To get a bit impatient with really fussy eaters (adults)

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atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:25:31

I'm not talking about people with medical conditions which preclude certain foods from their diet or people who have anxiety issues re certain types of food/ different foods touching each other on the plate etc

But adults who just turn their noses up at anything other than plain meat and potatoes and act as if vegetables, pasta, fish, anything containing spices or garlic or cooked in a sauces is on a par with serving up roasted worms are a bit irritating - difficult to cook for and impossible to please when trying to meet up in a restaurant.

AIBU to think grown ups should at least try a few different foodstuffs and be a little bit open minded about what they're prepared to eat?

ThonHoor Mon 18-Feb-13 16:27:15

YANBU. I totally agree.

I have no time whatsoever for grown adults who turn their nose up at good quality food because they choose to behave like a 4 year old. And I don't cook for fussy eaters.

teaandbourbons Mon 18-Feb-13 16:27:39

YANBU, I have a friend like this. So difficult to find a restaurant with something she will actually eat!

Jins Mon 18-Feb-13 16:28:17

How do you know they haven't tried different things?

Kittenkatzen Mon 18-Feb-13 16:28:27

YANBU to find it mildy irritating. Ultimately their loss though <shrugs>

ENormaSnob Mon 18-Feb-13 16:29:24

Unless you are having to cater for them I can't really see the problem tbh.

There are a few things I won't eat and a whole shed load of stuff I will. It doesn't really impact on anyone else imo.

I have a friend like this. So proud he doesn't eat vegetables. Plonker.

atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:30:13

Jins because I know some really fussy eaters who openly admit they've never eaten certain items because the look/smell 'disgusting'. They apply this to an enormous range of foods and basically are only prepared to eat the food their mum used to cook for them.

FoxtrotFoxtrotSierra Mon 18-Feb-13 16:30:20

Maybe they have tried stuff and don't like anything else. Surely as adults they're allowed to know their own minds.

CrapBag Mon 18-Feb-13 16:31:14

YABU but there will plenty along to tell you you are not.

Its nothing to you if another grown person decides that they don't want to eat a more varied diet. I hate this thing where others think other adults have to eat a more varied diet. As an adult we can eat whatever the hell we like whether its bland or not. I am a slightly fussy eater and just choose not to eat out much or not eat at others houses. If they invite me (knowing I am slightly fussy, I am not actually that bad) then they cook something I like, not invite me then expect me to eat whatever they serve.

Although my friend does think I have a phobia of trying new food stemming from a bad early 4 years, being starved and other food related issues like having face shoved in it and having to watch others eating nice food while I sat with dry bread and water. I have actually had to have a strong word with some of my friends who make constant references to my food issues. It gets pretty grating.

Softlysoftly Mon 18-Feb-13 16:31:37

Yabu Ok there are limits but grown ups know what they do/don't like generally should they eat things they hate?

I can't stand rice and prawns. My friend and mil keep trying to force it on me. I don't have to like everything!

atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:31:41

But it does impact on other people Enorma. For instance, choosing a restaurant for a work night out is always a nightmare because someone or other will only eat plain burgers and chips and can't stand the smell of garlic or anything in a sauce etc etc.

FoxtrotFoxtrotSierra Mon 18-Feb-13 16:32:07

Damn, x-post. Though not eating stuff that smells disgusting sounds OK to me.

I am horribly fussy but will try new things (and old things as my mother insists my tastebuds will change) and just not eat the bits I don't do if people cook for me. Having been forced to clear my plate of food I loathed as a child has left me with the opinion that I shouldn't have to do the same as an adult.

Jins Mon 18-Feb-13 16:32:36

I can't see why it's difficult at a restaurant to be honest. Most places have a really simple option somewhere on it.

As far as catering for them goes then just don't do it. Let people help themselves and make sure there's bread and leave them to it. They'll be a whole lot happier than having the hostess being all judgy about what they eat

CrapBag Mon 18-Feb-13 16:32:45

Also smell is linked to taste, if I can't stand the smell of something to the point it makes me gag, then I am not going to like the bloody taste either!

valiumredhead Mon 18-Feb-13 16:34:07

It's the sneering and over the top gagging that I have no patience with.

GrowSomeCress Mon 18-Feb-13 16:34:19

YANBU

Particularly irritates me when people expect a large portion of beef or whatever with everything as it 'isn't a meal' without red meat

FreckledLeopard Mon 18-Feb-13 16:34:30

Fussy eaters drive me up the wall - children are bad enough, but I cannot abide picky adults. Obviously, I'm not going to serve up offal, pigs' trotters or sauted rattlesnake. But pasta, onions, garlic, tomatoes, cheese, eggs - none of these are especially exotic.

Happy to cater for people with allergies, veggies etc - but otherwise, I think, grown-ups ought to be able to eat what's put in front of them, even if they're not wild about it. It's polite.

GrowSomeCress Mon 18-Feb-13 16:35:32

atthewelles completely agree, I don't like it when people refuse things they have never tried because 'it looks vile' so rude too!

atthewelles Mon 18-Feb-13 16:35:48

I know valium. I particularly hate 'Eugh. Do you know what that reminds me of......' angry

Jins Mon 18-Feb-13 16:36:06

I have dietary issues by the way. I'm a coeliac but when you let people know in advance you'd think I'd told them I only eat roasted worms. So many people can't cook without resorting to gluten somewhere.

I'm on the side of the fussy people. Eating is supposed to be a pleasure after all

ElliesWellies Mon 18-Feb-13 16:36:19

My ex was like this. No fruit, no veg. He had chronic constipation and it was bloody obvious why, but he was insistent it was some kind of unspecified medical condition instead of a diet of shop-bought ready meals, too much meat, and too much dairy.

ENormaSnob Mon 18-Feb-13 16:36:30

So go with the restaurant the majority want to eat at. That's what we do at work and within my social circle.

I have never once not found something I like on a menu. Tbf though, there are millions of things I do eat and only a few I don't so maybe you know really exceptionally fussy eaters?

ewaczarlie Mon 18-Feb-13 16:37:31

YANBU - DH is like this and it drives me mad e.g. will eat roast potato, hash browns and potato waffles but refuses mash, normal potatoes, new potatoes etc If his fussiness was limited to potatoes i would forgive him but sadly theres a whole list of veg that i cant cook for him (real pain when im cooking dinner and have to do 2 diff versions!)

TheFallenNinja Mon 18-Feb-13 16:40:19

This drives me mad. It's just utterly ridiculous. Grown ups that act like children over food.

Most of em make it up for the attention. Hrmphh

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