AIBU to not have or ever want children

(31 Posts)
cheerybear Fri 13-Jun-14 10:37:28

but to come on Mumsnet purely for entertainment reasons, mostly because a few friends have said it's their guilty pleasure with the rows etc, I checked it out and have become an addict (it's a bit like reading the problem pages of magazines when you're a kid). I must say I have stalked for ages and pop on when it's quiet at work or during my lunch for a read.

Obviously I don't like anybody who is unhappy or having serious problems, but some of the arguments on here are very funny. I only joined last night to get involved in one.

WorraLiberty Fri 13-Jun-14 10:39:34

You joined MN just to get involved in an argument? grin

YANBU about the children thing. Lots of MNetters don't have kids.

hollycomputer Fri 13-Jun-14 10:40:17

I'm in exactly the same position. Started lurking a few weeks ago but enjoyed reading so much that I joined.

I don't have children and have never really wanted them. DH feels the same so we decided not to. It's not that I don't like kids, just don't want any of my own!

Hakluyt Fri 13-Jun-14 10:41:08

Absolutely not. But you are unreasonable to hang around on a parenting site!

No of course yanbu and yanbu to be on mn

WorraLiberty Fri 13-Jun-14 10:45:54

Absolutely not. But you are unreasonable to hang around on a parenting site!

Why? confused

Have you seen the 100s of topics on MN that have nothing to do with having a family?

Even if childless people post in the topics that are about having families, they're still entitled to an opinion.

cheerybear Fri 13-Jun-14 10:51:53

There are some very interesting topics on here, I do enjoy reading them. The parenting aspect doesn't interest me, although I do have a step daughter who I love to bits, see her a lot and do lots of things with.

However children don't actually interest me at all, never wanted any and never would have got involved with a man who had them, but I fell hopelessly in love with my husband. Thankfully the parenting bit isn't up to me, that is up to him and his ex, I am just there for the fun things in life with her, like playing on fairs, rock climbing etc.

My husband has rather considerately had the snip so no children for us, I couldn't share him when we are together I like to have him to myself grin

cheerybear Fri 13-Jun-14 10:52:45

Thanks WorraLiberty Xx

TurtleyAmazing Fri 13-Jun-14 11:07:17

Absolutely not. But you are unreasonable to hang around on a parenting site!

I've been on MN for a little while now and rarely discuss parenting. You don't have to have a child to discuss healthy eating or how to budget your money properly. You don't have to have a child to ask for advice regarding relationships or colleagues.

Not every aspect of this site is centered around children!

HarpyFishwifeTwat Fri 13-Jun-14 11:12:05

I'm exactly the same. I love AIBU, Chat, Fiction but don't stray over to the more parenting focused topics. I've learned at lot about dealing with children which I do in voluntary roles and now have a little more consideration for parents. I don't judge the mum with a screaming toddler in the supermarket the way I used to (although I do still judge the ones who let their little darlings push the trolley into my legs).

It's a community website and like all communities there are people with and without children.

HecatePropylaea Fri 13-Jun-14 11:16:15

You are not unreasonable to not have or want children, in fact I think it would be better if more people actually took a lot of time to think properly about whether having children was the right choice for them!

You are also not unreasonable to hang around here. We are AWESOME. I am always shocked to learn that there is anyone who doesn't want to be here grin

I have 2 children and I have been on here for about 7 years. I have probably started more threads about cheese than I have about parenting so I think the whole 'it's a place for parents' stuff is bollocks, really. grin imo it's a place for people to chat. Ideally they would be intelligent, articulate and funny people, but their parental status is not, to me anyway, relevant. It's really more a social club these days than a parenting club, I think.

MehsMum Fri 13-Jun-14 11:29:19

YANBU to decide not to have kids. I joined because a) I have kids and b) had lurked for a week reading and found it insightful and funny. Also other people's responses to AIBUs confirmed my suspicion that my SIL really is an evil bitch a touch unpleasant and it isn't just me - and that was nothing to do with kids or parenting at all.

cheerybear Fri 13-Jun-14 11:29:40

Thanks guys and I appreciate the welcome. I originally came over to have a nose at a controversial thread, but I haven't left since and really enjoy all the topics (not just the controversial ones). I probably would have continued to lurk but really felt I needed to put my point across last night and joined. I am not actually an argumentative person and will enjoy posting. Thanks again for the welcome smile

ProfPlump Fri 13-Jun-14 11:32:06

confused you ARE a parent - you have a stepdaughter who you love her to bits.

Idontseeanyicegiants Fri 13-Jun-14 11:32:15

YANBU, I originally came on here because of an article on one of the classics threads (not Penis beaker, one of the actually funny ones - I think it was an embarrassing moment type of thing) and stayed for everything else grin

ShineSmile Fri 13-Jun-14 11:35:05

Of course yanbu and welcome :-)

MN isn't just a parenting site - look at all the boards, there's hundred of them and a minority regarding being a parent.

YANBU - having kids is not a necessity or a requirement smile

steppemum Fri 13-Jun-14 11:55:36

Obviously I don't like anybody who is unhappy or having serious problems

I was with you until I read that, what a strange comment

Idontseeanyicegiants Fri 13-Jun-14 11:59:12

Steppe I read that as the OP not getting any pleasure out of poster having serious problems

Daisymasie Fri 13-Jun-14 12:01:00

YANBU. Lots of posters don't have children and lots of threads have nothing to do with children or babies. Even the ones that do are often issues that equally affect non-parents eg babies crying in restaurants.

Yes, you'll occasionally get an arse who'll say something stupid like 'I presume you don't have any children.....' to a poster daring to say she doesn't agree with kids being allowed run around and shout in the library or whatever.
But there's so many funny, nice, interesting posters on here they more than make up for the nasty or idiotic ones.

steppemum Fri 13-Jun-14 12:02:44

apologies if I misunderstood OP

Caff2 Fri 13-Jun-14 12:59:47

One of my friends, who's lovely and a brilliant primary school teacher, never wants children, and she is a mumsnetter - and why shouldn't she be?

cheerybear Fri 13-Jun-14 13:47:40

Thanks guys Xxx

And yes, I mean I like reading the posts, but I don't like to read that people are unhappy etc. I don't mind a bit of a comedy row, but I don't like hearing people are upset.

I don't have kids either and I love MN. I do want kids though so I feel I'm building an arsenal of good advice/a preemptive ability to deal with parenting stresses!

YANBU

Andrewofgg Fri 13-Jun-14 13:54:36

Male, son grown up, and I just like the company I keep here. Amazing people, with or without children.

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