I don't know if I'm being fair or not.
We have a small baby (12 weeks) and, inevitably, we've had a lot of visitors at weekends. Lovely, to be expected, and as long as I know when people are coming, so I can put the date in the diary to avoid clashes, great. I also try to pace myself a bit. Not too many overnight visitors in a row and I try to keep one day a weekend free for us as a family. I do my best to be a good host, but prefer notice (a few days, if possible) and like people visiting, but find I can get a bit overwhelmed with the sheer number of people (and I got burnt-out in the run-up to our wedding last year).
We've had my mum up this week to stay, in-laws earlier in the week, friend coming later today. I find out this morning that in-laws want to stop by again this weekend and I just feel it's not convenient. It is unusual they want to come up twice in one week and it will only be a fairly brief visit, but I feel frazzled and tired (baby is fab, but last few nights have been a bit more disturbed than usual) and simply don't want to entertain anyone else this week. I also have some work to do, which had factored into a quiet weekend. I keep saying to them, visit whenever, but tell me in advance. They would have known they would be in the area (and likely to want to visit) for many months.
They are nice people and I am fond of them, but I'm getting exasperated by getting a call on the morning/day before and for them to say they're coming up the following day. Especially as I keep telling them to let us know in advance. They know we're busy (we're booked up until end of June with family visits/other commitments).
I'm almost starting to feel like it's a weird control thing. We've said we can't do last-minute visits (odd exception would be fine), but it's almost as they're forcing us into it.
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happygonicky · 18/05/2013 09:09
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