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To Think Redundancy

(51 Posts)
lazybastard Fri 08-Feb-13 06:49:03

Is hard enough to deal with without people thinking it gives them the right to treat you like dirt? Worse still think they can treat your children like dirt.

HollyBerryBush Sat 09-Feb-13 07:42:24

redundancy is terrible, even when you know its coming, have prepared for it and even actively sought it under a voluntary scheme. If you are used to getting up everyday and life having a purpose it's a shock to the system, akin to aberevement really in some ways. You have all that 'what do I do now' to deal with plus, as I said, even if you taken a voluntary package, that niggling thought is in the back of your mind that you aren't as indispensable as you thought you were.

nefertarii Sat 09-Feb-13 07:41:32

Your op also implies a few people blocked you and another mum won't let her child play with yours. is it a group of people or just these 2.

nefertarii Sat 09-Feb-13 07:39:09

Sorry op I agree with those saying its something elsem you may not even know it happenedm

Did you actually hear her what she said about free school meal?

financialwizard Sat 09-Feb-13 06:06:13

I was made redundant 5 times in 5 years at one point. It was a nightmare because at the time I was a single parent with a mortgage, etc. every time I managed to pick myself up and dust myself off and got another job within a couple of weeks. It was bloody hard work, but needs must.

ThePinkOcelot Fri 08-Feb-13 21:07:06

OMG, that is shocking! I was made redundant in 2010 and can honestly say I did not come across anyone like that at all. Luckily I was only unemployed and signed on for a month, so not out of a job for long although my new job is less money than I was on before.
Good luck on the job front! xx

MarinaTheMarvellous Fri 08-Feb-13 21:03:26

A charming friend of mine when telling us about her DH having been made redundant commented 'well it just goes to show it can happen to anyone' . . .this to me and another friend, both of us having had experience of DH being made redundant which she knew. In her mind though it was only when it happened to her that it was noone's fault!

PurpleStorm Fri 08-Feb-13 20:21:57

It's pretty horrible for people to be treating you badly because you've been made redundant.

Not normal behaviour at all, in my experience. I've been through redundancies, and I've never come across this sort of attitude. Although round where I live, it's not at all unusual to hear of redundancies, so I guess most people I'll meet are used to the idea that it can happen to anyone.

It might be difficult, but just do your best to ignore these people.

annielouisa Fri 08-Feb-13 19:45:35

I was made redundant in 2011 and my DH had been mede redundant twice before and driving for an agency on and off (more on than off). I was devastated but I picked myself and applied everywhere I could think. I had a long notice period and found a job a couple of weeks before the notice period ended. It was a temporary contract but kept being extended and then a service restructure, a couple of months back I applied for and got a job in the restructure so I am now a full time member of staff.

Life can be difficult but if you carry a negative cloud around with you whatever you will be tainted. Try and think of all the positives in your life focus on retraining because what ifs will always drag you down

ClippedPhoenix Fri 08-Feb-13 19:17:52

I was made redundant and the end of the year and it's a bloody horrid feeling. If these people are doing what you say then block and delete them. Good riddance to bad rubbish I say.

SolomanDaisy Fri 08-Feb-13 19:13:39

I very much doubt it's about your redundancy, which was quite a while ago if you're the name change poster I think. If your attitude in real life is anything like your posters, I suspect you're not very cheery to be around. You seem quite fixated on the redundancy, have you had any counselling?

CloudsAndTrees Fri 08-Feb-13 18:55:50

Are these two people friends with each other? I'm just wondering if there was some kind of problem between your dc and one of their dc and maybe that's why they are being weird.

allgoingtoshitnow Fri 08-Feb-13 18:53:57

If your posts lately are anything to go by, then its not your redundancy thats causing these issues, its the way it has impacted you and your general demeanor.

Or in other words, cheer the fuck up.

lottiegarbanzo Fri 08-Feb-13 17:59:07

Well, if they're vile, they're vile, probably about all sorts of nonsense and to all sorts of people and now you know, you've saved yourself ever wasting time on them again.

Booyhoo Fri 08-Feb-13 17:38:26

i'm with you FN.

lazybastard Fri 08-Feb-13 17:38:21

Don't believe me then, some people are vile.

What exactly do you think I'm in denial about. I've never deliberately upset someone in my life. I may have said the wrong thing at times in the past but I have been going through every conversation in my head to try and work out if I've said something offensive accidentally. I honestly can't think of anything.

Booyhoo Fri 08-Feb-13 17:36:01

is this for real? where do you live OP that people act like this? it doesn't sound normal.

SoWhatIfImWorkingClass Fri 08-Feb-13 17:33:02

"Free school meal brats"

What a charming woman she sounds.

FellatioNels0n Fri 08-Feb-13 17:29:50

I find it really hard to believe that someone would say to their child 'don't play with the free school meals brat' just because you have both been made redundant. I am sure your situation is shit and you are at a low ebb, but I think your perspective has become clouded and you are either imagining it, or there is another reason for people ostracising you that you are either not aware of, or are in denial about.

lazybastard Fri 08-Feb-13 17:23:22

Sorry I've taken so long to reply, not stopped all day.

It's 2 people who are being nasty. Only link between them that I'm aware of is the DC's school. The one who's blanking me I went through school with. So angry with myself for not realising before now how nasty she is.

My redundancy I was the 35th of 54 to go. DH's redundancy his company restructured and several departments were closed down.

Definitely job hunting but so far I've only found a part time job but trying to turn it into an opportunity and have applied to retrain.

FlorriesDragons Fri 08-Feb-13 17:09:54

This sounds like a post which could have been written thirty or forty years ago (minus the Facebook/Mumsnet bit grin).

The attitudes about benefits which this government seem to be fostering is shocking to me. Especially when they have cut a lot of jobs and made a lot of people redundant themselves.

PatriciaHolm Fri 08-Feb-13 17:04:04

First post, no return. How very odd...

Glittertwins Fri 08-Feb-13 16:58:19

I got hauled into the meeting room at 4pm on a Friday afternoon, no notice whatsoever and out the door supervised 30 mins later. I wasn't the first out and the rest of them were wondering what was going off as people were slowly picked out. What they did to us was not legal either.

FunnysInLaJardin Fri 08-Feb-13 16:46:08

lol at the last two posts. Fell I am with you on that one. I did manage to decipher it, and if it were me I would be very very proud to have such a fine fellow

FellatioNels0n Fri 08-Feb-13 16:40:38

What? confused

andubelievedthat Fri 08-Feb-13 16:38:14

Oh no they cannot treat u like dirt ,to achieve that you have to let them.couple accross st, fella lost ?his job/position/whatever ,as was revealed! his partner would not let him tell anyone till he got a new "position "ffs, my fella ,? if he lasted till lunchbreak it was a result ! a week? hell,we partied !

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