'Mums with PND are just attention seeking psychopaths'

(33 Posts)
Poppet48 Fri 22-Mar-13 18:15:05

As said by my 'D'Father.

I suffered horrendously with PND, I was on antidepressants and I have had various sessions involving talking therapy and also CBT.

I was so angry at his comment that I said 'That is a fucking disgusting thing to say'.

It was the one of the worst things that I have been through and now I know exactly why he wasn't bothered about me while I was suffering with this illness. Luckily I came out of the other side after suffering for over a year but it was a long battle for me and I finally saw a light at the end of a dark tunnel and I am proud of it and not ashamed about it at all.

AIBU to be extremely angry at his comment?

MagratOfStolat Fri 22-Mar-13 20:15:25

YANBU - I had to start a thread a while back because of my utterly horrendous MIL who told me I was being dramatic, was using it as an excuse to do bugger-all, was attention-seeking, was behaving like "a frothy-mouthed psycho", I should snap myself out of it... repeat to infinity.

At one point I was even denied an invitation to a family gathering on my side because one of my distant relatives objected to them inviting somebody as "unhinged" as me along.

It was disgusting, and I'm honestly still ashamed of their behaviour. MIL is a whole therapist-load of problems in and of herself, but to have others pile in was just horrendous.

People who think like this are just fucking disgusting.

Lucyellensmum95 Fri 22-Mar-13 19:38:23

Gosh, i feel really sorry for your father

That he can be that ignorant!

My mother is struggling to deal with my depression, i think that generation just don't get it - but what your father said was unforgivable, what possesed him to say such a thing? Is he always so mysoginistic?

magimedi Fri 22-Mar-13 19:35:45

YANBU at all - and I am almost certainly closer to your farher's age than yours.

He is just an utter pillock.

I hope you are feeling OK now.

flowers & wine

mameulah Fri 22-Mar-13 19:35:27

YADNBU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111

monkeysbignuts Fri 22-Mar-13 19:35:06

I guess I am attention seeking then blush

LittleBairn Fri 22-Mar-13 19:34:50

What a bastard.

Tell that man he is a dick.

PND is an extremely serious condition that is often dismissed as 'the baby blues'. For a lot of women in can be debilitating, the same as any other mental health problem.

CremeEggThief Fri 22-Mar-13 19:30:19

[shocked] at his ignorance. Amazed people can still think like this in this day and age sad.

Asheth Fri 22-Mar-13 19:30:16

bad enough for anyone to express these views. But for a father to their child who suffered this... words fail me. Glad you're better now. x

Poppet48 Fri 22-Mar-13 19:23:23

We have never had a close relationship, we used to but this isn't the worst thing that he has said/done.

He knew I was suffering with it and how difficult life was to live with it. The comment was about all women that suffer from PND not just myself.

Thank you so much for the replies, I didn't know if I was unreasonably angry as it is an extremely sensitive subject for me but it feels good to know that I am not the only one who feels this way.

Loulybelle Fri 22-Mar-13 19:06:53

Right up there with Tom Cruise, "It can be cured by taking Vitamins"

KatyTheCleaningLady Fri 22-Mar-13 19:05:36

If you ever engage him again on the subject, tell him that psychopathy is a personality trait that can't be cured but that people can and do get over PND all the time.

Wolfiefan Fri 22-Mar-13 19:01:16

YANBU. You were ill. Congratulations on your recovery. You SHOULD be proud.
He's an arse!

YellowandGreenandRedandBlue Fri 22-Mar-13 19:01:03

YANBU. That is an idiotic pov.

paintyourbox Fri 22-Mar-13 18:58:46

Awful! Attitudes like this are what stops people speaking out about mental health problems.

Really glad to hear you have recovered though OP.

SneakyNinja Fri 22-Mar-13 18:54:23

Does he know you suffered from it?!

Still an appalling way of thinking but I need some context. Was he insulting you or just making a general ignorant comment?

idiuntno57 Fri 22-Mar-13 18:53:50

I feel it is a sort of duty to tell everyone (or rather not hide) the details of my illness because so many suffer in silence.
It is only by normalising PND that we're going to get rid of attitudes like his.

Pilgit Fri 22-Mar-13 18:51:16

YANBU. ignorant twat doesn't get close

elliejjtiny Fri 22-Mar-13 18:50:01

YANBU shock. I had PND with DS1 and mild PND with DS2 and DS3. I ended up not telling people (apart from people on forums) because I didn't want attention and because I thought if anyone asked me how I was I'd cry sad

DumSpiroSpero Fri 22-Mar-13 18:49:03

Does your dad normally come out with such ignorant, hurtful rubbish? How is your relationship generally?

My dad is my favourite person in the world after DD but if he came out with something like that I'm pretty certain I'd never speak to him again.

Coping with PND and a newborn was the hardest thing I have ever done.

Whathaveiforgottentoday Fri 22-Mar-13 18:48:56

Yanbu, ignorant man

idiuntno57 Fri 22-Mar-13 18:42:41

YANBU

with PND I was suicidal and psychotic by turns. No one who saw me at this time thought I was a hysteric looking for attention.

perhaps he just can't spell psychotopath....

highlandbird Fri 22-Mar-13 18:39:04

Yadnbu what an awful thing to say...the last thing I wanted was attention when I had pnd I wanted to hide away in a dark corner by myself and be left alone. sad
No wonder so many women are too ashamed and embarrassed to speak up about it when they get this sort of reaction, I would be raging if my DF said such a thing.

ouryve Fri 22-Mar-13 18:37:40

What an awful thing to say. I hope your mum didn't have to go through it with that unsupportive attitude sad

MaryMotherOfCheeses Fri 22-Mar-13 18:36:03

YANBU.

I take it you don't see much of him.

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