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to be slightly miffed by this? (wedding related...)

(27 Posts)
VelvetSpoon Sat 16-Feb-13 14:35:21

I'll start by saying I'm not upset or annoyed, miffed probably is as strongly as I would put it....but happy to be told I am BU!

the background is as follows: bride to be and I worked together for 3 years, until the end of last year. There are another 3 girls who have worked with us for the last 1-2 years. We were all part of the same workgroup, together with 5 other people (3 male, 2 female). All of us now work in different places.

I considered the bride to be a friend - not a close friend, but a friend. I have socialised outside work with her on several occasions (as have the 3 girls, but not the other 5 people). I also - at her request - accompanied her to various consultation meetings at the end of last year when her role was at risk of redundancy (which I did simply because she'd asked, and not with any ulterior motive!)

She is getting married in the summer - I didn't entirely expect a wedding invite as I know she and her DP have large families and that their venue is expensive (so I thought it would be just family and close friends) so when I didn't hear anything I wasn't overly surprised. Until that is I found out all the 3 girls were invited to the wedding and the hen night.

Obviously it's up to her who she invites, etcetc, but I am a little miffed she didn't even invite me to the hen night (which is only drinks etc, so no limit on numbers!) She has always seemed to consider me good company, and in fact at work dos has made a point of being on my table, in my group and so on.

I do wonder whether age is a factor, Bride and the others are late 20s/early 30s, I am 40 (though of course look much younger!)

simplesusan Sat 16-Feb-13 18:45:29

YANBU.
No advice to offer just wanted to say how sad that she has left you out.

pigletmania Sat 16-Feb-13 18:53:23

YANBU at all, not sure what you can do about it though

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