To think that the "reusable nappy crew" are on par with the "breastfeeding only crew" when it comes to hysteria?

(351 Posts)
DisposableNappy Wed 20-Feb-13 21:00:40

They both come out with that old chestnut "it doesn't take extra time or energy".

The reusable nappy crew keep emphasising how much money they save. How the disposable nappy parents are "harming the environment" with their non-biodegradable nappies and baby poo.

They try to make disposable nappy parents feel bad IMO. The same way those breast feeding mad mothers do.

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Wed 20-Feb-13 21:03:32

Is an extension of competative parenting.

Something which is best ignored.

wink

EeyoresGloomyPlace Wed 20-Feb-13 21:03:39

I'm hugely pro bf, for me it took much less time and effort, and i am proud of that, but I hope I would never come across as judging someone who chose to do differently.

I use disposable nappies and there's no way on earth anyone could convince me reusables aren't a massive pita.

I don't know anyone in RL who cares enough to make me feel bad about it though.

Blessyou Wed 20-Feb-13 21:05:28

So you don't mind spending extra money for disposable convenience.
So they don't mind spending a little time for saving the planet and money.
So what?

ravenAK Wed 20-Feb-13 21:07:18

Actually, I did find both bf'ing & reusable nappies saved me money & were less hassle/gross than the alternative (faffing about with powder'n'scoops'kettles when sleep deprived? humming binbags full of shit? No thanks).

But y'know, each to their own. Really not about to get hysterical about anyone else's gungy powder scoops or flyblown bins...grin

DisposableNappy Wed 20-Feb-13 21:07:21

blessyou, I bet you I don't do more harm than a massive 4x4 or pick up truck does going up the M1 when I chuck a disposable nappy in the bin.

YouTheCat Wed 20-Feb-13 21:07:49

It's a matter of being a bit pissed off when someone else gets all judgy about other people's parenting choices. And then won't listen to someone else's view.

honeytea Wed 20-Feb-13 21:07:59

I use cloth nappies purely because tgey are cheap (we have free washing facilities in our apartment complex) I feel a bit embarrassed when other cloth nappy users try to engage me in a conversation about how much disposables damage the environment or how nasty chemicals touch the baby's skin, I have to say "we only do it because it is cheap --and I like the pretty paterns--"

lovelyredwine Wed 20-Feb-13 21:08:35

My dd is in reusable nappies and I breastfeed her until she was 2 so I'm probably one of the people you are referring to.

I couldn't care less what other people do. That's what we chose to do. Most people I know in rl don't know we use reusables as I just assume they don't care what nappies we use- it's not riveting conversation.

I think YABU as you're tarring everyone with one brush, when everyone does not live their lives the same and don't act the same.

dinkystinky Wed 20-Feb-13 21:08:45

If they want to spend their time and money on reusables, then fair play to them. As there is no one right way to parent or cover your childs arse its really not worth getting her up about.

thebody Wed 20-Feb-13 21:09:22

I bf but drive a 4+4 and used disposables.

And I don't care!! Eek wine making me bold..

TCOB Wed 20-Feb-13 21:09:24

'breastfeeding only crew' 'those breastfeeding mad mothers'? What crass lazy things to write. You lump people into whatever little packages helps you cope with them, dear.

kerala Wed 20-Feb-13 21:09:35

Riles you because you know they are right. Good for them. I used to get sneering and snarky comments from the "disposable nappy crew" would hmm you but can't on phone but hmm anyway.

EeyoresGloomyPlace Wed 20-Feb-13 21:09:54

Agree with YouTheCat, anyone getting judgey about any of your parenting choices says more about them than you. Do what suits you & your DCs, let them do what suits theirs.

GingerbreadGretel Wed 20-Feb-13 21:09:58

I agree some people can be very holier than though about reusable nappies.

When we were at the nappy stage we were stuck in a flat with an absolutely terrible damp problem. There was no way we could have had reusable nappies without either using the dryer (which when I did the research to decide pretty much negates all the benefits) or making the damp problem considerably worse - and thereby endangering our health. This didn't stop the "but they are so great" lectures.

It would have been lovely to be able to say "yes, they are great, but not for me at this time".

Which goes for many decisions in life!

CSIJanner Wed 20-Feb-13 21:10:09

^ what BlessYou said ^

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Whyriskit Wed 20-Feb-13 21:10:45

I don't give a flying one what others do. I don't shove the fact that I breastfed and that DS2 STILL wears reuseables down people's throats.
I'm not a competitive parent. I just do what I do. You do what you do. Lovely.

KirstyJC Wed 20-Feb-13 21:11:38

As someone who does both, I think YABU to be bothered by this - whatever people do or don't say to you about their parenting choices is up to them. How you feel about what they say is up to you - if you think they are trying to make you feel bad, what does that say about you? Why do you assume that? And why does it bother you?

Oh, and it actually doesn't take up much extra time and you do save money. But it is entirely up to you if you chose to do it as well, I couldn't really care less.

It's not an either/or. We use reusables during the day and disposables at night and that works for us because I can't be arse to go looking for alternatives.

Smooshy Wed 20-Feb-13 21:12:57

I chose bf as it mainly involved sitting or lying around and no washing up! Definitely no extra energy involved there!

I also used reusable nappies for most of mine and didn't mind that extra effort of washing and drying them. I was, however, very thankful for disposables when DS5 had terrible nappy rash in the reusables and even buying new ones didn't get rid of it. I did feel guilty about them going to landfill. No one else made me feel guilty though, I managed that all by myself!

Most people I know only ever used disposables and I never lectured to them, they just thought I was mad and weird. I never understood how they thought washing nappies was so hard, I only put them in the washing machine like I did with clothes!

EeyoresGloomyPlace Wed 20-Feb-13 21:13:08

What is odfod? I've seen it three times today and am none the wiser.

DisposableNappy Wed 20-Feb-13 21:13:18

lovelyredwine I don't mean to tar everyone with the same brush, but I've met and come across quite a few women who think they're the bees knees for using reusable, and that women who use disposables are "so silly for not learning about the benefits of reusables because they're just so blimming amazing". It annoys me.

nenevomito Wed 20-Feb-13 21:13:26

You're doing a whingy post about how other people parent, to complain that other parents are whingy.

Right. As you were.

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