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I recently left my abusive husband. I have been constantly questioning myself... have I done the right thing? Am I at fault? Is his behaviour really just down to depression? Will he change?

I don't possess a vacuum cleaner or a washing machine and I sleep on a borrowed inflatable mattress. My daughter has been peacefully sleeping in her cot since 7:30pm, my dog is snoozing on the (donated) sofa and it has just dawned on me that I am sat here, doing what I want to do, listening to a radio station that I have chosen (as I no longer possess CDs or itunes)! Nobody has switched it off and turned on the TV or played their guitar or both at the same time!!!! I honestly can't remember the last time I have selected my own music in the evening!

Just wanted to share! I think we're going to be OK

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YANBU

Well done for taking this stand, huge pat on the back for you!

You will be fine

I'm proud of you too, Busy . You have made a content and happy home for your little family. Here's to many more peaceful evenings!

YANBU! Well done for being brave enough to take action. You'll be great!

YANBU! Well done you!

Yay!

You'll be better than OK

YANBU that must be a huge relief.

Since you've managed to get an internet connection, why not sign up to Freecycle and see if you can get a vacuum cleaner/washing machine etc?

Wow, you make circumstances that many of us would moan about sound like heaven. Really well done, and it can only get better from here

Well done!

YANBU

in fact YAB bloody marvellous. All power to you

You've done the hardest bit, you left!

You will be absolutely brilliant-you are a strong & capable women. Well done!

Sometimes, the simple things in life really do give the most satisfaction.

Well done you, for finding peace within yourself and your life

Wow ! You have every right to be proud of yourself! Well done

Well done you, really and truly.

And thank you for posting this, it's important to hear what happens AFTER leaving.

You are going to be okay. x

(Oh and what *worra& said re: Freecycle)

Where are you OP? If you're anywhere near Northamptonshire I have a spare Hoover you can have.

I'm proud of you too! You DD is lucky to have you!

Hurrah! Stuff can be replaced. You are safe and happy.
Good luck.
Definitely try freecycle. It is great.

i have tesco club card. never use it much, but i have it because I can.

well done. and yay. brilliant isn't it!

Thanks for all your lovely messages of support. It really does feel marvelous! And yes, I have just joined Freecycle! Thank you for the suggestions Worra and aldi Not near Northamptonshire Kyrptonite but thank you for your offer x

Hooray for you!

Yy to freecycle, also gumtree amd preloved have freebies sections.

Whereabouts in the country are you, I have about enough bedding to keep Russia warm in winter. Also lots of under 1s clothes and kitchen tat.

Pm if your interested

Congratulations on your new life!

Oh meant to say am Edinburgh/ Lothian