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to expect people not to park in Spaces for the disabled if they are not using them for the benefit of the Blue Badge holder?(89 Posts)
Alopogies in advance, but this has really disappointed me and I want a unanimous AIBU as I know I am right.
At the Post Office earlier I saw I man I know park in the disabled bay nearest the shop and pop the blue badge on the dashboard. His passenger then got out and whizzed into the shop.
Surely the badge is there for the man to use when he gets out the car to make access easier for him. He could park further away or drop her off?
I just am so disappointed that someone with experience of the difficulties getting around would take up a spaxe which could be needed by someone less able.
AIBU to be saddened by his lack of consideration?
There is so much BB abuse around. My DD has one and we can't even find a free space half the time.
And people regularly come strolling perfectly normally back to car then affect a really obvious fake limp if they see you looking.
TravelinColour Blue badges are for mobility related disability though, so it's unlikely that a blue badge holder would have a hidden disability (the exception is higher lever DLA and various war veteran pensions).
And what about those with a terminal illness? My DH was issued with one because they said he has less than six months to live. He certainly has no visible disability.
You can never, never, never tell what is happening in people's lives. Not just by looking. Try hard not to judge - life can be unutterably shit and people have to cope as best they can.
so even thought he isnt in the car when she is parking there, she can still do it?
the hubby works, so she parks there even when he isnt in the house.
It is people's need to see a visible disability which is preventing me from getting a BB for DD2.
She has AS and various other health problems which make it hard for her to walk far sometimes and when places are busy or someone brushes against her we really need quick access to the car to help manage meltdowns. She get DLA HRC and I know that medical professionals would support our application but I can't cope with the idea of people challenging us because they cannot see a disability. It would make having the badge pointless because she would never go anywhere if she thought someone might have a go
We have one for DD with ASD and have never been challenged
noclue I imagine if it is outside their house then they have arranged/applied for it to be there iyswim so it's theirs as opposed to one in a car park.
Blue badges are NOT only for mobility related illnesses.
The BB holder is not meant to sit in the car in a disabled bay while someone else nips to the shops - although why would you begrudge a carer this, surely life is shit and anything that makes things a bit easier is good, right?
I have never been challenged either, I would like to see someone fecking try!
We have BB for DD and have never been challenged but since we got special needs pushchair we get less looks and whispers whilst others walk past car.
Thank you for those responses. Maybe I should bite the bullet then. She wouldn't notice the looks and whispers even though I would.
Valium, if we get one I'll take you with me in my head when we go out just in case
sassh yes that's correct. I would love to be able to park at a distance , take my time, saunter in and look around but DS will be getting distressed, start sweating and not so long ago went through a phase of turning blue. We travel with oxygen. When he gets distressed and panicky , the stress can trigger a tonic clonic fit. our horizons have very much shrunk, a long journey of more than an hour is out unless he is lying down in an ambulance.
(I do not make a habit of popping into the shops.)
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
GoldMandra people's need to see a visible disability
this is very well put! am surprised its only one person on this thread who trotted out the same old flawed logic about invisible illnesses. Its almost like we had a civilised debate about something blue badge and parking related! <faints> :-)
but on a serious note, please please don't shy away from getting a blue badge because of this... I was the same but since i've had one, my life really has been a bit easier! and actually, i haven't had any peculiar looks off people yet, which is very weird as i def dont 'look' disabled if you see me just for second, or a couple of meters moving... except for some days when i walk funny. i dont go to supermarkets and places like that though, which is where these things seem to happen, as i cant, so send my carer, who i doesnt use the badge for that (though now i'll ask her as i hadn't thought about it before!)
I do absolutely use disabled spaces to park in and send my carer into a shop (she drives not me), whilst I am in the car. Its because I am in so much pain every second counts and I may not be able to stand it long enough to get home. i didn't think about this being any kind of infraction of the badge as its entirely due to my disability that speed is of the essence... and in those circumstances does that mean i am wrong after all? am confused now!
i did have a few carers last year who were shocking about the blue badge... taking it off me (they drove me, not me driving), and 'forgetting' to give it back and then keeping it overnight/ weekends etc... one would keep it for weeks at a time and unsurprisingly doesnt work for me anymore! I'm sure they used it in their personal time and it really pissed me off as i was physically unable to get it back off them and it smacks of taking advantage of a vulnerable person and i hate feeling like that.
from that experience I wonder if people who abuse blue badges dont have much empathy for the people that really need them ... as those couple of carers were really awful carers too!
I had to fight for my BB as I don't claim DLA (I suffer with anxiety and depression so the applications/medicals/appeals were just to much for me).
I use a crutch and a carer for support now, but before I had the BB I was in a wheelchair. It wouldn't fit into the boot so had to be wrangled into the back seat of the car (it's a large, heavy, old-fashioned monstrosity). Because I didn't have a BB, I was too afraid to risk parking in a space.
After a few months of struggling to get chair out of back of car in a normal space, then DP hurting his back fighting the damn thing, I gave in and told him to park in a disabled space. Of course, that would be the one occasion an attendant came along. We were fined, despite our obvious difficulties. I was NOT ladylike when I spotted someone who blithely pulled up and trotted off after shoving a BB in his windscreen - attendant wouldn't even go check it was his. Yes, there are hidden disabilities (I have Fibro so can look normal until I start to walk), but that guy clearly didn't have any kind of disability that's covered in the conditions needed to get one.
It was that incident that made me apply. Bloody jobsworth!
Because of the abuse, I am too afraid to have DP drop myself and a carer off and then park the car close by in case he's caught without me in it, even though life would be much easier for me.
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