my partner and my son ben who is 3yrs 7 months and autistic) for a weekend in august staying at a local travelodge - no problem i hear you thinking, well... him and my mum divorced when i was young and from being 4-20 i never saw him then since weve been back in touch 20-28(now lol) i have only seen him twice, he rarely rings and is generally not interested greatly, he last came 2 years ago (time before that was years before and i visited him) when he came he expected to be "grandad" to ben which i accepted as ben was only almost 2 and not so obvious with autism although i thought it etc, he kept wanting to cuddle ben even when ben wasnt bothered. Now he knows ben is autistic (he was diagnosed over a year ago) but think he knows v little on autism and when he comes he will expect to be "grandad" well ben has 2 grandads, my step dad and my partners dad who he sees regularly, i dont want to confuse him! and of course due to the autism ben hates cuddles especially from strangers!!!!
so... what do i do!!?? how do i tell him he wont be known as grandad and not to touch ben, but by being nice????
plus as it wont ever be regular i dont want ben to think of him as grandad as poor little man wont understand why he only sees him for a day or two then he disappears for another few years!!
oh and also i know he will want to be grandad as he hinted the other day when i phoned by saying bet ben misses his grandad, i just said something like i dont think he will remember you it was a long time ago! Reality is Ben's met him once, he has seen the postman more and wouldnt cuddle him!!
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to tell my dad that to my son he isnt grandad and not to refer to himself as such??
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jennybensmummy · 21/06/2009 20:47
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