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to wish the packs of tweens at the cinema would sit the eff down and shut the eff up?

(29 Posts)
WorriedMummy73 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:03:35

I've just been to the cinema with dc and spent an alarming amount of money on tickets, 3D glasses, snacks and drinks. We usually go to the Saturday morning special (£1.00 each) and take our own food and drink so there's no need for a second mortgage. Saturday morning films are packed with families and there is a fair amount of noise from toddlers and babies - I don't have an issue with this at all.

Today, though, we had a bunch of 5 or 6 tweens (11 or 12 years old?) who spent the entire film running (and yes, they were running) up and down the stairs to and from the toilets and making a horrendous amount of noise at the back. Our local cinema is in a fairly affluent area and located in a shopping centre. These kids are everywhere, with money coming out of their ears and they just wander around being obnoxious to everyone who crosses their path.

AIBU to wish their parents wouldn't just hand them stupid amounts of cash every weekend and wish them on their merry way and actually spend some time with them teaching them some manners and how to behave in public?

carabos Sat 02-Feb-13 23:12:31

Ha lynette it was Flight, starring the very excellent Denzel Washington and John Goodman. Not a great movie, admittedly, but the plane crash at the beginning was amply scary.

BandersnatchCummerbund Sat 02-Feb-13 22:59:06

YANBU. Cinema tickets are so expensive now that it absolutely gives me The Rage when people mess about and do distracting things, when I've paid what for me is a small fortune to go and see a film I want to watch. I blame decreasing attention spans. What makes it even worse is that it's starting to spill over into the theatre - can people not wait until the interval to stuff their gobs with fecking crackly bags of sweets, fgs? It's simple: turn your phone off, put your food away (unless non-rustly, non-smelly, in cinema), shut your mouth and bloody watch what you've paid to see or at least don't stop other people watching. If you want to talk/rustle/text, stay at home with your TV. Rant, rant, grrrrrr.

LynetteScavo Sat 02-Feb-13 22:46:23

carabos, you need to tell us what film it was. Because it sounds like we'd rather have sex/phone a friend than watch it.

Glossynotflossy Sat 02-Feb-13 20:08:07

You are so not being unreasonable. Twice i have complained at the end of a film only to be told by the management that there is nothing they can basucally do and on one occasion said that i should have repeatedly complained.

When me and friend pointed out that the kids who spoilt a film for us a while nack (i wrote a aibu ) should probably have not been in due to the rating we were told it was something to do with discretion.

No apology or good will gesture just basically a tough shit attitude.

carabos Sat 02-Feb-13 19:56:54

It's not just kids. DH and I went to the cinema last night. There was a chap in his 20s a couple of seats along from DH who spent the whole film texting and talking on his mobile, getting up and down as if he was alone in his own home instead of alone in the cinema. The couple behind me talked all the way through the film in normal talking voices about anything and everything except the film. The couple in front appeared to be having sex.

As far as we could tell, the only people actually watching the film were us.

WorriedMummy73 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:54:18

Yes, sorry, that was pretty presumptuous of me Doll. I get too easily wound up by the kids on the bus/at the cinema/shopping centre and then I make these sweeping statements. The majority of them are fine, but it's the minority that stick in my head!

DollOnAMusicBox1 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:52:07

These kids are entitled little monsters who have everything bought for them under the sun (they all have expensive phones/clothes/trainers, etc) but have never been taught any manners and therefore think they can behave how they want, where they want.

Do you know them all personally then?

It's just I could only make this assumption (especially about never being taught manners) on someone I actually knew.

Oodsigma Sat 02-Feb-13 19:49:32

The cinema dh works at has a member of staff on each screen and if there's potential for disruption they sit in and often next to the awkward people. For tween films such as Harry Potter & Twilight they had two staff on.
Our other local cinema has a member of staff in the screen when it's a tween film too despite running on v much skeleton staff.
Both are independant so that may be a factor?
Also much cheaper than the local chain ones!

fridayfreedom Sat 02-Feb-13 19:46:51

I once sat through a Harry Potter film with teenagers behind us12/13ish. One talked constantly, loads of people were dishing her and even her friends looked uncomfortable.
At the end I told her how she had spoiled the film and suggested that she learnt some manners before she went to the cinema again .... She looked very sheepish and I thought she was going to cry,...tough

BoneyBackJefferson Sat 02-Feb-13 19:45:24

its the reason why I don't go to the cinema and one of the reasons IMO why film piracy is so high.

WorriedMummy73 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:43:22

I already have 'the tone' - a 15 year old girl gave me some grief on the bus a couple of years back and I let it go for weeks until she pushed it and I shouted at her. I ended with 'tomorrow, bring your Mother and I'll have a grown-up conversation with her'. She hasn't met my eye since!

LynetteScavo Sat 02-Feb-13 19:38:44

It would make me cross too.

I would have told them in no uncertain terms to sit down and be quite or leave.

But then I have a teen, and have acquired "the tone". (I made a 7yo cry yesterday, just by asking "What are you doing?" using "the tone" yesterday)

WorriedMummy73 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:36:38

There's no way they could 'get me' - they are children and I would have no qualms about slapping them silly if they tried any shit with me and my kids. I quite often have to put the little s***s in their place (verbally) on the bus home from school due to their lacks of manners and courtesy towards the other passengers and picking on my kids if they think I'm not looking.

Tensixtysix Sat 02-Feb-13 19:32:31

Complain to the management by all means, but just watch out that they are not hanging around waiting outside to 'get you' Too many young people have a high opinion of themselves and won't hesitate to hurt others if they feel they have been 'dissed' Just complain in secret.

manicbmc Sat 02-Feb-13 19:32:27

When I got the obnoxious kids thrown out, I had to go out and complain 3 times before they did anything - but it was worth persisting.

WorriedMummy73 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:31:41

I will definitely be emailing head office about the situation. The staff turnover at that cinema is really high - mostly students I think, who burn out very quickly dealing with that crap every day!

WorraLiberty Sat 02-Feb-13 19:27:06

Ok well it's a bit late now I suppose but if it happens again, do complain again.

And if the staff don't do anything about it, complain to Head office about the staff.

YANBU to be annoyed at spending all that money to watch a film and yet you couldn't manage to do it.

WorriedMummy73 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:19:36

Worra, I've complained before and nothing has been done! As I've said, the Manager and staff are all very young themselves and won't do confrontation with the kids. I've even tried speaking to the kids myself and just get a load of verbal back. These kids are entitled little monsters who have everything bought for them under the sun (they all have expensive phones/clothes/trainers, etc) but have never been taught any manners and therefore think they can behave how they want, where they want.

MariusEarlobe Sat 02-Feb-13 19:18:14

This has happened to us, they told us they couldnt do anything because we did not complain during the film, we went when it ended.

WorraLiberty Sat 02-Feb-13 19:16:10

I got a group of about 12 kids thrown out of the cinema last year, for running up and down, shining their mobile phone torches around and climbing over the backs of the chairs.

A couple of staff members came and threw them out...then when I came out of the film, 2 of there parents were loudly complaining that the manager was racist and only threw them out because they were travellers??

Like anyone knew or cared.

WorraLiberty Sat 02-Feb-13 19:13:42

In that case YABU

There's no point bumping your gums on the internet if you weren't prepared to actually tell them there was a problem while it was happening.

They can't send a member of staff to sit in every single film showing.

WorriedMummy73 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:13:03

Worra - this is a common occurrence in the local area. Some of these kids are hanging around the shopping centre from morning til late evening. I've been there having a meal with DP and we've watched the same groups of girls going up and down the escalators over and over - about 12 years old! The parents just throw money at them each weekend and don't give a monkeys what they're doing - they'd be shocked if they saw the behaviour.

manicbmc Sat 02-Feb-13 19:11:15

I always complain to the staff if there's any of that going on once the film has started.

I expect a bit of horseplay and stupidity during the adverts.

I got 2 boys thrown out last year for throwing popcorn and generally being little shits.

WorriedMummy73 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:10:48

I am going to email the main office - pointless speaking to the Manager there. He's about 12 himself and reminds me of the spotty lad with the breaking voice in the Simpsons - utterly inefficient. It's reached the point now where me and DP will only go to a film together if the rating is at least a 15 because this happens all the time. Unsupervised children over 8 are allowed in at the Saturday morning cinema - who sends their child alone at that age? My eldest is 11, in Year 6, and some of her school friends are already beginning to behave like this and are given spending money and sent out the door every Saturday. She has asked if she can go and I've said I will not have her being a nuisance to other people. If it drives me mad, it must drive others mad and I won't have my DD being a part of that.

WorraLiberty Sat 02-Feb-13 19:08:48

I don't imagine the parents thought for a second their kids would ruin the film for other people.

I take it you complained straight away and the management sorted it out?

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