To not want to bloody try it?!

(70 Posts)

My nan makes a vat of soup every week for her and my grandad. She is trying to convince me that I should have a bowl for lunch.
I do not like a single ingredient of the soup. I am old enough to know when I do not like the taste of something.
Apparently I'm being childish because I do not want any fucking soup.

Why oh why must usually sensible adults, when confronted by another sensible adult who doesn't like something, feel the need to persuade them that they do not know their own mouth?!

YANBU! You are old enough to know that, if you don't like any of the ingredients, you are not going to enjoy the combination. My mum does this to people, and it feels like she thinks of you as a silly child who has no idea about anything. Grrr!

NellysKnickers Wed 06-Feb-13 12:18:22

Just try some, poor old Nan grin

valiumredhead Wed 06-Feb-13 12:19:58

YABU and childish to not even try it.

chocoluvva Wed 06-Feb-13 12:20:10

It won't hurt you to try some. You never know, it might be nice and if it isn't. well. you'll have treid it once and won't need to again.

MarilynValentine Wed 06-Feb-13 12:20:51

Pretend to take a little sip with a cheery, resolute expression on your face.

Then, pretend to violently retch and run to their loo. Spend upwards of five minutes retching and groaning.

Then pop out and brightly say, told you! grin

chocoluvva Wed 06-Feb-13 12:20:53

Oooh - sorry for the typos blush

SweetSeraphim Wed 06-Feb-13 12:21:11

It's not childish to not try it! She doesn't like it... one of the advantages of being an adult!

I would try it however, but then I am a bit of a pleaser.

valiumredhead Wed 06-Feb-13 12:22:16

If she hasn't tried it how on earth would she know she doesn't like it?

JohnBender88 Wed 06-Feb-13 12:22:29

It must be a grandparent thing. My Granda wouldn't stop offering my cousin an almond cake even though she has a nut allergy.

My Grandmother sat at her own kitchen table, and ate a fruit salad that she utterly despises because her mother told her to.

She was 73 at the time and my great GM was 90!

YANBU to say no!

SweetSeraphim Wed 06-Feb-13 12:23:34

Ok - I don't like fish. And I don't like soup. So if someone made me fish soup, I would KNOW I wasn't going to like it.

Boomerwang Wed 06-Feb-13 12:24:15

My mum was like this. I do not like bolognese. Never have, never will. Yet every single time she'd make it she expected me to eat it. Of course, I didn't, and she thought I was just being childish. This lasted til about the age of 24.

Also, every time I ate mussels I'd puke them right back up and then fall into a deep sleep for hours. This happened about three times before I figured out that maybe I'm allergic to them or intolerant in some way. Each time mussels were on the menu my mother would say that now that I was older, I wouldn't be sick, as it was just a child thing. Each time I got suckered in and puked my guts up. My mum said 'oh well maybe you had a bad one'

MaxPepsi Wed 06-Feb-13 12:24:25

How do you know you don't like it unless you actually try it?

Ingredients taste differently in soup and when mixed with other things.

Celery? I hate the stuff, but give it to me in soup and it's delicious!

valiumredhead Wed 06-Feb-13 12:27:06

Exactly Max

LimburgseVlaai Wed 06-Feb-13 12:27:35

YANBU. I hate it when people say to me "Oh but you MUST try this" or "You MUST see that". No I don't! I'm not a child, I know what I do and don't like, and no I don't want to try it. What are you supposed to do - try a spoonful and then say "No I don't like it"? She will be even more offended then.

My in-laws are like that with alcohol: "Are you sure you don't want a G&T? No? A sherry? No? Oh go on! Just have a slurp!" (usually said before noon or before a car journey)

Viviennemary Wed 06-Feb-13 12:28:33

Just try some. You might even like it. If you don't well at least you tried. But I draw the line at fish soup. I know I wouldn't like it. so maybe you've got a point!

I hate the "how do you know unless you try" saying.

It doesnt matter whether she would taste it and love it or not. She is an adult. If she doesnt want it she doesnt want it.

Taffeta Wed 06-Feb-13 12:29:33

Try it. Tell her you're sure it's great but it's to for you. Then she will stop nagging you and you'll stop being irritated.

Dig your heels in and keep refusing and you'll keep being annoyed.

Taffeta Wed 06-Feb-13 12:29:41

It's not for you

CinnabarRed Wed 06-Feb-13 12:32:47

Anyone else desperate to know what soup it is? I can't imagine a soup where I hated every single ingredient! grin

YANBU, BTW.

Maryz Wed 06-Feb-13 12:33:29

My dd's favourite saying when she was little was "I don't like it, what is it?"

Just taste the bloody stuff. Then you can tell them with honesty that you have tasted it and don't like it. Full stop.

fluffyraggies Wed 06-Feb-13 12:33:57

I nag my kids to try something once and i won't ask again. Until they are 12/13 that is. The idea is that you teach kids that it doesn't hurt to try. Plus it's helpful if you're cooking for a family that they all have an accepting pallet and wont just eat chicken nuggets till they're 10, like my nephew.

Once your an adult however, you don't have to try anything to please anyone. 'Specially if you're darn sure you wont like it.

BubaMarra Wed 06-Feb-13 12:34:15

YNBU.
Oh, it's not only a grandparent thing! I get that all the time and it's not like I am a picky eater. It usually gets worse if I'm on a diet. Come on take some cake, it won't hurt your diet! As I know how annoying that is, I am really trying to be nice to other people wrt to food. I offer, but don't push and really don't expect people to explain themselves if they refuse.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Wed 06-Feb-13 12:37:01

I'm going to break the trend and say YABU, unless it's so bad you can't eat it without gagging then just eat it.

You eat something you don't particularly like, but it makes your nan and grandad happy.

Is it so bad to put yourself out a bit to make someone else happy?

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