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i am likewise ,thou my partner knows to avoid me completely ,but then no kids at home so...

Wow - what a lot of replies...
DH is grumpy 10% of mornings...
But responding to people who have 'chipper' husbands...
my Dad used to sing at me top volume when I was growing up through to my late teens 'TIME TO GET UPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP... DO dodo DO dodo TIME TO GET UP'
I have to be honest... it made me want to stab him in the face.
So maybe grumpy IS better?! o.O

Saying I'm not a morning person isn't an excuse for grumpy behaviour. It's recognising that I'm better at certain times of the day than others. We're all different thank god.

^ ^ thats. I do eventually function I just dont need cheery chat first thing in the morning

Yes of course I fully function at work - by the time I get there I've been up for 2.5 hrs at least so I'm well and truely awake. My DP is not a evening person - expecting him to have an indepth discussion on any subject is a waste of time after 9.30-10pm so I don't try.

Saying I'm not a morning person isn't an excuse for grumpy behaviour. It's recognising that I'm better at certain times of the day than others. We're all different thank god.

I am not a morning person at all, I really struggle to get up and get going, but I dont use it as a reason to be vile to anyone. Most people dont!

Dh and I have eventually settled on a system that works well for us. He's a night owl and I'm a lark, which equates to he is a grumpy bastard in the morning but stays up late, and I'm great in the mornings but frazzled in the evening. We weren't always like this, both used to be more evening people but since having ds I've adjusted really easily and actually prefer life this way.

I do all the morning stuff with ds - get up, leave dh in bed (he works from home so this works), get dressed and sort ds. Dh does bedtime and bath and generally takes over from 7pm onwards while I chill out or have a nice early night. Works brilliantly as we are both sorting ds while at our best, and neither of us feel we are pushing ourselves at bad times, iyswim. Ds gets chilled, happy parents at all times of the day

This has changed a bit as I'm pregnant again with hyperemesis so can't function in the mornings at all, so now I'm going to bed with ds as I'm a bit better in the evening and he is doing all the mornings. We're both struggling but know it's temporary and will go back to normal once I'm better (soon I hope!).

Yanbu for being annoyed but ime it's really hard to do anything about a person who's really bad in the mornings, apart from make coffee and leave them alone

Well said quesadilla. Mornings don't bother me, it's in the evenings that I've usually had enough. However, I still manage to be polite and pleasant to my family.

I bet the majority of these non-morning people still manage to function at work where they wouldn't get away with that type of thing.

I never shout at anybody I quietly grunt and pretend to poke DH in the eye but i realy cant be chipper first thing takes me ages to come round . Op tell your dh to not talk to you if he is going to be so grumpy

I'm not a morning person but have to pretend to be human nice for my dc.

When I have messed up and been a ranty cow-bag, I've been sad all day about ruining their morning. Even more so if they've had to go to school.

I would get up earlier if I was being nasty to DCs/dh so as to give myself enough time to wake up tbh I would be furious if dh was an arse every morning and just expected me to tip-toe around him!

I'm not a morning person either, someone's got to be though!

Indeed, quesadilla

I'm sorry I just don't get this "not a morning person" shit... It's such a poor excuse. Almost no one feels in top of the world at 5.45 on a freezing cold morning, faced with a long commute to a job they are indifferent about. Why is it that about half the population get this get out of jail card to be an obnoxious twat to their family? (my DH is a bit prone to this). I really am zero tolerance with this. Have a bit of self respect and stop being a child if you use this as an excuse to be rude to people based on something as arbitrary as the time of day...
FFS

Are you having an affair with my husband? If so you can keep him.

Yanbu

my dp is a fucker in the mornings too. Sometimes it upsets me, usually i just ignore it.

Another grumpy morning person here. Dh is all chat, chat and chat and it drives me mad. Sometimes I ask him to go to another room and leave me alone. On other occasions, I just have to look at him and he stops talking and slinks off.
I need fresh air and music to get over my morning grumpiness. Ds seems to be the same so we put the radio on and dance round the room to wake up.
You're either a morning person or you're not, so maybe cut your grumpy dh a bit of slack.

Dh and I don't speak to each other at all in the mornings - works very well

I am the grumpy one in the mornings. We are both grumpy around 6.30 in the evening. I am trying to bathe the kids and get them sorted for bed and he rings up on the way from home, adrenaline pumping from his day at work and starts firing questions about what post we have received, did this thing happen, did I do this that or the other, all the time kids are jumping all over me trying to get my attention. Sometimes I just don't answer the phone and say sorry they were in the bath. lol.

You are right MrsKeithRichards it IS unacceptable. BUT there is compromise I think. I will never not be grumpy in the mornings, DH will always pick the most obstructive place to stand and scratch his head. I have developed a warning grunt, and he slightly moves when he sees me stomping through, it's better than it was!

Dh is a grumpy shit in the morning, it puts me in a bad mood which is unacceptable. He's reigning it in a bit now. It was never an issue as he just got up and went out but working patterns have change and we're all about at the same time.

I am quiet and withdrawn in the mornings. DH knows not to try and engage me. If he did though, he would get a couple of grunts, not a harpy deliberately picking arguments in front of the kids

Your H sounds simply rude.

I hate it when he wanders about chirping like a budgie when im trying to do stuff in the morning he stands int he way b lethering on

I dont speak to DP in the mornings because hes a total wanker before 10am. He turns into a child. All moan moan moan.

The rest of the time hes lovely though.

I've been a cow since I woke up... I feel bad enough every day at about 11am and the coffee's kicked in. DH let's me get on with it, he doesn't get in a mood with me, he knows my own guilt at being a bitch is punishment enough.

I'm grumpy as hell in the morning. DH isn't chipper (thank goodness, I might actually stab him if he was) but he doesn't tend to lurk in doorways (!) or wherever I need to stomp next.

I'm the same as DPotter. Fortunately, Mr Euro is not a morning person either, so we largely stay out of one another's way until heads have cleared. It's one of the reasons I marrid him.

um doesn't even begin to resemble a human until her 2nd coffee!
Tis all true, so tell him not to engage with anybody until he can do so without being a git!

you have a wise child