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Ins62 · 04/06/2013 15:24

they moved in over 2.5 yrs ago. First parking problems, they think our drive is their space for their 2 cars which they can't park properly and their friends park there too! After a lot of police involvement, they then calmed down but still park unappropriately. They have 5 cats who litter in everyone's gardens, I had to redo my garden cost me a fortune and then had to put spikes on my fence to stop the cats coming into my garden which has worked wonders. They have 2 (lovely) girls - 8 and 10 and then had a little boy who is just turning 2. He is into throwing things, kids do these things, fine. I don't mind balls, toys etc, but he gets hold of his dads tools, brooms, stones and throw them over our fence.

I have by legal order my granddaughter living with me who is 3 yrs old. She loves the garden and 'missed' being hit with the flying stuff. I have been over and expressed my concern 3 times now. They seem to smile and say, 'yeah, yeah - we don't know where he gets the stuff from'.

Now they have gone and bought a absolutely massive, I mean massive trampoline which is way way higher than my fence! I don't mind seeing children playing (I love to see my granddaughter playing) but this is so big it completely distracts my view. (sure not much of a view there are houses but it still is so ugly).

I don't want to spoil it for their children, but what can I do?

anyone experienced this before?

thanks

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LaurieFairyCake · 04/06/2013 15:34

Build a bigger fence.

No, there's nothing you can or should do about trampolines.

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 04/06/2013 15:36

They do sound horrendous on lots of levels but no, there is nothing you can do regarding the trampoline.

Maybe get a bigger one???

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LadyBeagleEyes · 04/06/2013 15:37

I don't get the problem with the trampoline.
You say it distracts from your view but then that you don't have view anyway.
If it's in their garden then it's none of your business really.
The parking and cats are resolved, yes?
Are spikes on the fence legal BTW?

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puckertoe · 04/06/2013 15:44

Sounds a bit stressful, but not a lot you can do.

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AnnOnaMaus · 04/06/2013 15:48

There is literally nothing you can do about the trampoline. On the plus side, it might stop the little one throwing things.

Also, put up a higher fence.

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WorraLiberty · 04/06/2013 15:54

Yes, a higher fence to stop the little one throwing things over.

As others have said, there's nothing you can do about the trampoline.

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plainjaney · 04/06/2013 16:00

If there are spikes on a fence that is low enough for a 2 year old to throw things over and a trampoline is higher than it I'd be more worried about the implications of injuring the older, taller children if I were you.

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CharlieUniformNovemberTango · 04/06/2013 16:06

I don't know where you stand legally with this but I would probably stop returning anything that landed in your garden. Deny all knowledge and bin/charity shop it. Maybe then they will make the effort to stop the boy throwing things.

The trampoline is probably something you will have to live with tbh.

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Iseeall · 04/06/2013 16:19

You could plant some fast growing trees/plants/shrubs.
We had something similar years ago living in a terraced house with the neighbours buying a climbing frame(so the kids just sat on it and peered into other peoples gardens) I think they were to old for it, they certainly didn't climb much.

Anyway a good garden centre should have plenty of screening plants, maybe something prickly to keep the little one abit further away with his throwing.

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Dahlialover · 04/06/2013 16:37

Pyracantha. Not my favourite shrub, but it will grow well in most conditions and has its uses.

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piratecat · 04/06/2013 16:45

i can see how it's all built up and must be stressful.

The fence, well it needs to be higher. I don't think you are legally entitled to a view in this instance.

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chocciebickie · 04/06/2013 17:52

I really sympathise with the trampoline! Our neighbours have caused all sorts of stress in one form or another...so much so we are thinking of moving.
They have now put a trampoline right up against the fence so every time we sit in the garden their faces appear over the fence grinning at us and oh they scream so loud! They are only little but it can be so annoying especially when a grown up also joins them on the blooming trampoline too!
We've had a trampoline in the past but ours are all grown up now but when we did it was put right at the back of the garden so it didn't bother neighbours (much!).
Nothing we or you can do probably but oh I really do sympathise.

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greenfolder · 04/06/2013 19:42

we had neighbours with 3 boys who continually and deliberately chucked stuff into our garden. I simply threw it in the wheely bin and if they asked for stuff back said it doesnt seem to be here.

it stopped them pretty sharpish. this was after 6 months of us putting stuff back over their fence

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quoteunquote · 04/06/2013 22:16

Get a load of galvanised water tanks/cattle feeders (cheap ebay/gumtree/local tip, , locate next to the fence alongside the trampoline put up on bricks, use a decent drill with a screwdriver attachment (not a metal drill bit), get a few metal screws, drill loads of holes in the bottom, using the same screw until it wears out, far cheaper than wasting drill bits,

add loads of crock, then line with membrane, fill with well rotted manure fifty pence a bag, top coat of cheap potting compost,

Plant with several varieties of the large bamboos.

If you don't like the look of the tanks, clad with wood, willow screening,grow plants down, or alongside.

If you do this now you will get quite a good barrier, by next year you won't be able to see them,

Don't be tempted to plant bamboo in the ground, you will regret it for years. that why you put any tank on bricks.

loads of amazing bamboos to choose from, make sure it fast growing clumping, and the thick stalks will absorb some of the noise. mix colours, and it really creates a brilliant screen.

If you know anyone with big clumps of bamboo, they are usually more than happy to let people dig big chunks out, most positively encourage it,with desperate smiles, pay someone to do the digging bit(hellish)

out of all the trampolining screening methods I have experimented with, this has had the most satisfactory results.

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Dahlialover · 05/06/2013 11:09

Wow - bamboos sound a good idea!

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quoteunquote · 05/06/2013 12:07

Bamboos make their own noise, a nice gentle noise, which also helps cancel out the trampoline.


www.bamboogarden.com/Hardy%20clumping.htm

www.shweeashbamboo.com/clumping%20bamboo%20overview.htm

www.bamboogardennursery.co.uk/catalogue.html

www.beautifulbamboo.com/clumpingbamboo.php

Hardy cold climate clumping bamboo.

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flanbase · 05/06/2013 12:11

what a nightmare for you. I would put up a high fence if you can. The trampoline could mean that the ds can't get closeto throw stuff over

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bordellosboheme · 05/06/2013 12:11

Gad, why are you worried about a trampoline. Sorry, but you seem to be looking for problems......

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xylem8 · 05/06/2013 12:21

Get a load of galvanised water tanks/cattle feeders (cheap ebay/gumtree/local tip, , locate next to the fence alongside the trampoline put up on bricks, use a decent drill with a screwdriver attachment (not a metal drill bit), get a few metal screws, drill loads of holes in the bottom, using the same screw until it wears out, far cheaper than wasting drill bits,

add loads of crock, then line with membrane, fill with well rotted manure fifty pence a bag, top coat of cheap potting compost,

...and then the trampoline won't seem so bad at all!! Wink Grin

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Frostybean · 05/06/2013 13:53

My other neighbours have just installed a huge trampoline at the bottom of their garden and now have trampoline parties where the mum, teenage kids and various friends, grand-children come along and bounce on it all afternoon and evening, all weekend. not only can they see into my garden but also into my house. So invasive if you don't live in a detached house with a large garden. The other side is no better as their Bar-b-Que has burned down the left side of my hedge which now allows thier young children clear sight of me wherever I am in the garden, leading to endless shouting and questions as to what I'm doingSad
Going to investigate the bamboo screening ...

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Montybojangles · 05/06/2013 16:03

I would vote for bamboo in a raised bed too.

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quoteunquote · 06/06/2013 16:00

I know xylem8 Grin

but it is that, a days work, and instant trampoline camouflage, or wait ten years for a hedge or tree to grow,

If you order bamboo and tanks on line, you could have it done in a few hours.

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HansieMom · 06/06/2013 17:20

Quote, that was a really good explanation. Regular ornamental grasses could also be used.

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GoEasyPudding · 06/06/2013 17:41

This high and contained bamboo idea is fantastic. Thanks Quote. Genius.

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GoEasyPudding · 06/06/2013 17:43

Our neighbours trampoline loomed over us for two years. Its gone now. I was worried about putting in a climbing frame for my DS as I don't want to annoy anyone, so this bamboo idea is just perfect.

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