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to be sick to death of getting conflicting information from these 'heath care proffesionals?'

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By Fri 15-May-09 12:17:39 Add message | Report | Contact poster

MIDWIVES, CONSULTANTS, ANESTHETISTS! Getting really sick of all the conflicting information I'm being given. None of them seem to know what they are on about.

Saw MW yesterday and was chatting to her about birth options as I have STILL not made my mind up what to do. (I'm 32wks)

For those few souls on here that haven't heard me whinging on - I had a 3rd degree tear last time for no apparent reason, I am booked in for a section this time at my choice but still don't know if I even want it.

So far..

One MW said she would recommend an elective episiotomy to avoid a tear going into my bum and not to birth in water as it makes your tissue more likely to tear.

Consultant said - NO WAY for episiotomy as I would be more likely to tear and he suggested a water birth or happy for me to have a section.

Anaesthetist said, as it took 9 times to get the spinal in last time it would be better to have a General for the section.

When they were trying to get the spinal in I had just given birth, was bleeding everywhere and totally distressed and begged them to knock me out and was told it would be better for me to be awake.

Now I am being told it will be perfectly fine to be knocked out while still pregnant!!

He said they would try the spinal as often as I could bare

MW yesterday said they are only allowed to try 3 times and thats it??????

When I asked one MW what happens if I go into labour before the section date she said we just examine you to see how far on you are then if you change your mind and want to give birth thats fine or we just whisk you in for the section.

MW yesterday said NO WAY that will happen, she said if you go into labour before your section date they won't give you a section without a medical reason - to which I relpied, erm..what about the reason I am terrified about ending up with a colostomy bag and the consultants have already agreed I have every right and reason to have one???? She said not. Section is booked for 39 wks and I had DD at 37 so now scared I'll go into labour and my choice will be taken away from me.

WHO do I believe, getting so so fed up of this. I really don't know what to do. I spent all afternoon crying yesterday.

The only thing I can do is to go for it and just hope I don't tear as badly again. Thats it, 'hope' or maybe give birth in water...if the pool is free..if my labour is safe to do so.

Otherwise I go for the section ( if I make it to the day ) and risk having to have a general anaesthetic as they had problems getting the spinal in last time when I needed to be put back together.

What do you reckon?

And I did start a thread asking about anyone who had a bad tear last time, what happened second time but didn't get too many replies so would be very intersetd to hear your stories

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 01:26:37

Congratulations, Gillyan! Glad you had a happy birth!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 01:15:19

UPDATE

And the spinal went in 2nd time - easy as that!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 05-Jul-09 01:14:20

UPDATE

Thansk for all the advice I got on this thread,

DD2 was born by elective c/section on 23/06/09 8lbs Summer Jennifer

I ended up in and out of hospital from 34 wks with premature labour that was stopped, kept having to go back in with contractions. Then at 36 wks baby was breech but kept turning every other day as I had excess fluid.

finally decided I wanted the lective section and every time they thought I was inestablished labour - dependning on what doc was on call - they tried to talk me out of the section.

Ended up back in on the 23rd, having biggest contractions yet - cervix wasn't dilating and although it was 6 days to go before my planned c/s I saw the head consultant man who happened to be on call and he was mazing and said if I wanted hee would do the section that day! I had a show in the morning and then lost more blood so I think I would of been established before long. He explained the risk to the babies lungs as I was 37 + 5 but he said it was just a small risk.

We took an hr to think and decided to go for it - I was in theatre within 30 mins and she was born within 10 mins from then, she came out screaming with an apgar of 9 and 9 so no worried about the lungs and 8lbs at 37 + 5!!

out of hospital in 2 days and am making a good recovery

I would chose section over possible 3rd degree tear anyday. The recovery is a million times better than from the tear and the whole experience was amazing and enjoyable.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 20-May-09 17:03:58

Congratulations Cote. Make sure you keep on top of your pain relief, it is very important.

I can recommend elec CS as well.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 20-May-09 16:53:48

Congratulations Cote!

Much love to you and DS.

Remember to keep on top of the pain though. If you wait till that trolley has gone before deciding you need something you can be in for a long wait.

So glad it all went well.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 20-May-09 16:24:11

DS was born this morning by elCS. Very positive experience. I haven't had painkillers for a few hours now and while there is some pain, it's totally manageable. Much less than with previous normal birth with huge episiotomy.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 18-May-09 15:41:51

cote You're having a elcs this wed???? OMG! Wow, hope it goes well, yes please come back and tell us how tou get on. Best of luck!! xx

ballon LOL at the cozy comments, yes I can imagine that will be lovely actually! I'm weeing all the time now and I know it will only get worse over the next few weeks. My bathroom is a floor below our bedroom and it's such a pain to get down the stairs every few hrs!

sunshine thanks for your info, glad you had such a good experience!

I rang to try and get hold of the MW today (the nice one) but she wasn't in so I asked to leave a message for her to call me back. 5 mins later another MW called from my team and said nice MW was away for the wk on annual leave and could she help....It was the bitch MW who told me a load of crap last week so I said 'no thanks I'll wait till she gets back' I bet she's wondering why I want to speak to the Senior MW having only just seen her ( horrible one ) a few days ago.

Thinking about it too, the consultant never said anything about c/s on booked day only and neither have the oother 2 MW's so she's just talking rubbish.

I will still get hold of other MW to confirm it but if i go into labour I will also just insist ( where feesable ) that I am having a c/s

Thank you to EVERYONE who has posted on here, I know there is no right or wrong answer but I just needed to keep talking it through and all the info off all of you has been really really great. I'll probably change my mind again yet, we'll see

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 18-May-09 10:18:46

Gillyan just to reiterate what you've been told here, I was booked in for an elective CS with DD and was told if I went into labour in advance it was entirely up to me if I wanted to try and give birth or have the section at that point.

Having had an EMCS following a 55 hour failed induction with DS, the elective with DD (which I had a 38 weeks) was a breeze. It took about half an hour from start to finish, I was out of bed four hours later and ready to go home in 2 days. Initial pain soon wore off too.

Hope this helps.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 18-May-09 10:09:04

I posted earlier on the thread Gillyann, and now I see you have opted for the CS.

As I mentioned, I have had three and have always found recovery pretty easy. With my second, there was some trouble getting the spinal to work properly, I got in a bit of a state. It worked in the end, but wore off before I even got to the ward - a far cry from the one I had with DC1 which lasted for about ten hours.

I was worried about the spinal not working when I had my third DC. But the anaesthetist was great and it was as easy as anything, and lasted a good long time. Shame on me to say it but after being up in the night to wee every hour for the preceding two months, I love that post-CS cosy feeling from an spinal and a catheter you can't feel [lazy cow emoticon].

My sister had a CS for her first as she was breech. For her second she had a VBAC, and was given an episiotomy. She told me it hurt just as much as the Caesarean scar had, the only difference was she got no sympathy from anyone.

Good luck!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 18-May-09 08:12:00

Gillyan - I will try to come back at some point after my elCS Wednesday morning, and let you know how recovery goes.

Meanwhile, don't be afraid to say "No" in your meetings with consultant, anesthetist, and midwife. When in hospital for first birth, I thought they knew best and had my best interests at heart, which I sadly realized later was not necessarily true for everyone I met. This time, I have been refusing what I don't like (early induction, stereoid injections so I could be induced, being kept 'hungry' in case I'm induced, etc). They can't make you do anything you don't want to do.

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