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To get a bit impatient with really fussy eaters (adults)

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atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:25:31

I'm not talking about people with medical conditions which preclude certain foods from their diet or people who have anxiety issues re certain types of food/ different foods touching each other on the plate etc

But adults who just turn their noses up at anything other than plain meat and potatoes and act as if vegetables, pasta, fish, anything containing spices or garlic or cooked in a sauces is on a par with serving up roasted worms are a bit irritating - difficult to cook for and impossible to please when trying to meet up in a restaurant.

AIBU to think grown ups should at least try a few different foodstuffs and be a little bit open minded about what they're prepared to eat?

atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:41:18

I can't stand rice and prawns. My friend and mil keep trying to force it on me. I don't have to like everything! Quote

What has this got to do with the point being made on this thread?

digerd Mon 18-Feb-13 16:43:21

My SIL is a brilliant cook and so is her son-in-law. So I never complain.
My days of entertaining and cooking for 30 people are over, - relieved expression.

noblegiraffe Mon 18-Feb-13 16:44:11

Why should they eat something they don't like or don't want to just to please you? Self absorbed, much?

Twattybollocks Mon 18-Feb-13 16:44:24

Yabu. I'm a fussy eater. Certain smells and textures make me gag, if I carried on eating them I would probably vomit. I don't know why I'm this way, but I hate the same foods now as I did when I was a kid. Why should I eat foods that I don't like and spoil my meal just to avoid annoying people who aren't fussy? I can generally find something I like on the menu at most types of restaurant except mexican, so it doesn't limit me overly. I try to avoid people who don't know me cooking meals for me so I avoid offending if they have spent time making something I just can't stomach. People who know me know my quirks and are normally happy to cater for them, or I'll just leave the bits I don't like.

I'm picky, but if someone invites me to tea at theirs, I eat it. If it's my lucky day and they've asked if there's anything I don't eat, I will give them my top two hates (raw tomato and yoghurt) but everything else I can cope with.
FWIW it's a texture thing- I don't get it either but it sets my teeth on edge.

I have a friend who makes me pale in comparison. We just get McDonalds or pizza if we're eating together. No sauces, no veggies, no spices, no garlic...

YABU, and YANBU. YABU to tar us all with the same brush, but YANBU because it's a bloody PITA.

ENormaSnob Mon 18-Feb-13 16:44:51

Just realised I can't actually decide if I think yabu or not grin

I don't really socialise with anyone that is that fussy so can't really comprehend how it impacts so much on others tbh.

I don't eat seafood, mushrooms (although I cook with them and remove them from my portion) or savoury stuff with fruit in. Other than that I can eat anything and never have a problem eating out.

I don't eat fish. I have tried once or twice in the last few years, but I'm afraid it still makes me physically retch, even fish fingers, tinned tuna etc. I have a phobia of them as well. If I see them I am likely to cry hysterically, so I will request not to go to sea food restaurants. Sorry if this offends you, but my wish to not having panic attacks matters to me more than you wanting me to not be difficult. YABU.

Nancy66 Mon 18-Feb-13 16:45:47

Totally agree. Find it very childish and tedious.

They're the sort of people who go to Spain on holiday and eat egg and chips for a fortnight.

BellaVita Mon 18-Feb-13 16:45:57

I remember MIL taking us to a Greek restaurant many years ago for her 60th. She and the three SILS all had omelet and chips hmm

BellaVita Mon 18-Feb-13 16:47:04

Nancy, the SILS and MIL do that too....

atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:47:50

Personally Noble I think its the fussy - for no particular reason of illness etc - eaters who are self absorbed, sitting around with mimsy faces and refusing to try anything and assuming that everyone is happy to go to a boring bland restaurant to suit their closed minds on what foods they will try.

ps I have friends who are fussy eaters but know it and laugh about it. They don't annoy me but some of the 'oh, I will gag. I cannot believe you're eating an olive. How disgusting' types have me tapping my fingers under the table.

KellyElly Mon 18-Feb-13 16:48:42

I've been told I'm fussy but I don't think I am - I don't eat organs (livers, kidneys) or glands (sweatbread - <boak>), or pork (unless it's sausages or bacon). I eat veg, chicken, all fish, spicy, garlic etc. I do have a friend who is very fussy - barely any veg, no garlic, no cheese, no creamy sauces, no dairy in desserts, no cod, no pork, only minced beef, only poached salmon...the list goes on smile. I have now given up when she comes round and suggest we get a take away!

atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:49:21

And by the way, I made it perfectly clear in my OP that I wasn't talking about people with phobias, illnesses etc. Why are some posters ignoring that?

atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:50:26

You don't sound particularly fussy Kelly.

Terpsichore Mon 18-Feb-13 16:50:51

YANBU.

I have no problem - obviously - if people have allergies or just can't stomach certain things. But there's a point when it becomes ridiculous.

'Come Dine With Me' always has an extraordinary selection of people like this. They don't eat veg, or fruit, or something equally basic, and sit there making weird gagging faces and ensuring they're the centre of attention. I remember one grown woman who prodded and sniffed at everything and at one point claimed that she'd never eaten soup before in her entire life hmm

ThonHoor Mon 18-Feb-13 16:51:26

Horrace - you seriously would burst out crying at the sight of a fish????? hmm

Being an OTT fussy eater as an adult suggests general immaturity, a lack of imagination and adventurous spirit and a small minded attitude. As Nancy says, the type who go abroad and eat (well cooked) burger and chips every night.

Idiots.

Jins Mon 18-Feb-13 16:51:58

To be honest all the fussy eaters I know would probably fall into the phobia group to some extent.

ifancyashandy Mon 18-Feb-13 16:53:05

Horace what happens if you go to a restaurant and one of your fellow diners ordered fish? Genuinely interested. Do your F&F understand your phobia and order accordingly? What if it were an aquaintance?

DontmindifIdo Mon 18-Feb-13 16:53:19

My parents are like this with various made up allergies added to real ones so you never know which to take seriously or not I ate a very limited range of foods before leaving home - it's taken the determination to not be like them (and reading at 18 someone discribe in print my parents behaviour about turning down foods that someone else had cooked for them as rude to realise I didn't want to copy their behaviour and have other people think I'm rude) to widen my range of foods. I now find catering for them with anything other than a sunday roast (well done, only) impossible.

atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:56:10

God, don't start me on the people who go to visit some European city and make it their mission on the first night to find the nearest McDonalds to the hotel.......

Regrettably I do ThonHoor! Anything over about 5 cm's long blush I have a good friend who covered over her goldfish tank with a towel when I visited...

I'm getting better about it, previously it extended to cartoon fish (not crying, but feeling panicked) and included touching things like children's books books, fish shaped toys. I know, ridiculous.

Sorry OP, I didn't notice the anxiety bit, only the allergy/intolerance bit which is a bit thick of me as it was all in the same sentence.

GrowSomeCress Mon 18-Feb-13 16:57:13

Oh god yes Nancy that is ridiculous, when people go on holiday and just eat McDonald's, crappy kebabs, chips and egg the whole time. So boring.

specialsubject Mon 18-Feb-13 16:57:22

for a night out at a restaurant, it's easy - if a restaurant can't be found that suits everyone, the fussiest don't go. They can come along for coffee afterwards.

for staying with someone, allergies etc should be advised before (I phrase it to guests as 'is there anything I shouldn't serve up?') That puts the onus on the guest to make suggestions, although I have a very conservative relative and can find at least a week's worth of meals with no problem.

Anyone over the age of 3 who goes 'eew, how can you eat that?' will not be asked or socialised with again.

I don't like tomatoes and onions. To some people this makes me fussy because it rules out some dishes.
To me, it's not fussy as I'm happy to not eat these foods and just pick something else on a menu. I'll happily eat fish/calamari/things in sauces/spices etc, and i can't see why anyone else would be bothered by what I choose to not put in my mouth confused

noblegiraffe Mon 18-Feb-13 16:58:13

I have friends who are fussy eaters but know it and laugh about it. They don't annoy me

Oh, I see, so fussy eating doesn't annoy you, just the behaviour of some people you don't like.

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