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To wish adults wouldn't throw balls up the slide at soft play?

(64 Posts)
YesIamYourSisterInLaw Wed 20-Mar-13 18:00:01

Because I can't explain to my toddler why its ok for them to do it and not him. Obviously as adults we are able to comprehend not throwing them when someone is coming down the slide etc but young children do not have that logical thought yet.
Why do it? you pains in the ass

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Fri 22-Mar-13 22:35:34

I loathe kids climbing up the slide. I have seen plenty of adults taking out wee kids on the slide - once you are going you can't stop, and an adult has a fair amount of weight/momentum behind them.

Even a kid hitting another kid at slide speed is pretty dangerous.

Really scares me when I see toddlers trying to climb up the big slides. Even worse when you can't see them in a tunnel slide.

larks35 Fri 22-Mar-13 22:27:57

Oh for goodness sake! It is quite easy to explain to a toddler that throwing balls up a slide when others are using them isn't on, it is also quite fun to throw a ball up the slide to your toddler and have him roll it back down to you. It is also quite easy to explain to your toddler that climbing up a slide isn't the done thing even if other children do it. It is also quite easy to explain to your toddler that he isn't having choclolate buttons even if others are. etc. etc. etc...

Your child is always going to witness others doing stuff that you don't want him to do. Rather than expect everyone to behave the way you want your child to, you need to develop a way of explaining your expectations to him regardless of what other people do.

MrsKeithRichards Fri 22-Mar-13 22:19:50

grin at performance parenting.

None of your examples constitute performance parenting. Cool laid back parent attempt fail.

hazeyjane Fri 22-Mar-13 18:41:04

hopefloats, you're kidding right?! Playing with your toddler, singing to them and keeping them entertained in a waiting room, are all fairly standard things to do with your children!

SolomanDaisy Fri 22-Mar-13 17:22:31

If singing the wheels on the bus in the supermarket is performance parenting, I think MN has finally reached the stage where any form of interaction with your child outside the confines of your living room is considered performance parenting. What super cool relaxed parents!

catgirl1976 Fri 22-Mar-13 16:46:54

I just sang Wheels on the Bus to DS on the bus

I read to him in waiting rooms

And I actively play with him at soft play

I just call it "Parenting" though. It's not a performance.

hopefloats Fri 22-Mar-13 16:02:02

OP, it is called 'performance parenting' and the same parents will be found singing Wheels On The Bus in the supermarket and reading a book REALLY LOUDLY in any medical waiting room, to their offspring. This proves they are very good parents indeed.

KatoPotato Fri 22-Mar-13 15:50:34

Oh Worra you made me 'audibly hoot' once again!

I have, however, seen children take the ride-on cars to the top of the slide and roll them down, which is dangerous, and could have someone's eye out. Pisses me off that the parents ignore this behaviour.

I have never seen anyone doing this at soft play.

katrinefonsmark Thu 21-Mar-13 10:10:32

I agree with worra, I clicked on this thread for same reason I stop the remote on qvc- incredulous at the banality. That aside op you're right. No balls up the slide.

WorraLiberty Thu 21-Mar-13 10:03:16

YANBU. Why would anyone want to touch those grotty balls on purpose?

I said exactly the same thing to my DH in bed last night....

HugeFloweryPants Thu 21-Mar-13 09:56:29

I second the going down the slide not up thing. Every other child takes 20 seconds to go down, nice flow of children using it and no queue. Until one precious darling's turn has to be a prolonged effort to go UP it and a queue that never was forms of children that take turns/ down kick others in the face. Precious darling then turns round, slides down...and straight back up again going up and down until their bored while every other child waits.

I think it's fair to play with one rule:
don't do anything that is likely to upset/ hurt others

There's still loads to do without being annoying

zzzzz Thu 21-Mar-13 09:51:22

Over prescriptive playing is incredibly boring, YABRidiculous.

Sunnymeg Thu 21-Mar-13 09:49:57

I still remember a boy in my class breaking both his legs by climbing up a slide and then another lad coming down and straight into him. I have a real thing about slides now because of that.

kelda Thu 21-Mar-13 09:44:47

YANBU at any adult playing in the soft play and looking like they enjoy it.

Soft play is for the parents ie. ME to sit at a table as far away as possible, read my book and stick my fingers in my ears if necessary.

Crawling Thu 21-Mar-13 09:40:53

grin well your taking it in good fun grin

YesIamYourSisterInLaw Thu 21-Mar-13 09:36:05

grin @ how I'm a tyrant
Worra I may look back and think meh but I doubt I'll cringe. If only this was the most cringeworthy thing in my life, if only.....

SissySpacekAteMyHamster Thu 21-Mar-13 09:32:25

I'm with Worral (well I would be if it was an issue) wink

KatoPotato Thu 21-Mar-13 09:31:50

YANBU. Why would anyone want to touch those grotty balls on purpose?

zippey Thu 21-Mar-13 09:27:40

I dont think there is a right or wrong answer in this, but I would take the view to keep it fun and let children explore. For example, you can tell them that paper is used for writing and reading, but also for making paper aeroplanes, oragami, snowballs etc.

I think its great to throw balls on a slide and watch them come down.

Crawling Thu 21-Mar-13 09:26:32

YABU let people play stop being a tyrant trying to dictate play rules.

catgirl1976 Thu 21-Mar-13 07:51:01

Remind me to ensure I fully supress DS's sense of adventure, desire to explore an try things out and his imagination next time I take him out to play hmm

Maybe there could be a manual on how he should play and how much fun he is allowed

ohmyrainydays Thu 21-Mar-13 07:39:06

I hate it when children go up the slide the wrong way. It usually is a child that isn't being supervised and then there becomes a back log of children at the top because they won't get off. I think it's dangerous and shouldn't be encouraged.

MrsKeithRichards Thu 21-Mar-13 07:10:48

You know it's only us adults that attach instructions and right ways to play equipment. Part of being a child is exploring, learning and using these things.

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