I don't know what to think - aibu?

(32 Posts)
takingcharge13 Sun 10-Feb-13 20:33:24

I have namechanged, I can't stop thinking about this.

I have no children. I was at a friend's yesterday and some other friends joined us for lunch with their DS who is about 8 and their DD who I think is about 6. There was a salad, cold meats, buffet style and the father of the children gave each of the children a lot of food and the DD wasn't eating a lot of it, especially the salad. After a bit of getting upset from the DD, the father hoved her head back and forced a bit of tomato in her mouth. She was understandably very distressed and then vomited sad

Neither the mother or the father seemed worried, they just kept saying things like "she won't eat a thing, really fussy eater, oh she eats chocolate all right." The DD's brother kept laughing at her and kept parroting his parents, saying "She doesn't eat red or green stuff" and calling her the Michelin man and other derogatory comments. The DD wasn't fat, not a skinny kid but not a fat one either.

This isn't normal family behaviour, or is it?

Borntobeamum Mon 11-Feb-13 07:38:57

Did you not say anything?!
Surely you know that that sort of behaviour is damaging?
I'd have ripped into the parents big time if only to let the little girl know someone cared.

extracrunchy Mon 11-Feb-13 09:04:44

The scary thing is it's probably more extreme when they're in private. I think you need to mention it to a health visitor or similar.

MortifiedAdams Mon 11-Feb-13 09:07:15

You need to speak to someone in child protection.

If they are likr this in public I shudder to think what goes on behind closed doors.

Hullygully Mon 11-Feb-13 09:13:15

vile

MusicalEndorphins Mon 11-Feb-13 13:52:21

That's cruel and horrible treatment. sad
I remember as a child, attending a birthday party sleepover for a school friend who, turned 10 or 11. There were about 6 of us sleeping over. In the morning her mother made everyone scrambled eggs, and the birthday girl apparently hated eggs. Her mother pinched her dd's nose shut and held the fork of eggs in front of her mouth until she had to open her mouth to breath and shoved them in. it was really embarrassing to watch. I felt so dismayed and sorry for my friend.

MusicalEndorphins Mon 11-Feb-13 13:54:26

magimedi I also wondered about what they do in private.

AnyFucker Mon 11-Feb-13 13:56:16

That is child abuse. Please take some professional advice on this matter.

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