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To think DH could get kids in pyjamas and upstairs at least

(31 Posts)
Speedos Fri 22-Feb-13 20:39:08

I went to the gym tonight at 6.30, got home at 7.45. DH had done nothing to get the kids ready for bed, they were still downstairs watching tv, they are 2 and 5.

I had the 2yo already in pj's before I left, all he had to do was get the 5yo undressed and at least upstairs, he can't cope with actually putting them in bed on his own.

The above scenario has happened twice this week as it's half term, I never normally go out in the evenings.

Is this too much to fucking ask?

Something has just flipped in me over tonight and his lack of doing anything for or with the children on his own initiative.

badguider Fri 22-Feb-13 22:29:11

It is shit and he shouldn't have to be told but if it is a change from the normal routine then I would have just had a quick chat about what I was expecting before I left - e.g. if get them into jamies and upstairs by 7 and i'll pop in to see them when i'm back? or something similar... just general swapping 'shifts' chat... DH would do the same to me.. or if he went to the gym i'd say 'will you be back to do stories? i'll get them ready for you...'

Jacksmania Sat 23-Feb-13 02:27:52

Why does he hate you going to the gym? [baffled]

I'm going to tell you a little story, sit down children... Today while DH was at work, I needed to change a light bulb. I never change them, that's DH's job. I looked in the cupboard, I looked in the pantry, I looked in the 'misc.' drawer, I looked all over. I thought, I'll just call him. Then I thought BOLLOCKS TO THAT I'LL BLOODY FIND THEM. Because I don't want to be the useless partner who does nothing and knows nothing. Your DH is lazy and doesn't care. School him.

BTW two shiny new light bulbs in their sockets without DH's assistance.

CheerfulYank Sat 23-Feb-13 04:33:39

Definitely have a chat with him.

DH does bath and bed with DS every night.

Speedos Sat 23-Feb-13 15:50:16

jacksmania I have no idea, can't be bothered to look after children probably, even for an hour or two.

I told him this morning how annoyed I was and he just carried on shaving then left about 9am. Sent me a text about 11am saying 'sorry, was tired after work and wasn't a school night' pathetic really!

I need to get him to make an effort as have had enough now.

Jacksmania Sun 24-Feb-13 04:48:06

Do come back and update us!!

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