would you be upset by this teen behaviour?

(47 Posts)
honeymoonperiod Fri 22-Mar-13 16:29:31

Lashing down with rain here most of the day. I was on my way back from the friday shop around the same time as ds (13) comes out of school. Usually he doesn't mind walking back in the rain - it's only a 15 min walk - but it was so bad and I was nearby I thought I might as well pick him up.

Texted to say I would be waiting along the route. No response to text, I assumed he hadn't noticed it. Then saw ds and group of friends ahead of me, too far for me to shout. I drove a bit further down and drew level with the group wound down the window and called his name. He turned and saw me, the rest of the group turned as well, then he turned away without speaking and they all walked off. I could see the other boys talking to him and looking back at me but he didn't turn again.

I know your parents are embarrassing when you're a teen but surely blanking you in the street is taking things too far? As soon as he came in I sent him to his room - feel too upset to ask him for an apology at the moment - AIBU?

Domjolly Fri 22-Mar-13 19:42:02

Personally i wouldnt put up with my 13 year old treating me like that

And i wouldnt want to set a trend that he can be rude when he is in company i seen this in action with other parents teen who think they can be little there parents when they are around there mates

You cant punsih now any way you have to punish at the time personally i would of parked up marched after ds and then he really would of been embrassed with what happend next

carabos Fri 22-Mar-13 19:38:47

IME, everyone else will think you are much cooler than their own parents, who are, naturally, beneath contempt. Your own child will regard you as lower than dust and pray nightly for your early death.

They will grow out of it eventually. Then, later, a new phase will begin which is much worse. This is the "can I come home for a few years weeks after I finish uni while I work out what I'm doing next" phase.
hmm.

saulaboutme Fri 22-Mar-13 18:35:21

yanbu.

Disrespectful. Please God don't let my kids ever do this to me as I will definitely embarrass them more than they will ever know!
ask him about it when he gets in. he was obviously ignoring you. He needs to apologise.

Midlifecrisisarefun Fri 22-Mar-13 18:27:46

Walk along behind/in front singing songs from a Disney/musical! I told my lot it was revenge for 'terrible twos' its amazing how quickly they fell into line
Humiliation? grin Maybe they should consider manners! Just because they are teens it doesn't follow that poor behaviour/manners should be accepted! selfish little turds are that way because the behaviour is enabled/accepted and excused.

YouTheCat Fri 22-Mar-13 18:06:21

Embarrassing my teen is the only fun I get these days. grin

I'm 100% that you should talk to him and he should apologise.

But as for humiliating him in front of his friends?
No.

There was a thread a while back a younger child and the behaviour of an adult humiliating them (IIRC teacher)

So why would anyone humiliate their teen?
Just make sure he's aware and doesn't repeat.
(They are selfish little turds really, teen boys IMO. No malice in my son but he's the centre of his universe)

WorraLiberty Fri 22-Mar-13 17:51:07

That is beyond rude and not typical teenage behaviour at all IME.

There's no point in 'asking' for an apology though...he needs to offer one genuinely.

ivykaty44 Fri 22-Mar-13 17:31:32

tell him next time to text back otherwise you will dream up some really awful things to say that will make his face go the colour of beetroot and stay that way for a week

ChristmasJubilee Fri 22-Mar-13 17:28:21

I would be very annoyed with my ds's if they had done this. They have a 40 min walk and are always very pleased to see me if I turn up.

bigTillyMint Fri 22-Mar-13 17:11:36

Very rude, but not that surprising!

Having said that, if my DC ever did that to me I would be veryangry
Agree with Ineversaidthat

INeverSaidThat Fri 22-Mar-13 17:09:22

I would have a chat and then decide if he needs a punishment or not. If he is apologetic and makes you lots of cups of tea then that is ok. Being a teen is all about growing up and learning lessons. If he learns from this then that is OK.

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Show him this website, and explain that you will be getting out the fancy dress box if he ever pretends not to see you again grin

popcornpaws Fri 22-Mar-13 16:56:20

No don't punish him, mention how it made you feel and see what his response is.
You can't make him be sorry, he's growing up and you need to accept that he won't always do what you want him to!

Schlock Fri 22-Mar-13 16:56:03

An apology along with a threat that if he does it again you will ask him to pick his pants up and or not to leave so many tissues on his bedroom floor, in front of his friends, should do the trick.

Startail Fri 22-Mar-13 16:56:02

A DF promised that if her DD ever blanked her like that again she'd think of something teeth curling my naff to shout at him from the other side of the road.

Given she has a wicked sense of humour, he had better beware, it will beblush

magimedi Fri 22-Mar-13 16:55:55

I would go for the apology & I would also tell him what you might do if he ever does that again - one/some of the great suggestions of embarassment further up thread.

honeymoonperiod Fri 22-Mar-13 16:55:18

Thanks again you lovely people - i'm going to go and wake him up to start on the tea duty! smile

AgentZigzag Fri 22-Mar-13 16:53:56

Just an apology and ihatethecolds suggestion of cups of tea made for you on demand all weekend.

honeymoonperiod Fri 22-Mar-13 16:53:39

Yes, he's usually pretty nice, I suppose that's why it shocked me.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 22-Mar-13 16:53:15

I think the hard thing is that teens think they'll get ribbed for things they won't get ribbed about, but they'll never know what those things are.

YouTheCat Fri 22-Mar-13 16:53:08

I'd go for the apology and make sure he knows what will happen if he does anything like it again.

AgentZigzag Fri 22-Mar-13 16:52:49

'Just went up to talk to him - fast asleep!'

grin

honeymoonperiod Fri 22-Mar-13 16:52:03

So what do you think - should I punish him with no laptop for today or just get an apology and leave it there?

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