To have told a woman she couldn't go ahead of me in a queue in Lidl?!

(60 Posts)
NoNoNooooo Tue 12-Feb-13 12:24:51

Today I was lining up to pay for my things with my son, who'd just woken up 5 mins earlier. He normally has a melt down when waking up outside the house so I wanted to get out of there quickly before he started.

As I was standing waiting, a woman came and stood next to me and started lingering towards the till, attempting to cut infront. I'd been standing there about 5 mins or more and there were only two tills open today which were both busy.

I pushed my pushchair ahead and began putting my things on the belt when she tapped me on the shoulder and said "do you mind if I go ahead of you?"
I replied (thanks to MN) "No". I don't know how she misunderstood but she replied "thank you" and was about to put her things down when I said "No, I have a baby and he will start crying any minute now".

She looked at me shocked like no one has ever said "no" to her before, and my face went red and I just turned my face the other way in embarrassment. My baby didnt end up crying, but was I wrong to not let her go ahead? She had two big packets of popcorn and something else in her hand I think. I had a basketful of fruit and milk, that's all.

alemci Tue 12-Feb-13 17:09:03

No Blizzard, I don't think you were wrong. it could be a bit like driving when you let one person out and then some others behind think you will let them out too.

queuing is what this nation is good at. Patience isn't such a bad quality.

Catchingmockingbirds Tue 12-Feb-13 15:44:33

grin your OP really made me giggle with your mixup. Even if you did get it right and tell her first that you did mind then you still wouldn't have been unreasonable. Taking a child with autism shopping can be a nightmare, I'd do anything to avoid a meltdown too!

treaclesoda Tue 12-Feb-13 15:17:30

I'm impressed that Lidl had two tills open. There are about four or five tills in my local Lidl but I've only ever seen them open one of them. I think the others are dummy tills...

Blizzardofbuzzards Tue 12-Feb-13 15:09:50

Don't worry OP, the etiquette of supermarket queues is not written down anywhere. I'd never ask someone if I could go in front of them.

When I'm in Lidl I often have a full trolley so will let someone behind me with only a few items go ahead.

However, what are you supposed to do when there are three or four (or more) people behind with a few items each? Recently I was in this situation and thought if I let them all through I'd be there for ages and I was in a hurry so I just carried on putting things on the belt.

A few of the people looked very put out and I think they thought I should let them go ahead of me. Was I wrong? In a way they could have been standing behind a lot of people with a few items each so they would be waiting just as long as waiting behind me then wouldn't they?

montage Tue 12-Feb-13 14:53:13

"Yes" is a complete sentence too, OP wink

I think the relevance of the popcorn is just the OP listing the woman's items vs her own - i.e. there wasn't a major discrepancy between her amount of shopping and the OP's.

NoNoNooooo Tue 12-Feb-13 14:49:32

aldiwhore, unfortunately I'm not Miranda. I wish I was though, it would be "such fun!"

MrsMelons Tue 12-Feb-13 14:39:34

I am surprised that people would actually ask to go in front of someone at the check out. If you haven't got time to do your shopping go later!

The misunderstanding is quite funny - she may have just been confused rather than annoyed though.

I may offer for someone to go in front if I had loads and they didn't but often if you have had to do a big family shop and sometimes with DCs in tow you want to get through that check as quickly as possible so I would definitely say no if anyone asked!

aldiwhore Tue 12-Feb-13 14:30:22

You weird grumpy cow NoNoNoooooo grin

Too funny. Are you Miranda?

I do the same sort of thing regularly. PLEASE though, if you bump into her again, say something - she'll think you're just plain weird then rather than grumpy!

NoNoNooooo Tue 12-Feb-13 14:24:58

Thanks for all the nice replies. I feel so embarrassed now! Lets hope I never bump into her again, she must have thought I was a right weird, grumpy cow!

Pipachi Tue 12-Feb-13 13:54:26

Don´t dwell on it NoNo. smile. You only had some fruit and milk - plus: you had your baby with you. It was actually a bit cheeky of her to ask.

alemci Tue 12-Feb-13 13:46:01

pickled in a pear smile

very sensible. can just picture it. do you think he had left his dentures at home.

FellatioNels0n Tue 12-Feb-13 13:38:16

I live in the middle east and people do this ALL the time. Drives me nuts. To be fair the supermarkets are terrible at opening tills for 10 items or fewer, so most people will offer if they have tons and someone behind them only has a little bit. But some people are incredibly rude and pushy and expect to go ahead even if they have the same or more shopping than you, and loads of people don't even ask - they just squeeze themselves in, waving money under the cashiers nose, or they waltz up to the head of the queue, bold as brass. I see it every day. shock

At least in supermarkets there is a queue, albeit a slightly disorganised one. Trying to queue up in any kind of an outdoor market or at a bar or a counter with no obvious line is enough to make you have Shop Rage. People are so unbelievably rude and will just jostle and barge and totally ignore the fact that you are halfway through a transaction, and will just start talking to the shop assistant as if you are not there. confused The old people are the worst.

PickledInAPearTree Tue 12-Feb-13 13:30:14

Someone asked me this once in Spar.

They had no teeth mad scarey eyes and looked pissed and really violent, I said of course not you go ahead, sir.

FellatioNels0n Tue 12-Feb-13 13:30:07

hahaha, poor old NoNoNooo grin I can see how the mistunderstanding happened, but she was still being unreasonable if you only had a small basket of stuff. Understandable if you had a great trolley load, but you didn't have much more than her.

that is the obvious flaw in 'No is a complete sentence.' grin

GetOrf Tue 12-Feb-13 13:28:18

Bless you OP grin

Scholes34 Tue 12-Feb-13 13:25:29

I don't see the relevance of her "two big bags of popcorn" against your "fruit and milk". It's almost implying her shopping wasn't worthy.

Cantbelieveitsnotbutter Tue 12-Feb-13 13:12:52

This winds me up, I'll often offer if they have a few items and I have lots. But they should wait to be asked not just push in front basically telling you.
Like pulling out of junctions, don't assume I'll let you go that's just rude. But I will let you go if your waiting patiently!!

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Tue 12-Feb-13 13:09:17

Never mind. I'm sure on the Karma scale far, far worse things will be done today, I reckon you might have to wait a while for that bite on the bum (and even if it did, it would be more like a tickle than a bite).

zippey Tue 12-Feb-13 13:08:06

To be honest, if someone was polite and they asked if they could go in front, I would have let them. I know you had a baby, but its not the end of the world if baby starts crying. Its the little things we do, being neighborly and all that make the world a nicer place to live in.

TomArchersSausage Tue 12-Feb-13 13:07:28

Lol this is very funny thoughgrin. Like one a Two Ronnies sketch.

YeahBuddy Tue 12-Feb-13 13:02:49

I hate that too alemci! Also hate it when people stand over you when paying - get out of my personal space and wait your bloody turn!!

Never mind OP, just look out for a thread about you later gringrin

seaofyou Tue 12-Feb-13 12:55:25

Bourbon sounds like the man in Vicar of Dib grin

AnnIonicIsoTronic Tue 12-Feb-13 12:55:07

Signpost it:

"sorry -no"
"no - of course not"

Misunderstanding eliminated.

AlienReflux Tue 12-Feb-13 12:53:47

I asked a woman yesterday if she would mind, we reached the check out at exactly the same time, she had a trolley, and I had a four pack! (she didn't mind , so said no!!) grin

BourbonsandTea Tue 12-Feb-13 12:52:39

hahaha oh dear! Don't dwell on it.. but I do think you should Namechange to NoNoNoooooIMeanYes

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